Why I Hate You!

[K'Ehleyr]

When I say "distracted", I didn't mean in that... oh, wow. Nice dress. Sorry, what were we talking about?

The colour of my eyes and your adorable accent...

And whatta woulda thatta be, my dearre frienda? Colorre of Parradise?

Quando penso a te i miei occhi sono il colore dell'amore

Ok I'll start a new thread...

 

[RandyS]

Does everyone go around secretly and silently (or not so silently) hating on the people around them all the time? Did I miss the memo?

Yes.

 

[thestrangequark]

Does everyone go around secretly and silently (or not so silently) hating on the people around them all the time? Did I miss the memo?

No. People don't bother me so much -- and certainly not kids. With the exception of the pervs who harass me on the streets day to day (along with every other young woman), I don't get annoyed or angry with people often, and I'm glad I don't have to go around in the constant state of irritation that people like the OP are cursed with.

Sure, every once in a while a very rude person will bother me -- or if I've had a particularly bad day, but overall, why worry about them?

I do think I have a lot more patience than most, though. I must, teaching kindergarten.

I do not go around in a constant state of irritation. I am one of the most laid-back people you could ever hope to meet. I just noticed due to a conversation in another thread that there are certain behavioral patterns that can cause exasperation. The main thing I noticed is that these "irritating" actions/activities are all traceable to one common point-a complete thoughtlessness regarding others. If you keep in mind that everybody else matters as much as you think you do the points brought up in this thread regarding inconsiderate behavior can be eliminated in day to day life. Like, I always find an out-of-the-way spot to park my cart at the grocery store if I have to walk away from it. I do this because I'm thinking of "the other guy's" viewpoint. If more people would do this less people would go around "irritated".

I guess the original post just sounded so angry. I agree that people ought to be more thoughtful in their behavior, and, as a teacher, consideration, empathy, thoughtfulness, and manners are strictly reinforced in my classroom. I guess I just can't see things like little kids staring at restaurants as something to even be mildly annoyed over -- it just seems so silly.

 

[Captain Ice]

I do not go around in a constant state of irritation. I am one of the most laid-back people you could ever hope to meet. I just noticed due to a conversation in another thread that there are certain behavioral patterns that can cause exasperation. The main thing I noticed is that these "irritating" actions/activities are all traceable to one common point-a complete thoughtlessness regarding others. If you keep in mind that everybody else matters as much as you think you do the points brought up in this thread regarding inconsiderate behavior can be eliminated in day to day life. Like, I always find an out-of-the-way spot to park my cart at the grocery store if I have to walk away from it. I do this because I'm thinking of "the other guy's" viewpoint. If more people would do this less people would go around "irritated".

Same here. I just wish that the majority of people would figure this out and make an effort to do it themselves.

What gets me though is that if you say anything to them (even "excuse me, but I was here first" when they barge in with their order while you're placing yours at the deli counter), you get branded as an ass.

 

[Jan]

What gets me though is that if you say anything to them (even "excuse me, but I was here first" when they barge in with their order while you're placing yours at the deli counter), you get branded as an ass.

Chances are, that brand would only come from the ass you have to address the issue with, though. The people around you will probably wish they could grow up to be you.

I actually got applauded in a store once for pointing out a woman's rudeness.

It was in one of those big, super-discount stores and there was one express (20 or fewer items) check-out open on one end of the store, self-check-outs in the center and a couple of full-service check-outs past that. A woman with a very full cart came to the express line I was in and loudly declared "I don't care, I'm not going all the way across the store to check out!" when somebody pointed out to her that it was an express lane. I was 3 people in front of her but I turned at the sound of that and asked her why, since she'd obviously been all over the story already, was it suddenly okay for her to not want to go where she should and be rude to other shoppers by holding up the line? She didn't answer, or go where she should, but I did get soft applause and a quiet "Thank you." from the cashier.

Jan

 

[Amaris]

I've a bit of a dual nature on something like this (surprise surprise). On one hand, I can dislike every single person in a room just by walking in and seeing them. On the other hand, I want to reach out to them and become friends, to like people. I want to like people, and I want to be liked. I used to think people were generally very good, and by now I've become a bit more jaded and cynical, which is sad, because I know it's there and I know deep down underneath I can change it. Over time I've just built up this wall and have stepped away from being warm and gregarious to one with a cool temperament and as more of a loner. "Life is what you make it" to "Life's a bunch of bullshit." I don't like that attitude, but I find myself agreeing with it more each day.

A good example would be to compare posts from when I first joined here to a recent post. It's daylight and dark!

J.

 

[think]

We were talking about children in public(like eaterys) and how they should behave. It crossed my mind that ADULTS can be and sometimes are far worse. When I go out to eat its usually a special occasion and I hate other people who negatively impact that experience. The person on the cell phone carrying on a loud conversation with no one I can see. I don't want to hear it-take it outside, asshole! The man(or woman) in the next booth who substitutes "Fuck" for any and all adjectives-you're a mental midget but there's no reason to share that with all of us around you! The guy(usually a guy) who insists on striking up a conversation with me despite the one-word replies I keep giving. I switch to grunting and you still talk at me. Are you so socially inept that you can't spot someone who just wants to be left alone? And let's not forget the jerk who lets the front door of the place close in my face as I'm reaching for it. He/she belongs in front of the same firing squad as the ignorant, self-centered prick who squeezes past me without so much as an "Excuse me," acting as if I'm either a piece of furniture not worth noticing or as if I'm somehow to blame because the hostess/waitress has paused me right "here" en route to being seated. I hate you all!

To really get the hate out Mistral you need to create "fake" conversations with your cell next to 'said' cell phone annoyance and start cursing out that person (whom does not exist on the other end of your cell) or at least explain where the cell dummy can hear you as well as you hear them that they are rude and inconsiderate ., to the non-person on the other end of the phone

is this talking to one self no because you know they can hear you ., heck go OFF on the Mofo that is not on the other end of your cell