I was watching one of the many dating shows on MTV (the one where the person's parents are with you) and a chick turned down a guy just because he liked Star Trek and told him it was "nerdy." I'm like, that's a dumb reason, he could of been a great guy for that girl.
I know someone who is dating a girl who likes Star Trek and he doesn't think anything like that of her, so why are some people like this?
Trek is long-lasting franchise with many fans and is quite possibly one of the best things to watch on TV (of course, next to Smallville & Supernatural
) just because someone likes Star Trek is not a reason to turn them down on a date, unless they hate the show themselves, I say.
First, what are you doing watching any of those beyond ridiculous dating shows on MTV? I won't even be in the same room with my wife when MTV is on it's so offensive.
I really don't know why you're surprised, though. All of those shows have nothing but completely superficial, borderline retarded wanna-be starlets, anyway. I mean haven't you noticed on that show that all of the lines are scripted and these cocker spaniels are a step below pornstars when trying to act?
Now, on the other side of the glaringly obvious, I come from the perspective that I wasn't a Trek fan until I was 21 (eleven years ago). I liked the show and would occasionally sit in front of the TV and catch a complete episode but I was never a die-hard. I was into sports and girls. Let's be frank about this. Most young guys who are into Trek have been into Trek their whole lives because it's a form of escapism that they share with their other nerdy, outcast bretheren. I have no problem with that though because I was always one of those guys that was in the middle. I was friends with the popular kids and the less than popular kids. If people are good people, then they are good people. I dated a lot of girls and a girl was actually the reason I got into Star Trek. To make a long story short, no she wasn't a Trek fan but I wound up getting into Trek as an escape myself after having split up with her.
That being said, between 1997 and 1998 I was immersed in Trek and became a huge fan, but I was smart enough to keep it to myself until the time was right. Game show or not, you don't come out with, "I'm a big Star Trek fan," on the first date. Like it or not, Star Trek, despite the stigma being a nerd thing, it's a nerd thing that's also primarily a guy thing. So a good way to keep from getting laid (or even getting a second date) is to bring up your fandom to a young hottie. Even the most understanding and open-minded young women are going to be put off by scifi fandom brought up on the first date.
They don't understand it and that's OK because there a lot of things I don't understand and there a lot of things I don't need to know on a first date like a girl having a history of yeast infections or -- and for some reason, girls think that they need to tell me this on a first date-- their "date rape" experience when they were in college. My theory was, a girl would find out that I was a Trek fan when and only when she was back in my apartment, naked and saw all of the Trek memorabila on my walls and shelves (or I had gotten to know her really well, whichever came first
).
What I've noticed from scifi geeks and Trek geeks in particular (just watch either one of the Trekkies films) is a bit of arrogance from Trek fans in that they feel that everyone should just automatically accept scifi fandom and that it's a character flaw if they don't. Hell, my wife isn't a Star Trek fan whatsoever. She only tolerates Enterprise for 3 reasons 1.) Scott Bakula 2.) "The Blue People" (she finds them soothing) 3.) The theme song and the show put her to sleep. She has no idea what's going on. That doesn't make her any less of a good person.
What I don't think these uber-Trek fans understand is that they are as guilty of the same sort of discrimination that they've claimed to be victims of by the "popular" people their whole lives. Ugly people do this too. They hate good looking people and assume the worst about them and their character simply because they aren't ugly.
That being said, as a young guy, you're freakin' stupid to tell a girl that you're a Star Trek fan without either getting her naked or getting to know her first. All you're doing is asking for rejection and it would seem to me that if you're bringing up Star Trek to a girl who didn't bring it up first date, you must want to be alone.
Yeah, he could have been a great guy but he blew it and now she'll never know. Not for nothing, it's one thing to be a Trek fan and another to tell a chick on a first date. Everything you do on a first date is met with scrutiny and most women would say that if a guy is too dumb to keep that bit of information to himself, it's not a good harbinger. Why don't you just tell her that you're into Japanese porn while you're at it? These are the type of things that should come up after a high level of comfort has been established. A girl needs to know that you're a great guy before she finds out that you're a Trek fan.
Also, he could have been a complete jerk, too. You seem to assume that he was a great guy just because he was a Star Trek fan. Just read some of the posts on this board and you know that being a Trek fan doesn't automatically make someone a great guy.
I'm out.
-Shawn
