There is a huge difference between sidekick and subordinate, the latter of which needs to show obedience to the Captain's direct orders, not deference. There is a difference. One can question someone's decisions and present these objections, even if they must be obeyed. Look at the Kirk-Spock-McCoy dynamic in TOS.
Yes, let's look at it. Kirk yells or gets angry at Spock and McCoy regularly. Do we think any less of the relationship? No.
A sidekick is there to boost the honor and glory of The Hero, while having very little development for themselves. That's really what happens to T'Pol in Season 2, where she's still as unsure of herself even after so much quality time with Uncle Jon.
Completely disagree. Heroes have people who support them and help them learn and grow, yes, but T'Pol has developed incredibly in the first two seasons. We find out about her past (Joslin and V'Lar), understand she's now friends with the humans and see her start coming into her own. She's been made captain a few times and rescues the captain (Communicator, Judgment). The fact that she provides advice that Archer disagrees with and then follows (Cogenitor) shows how important she is. In other words, she's very much like Spock to Kirk. She's a trusted advisor who's earned his respect. And Archer starts turning to her as his primary advisor - yet another note that he's learning and growing thanks to her.
I will say this, if you're using a formula of what makes a hero and sidekick, let's use Joseph Campbell. The hero is the one who learns and makes mistakes, with the help of those around him. T'Pol could be given a number of roles in the Campbell/Jungian way of looking at things -- mentor, goddess, temptress, etc. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monomyth
You're formula is well ... I've never heard of it. Do you have any information on how you came to the conclusions you did?
Apparently, I didn't clearly express myself in my first post and I apologize for that. I don't believe there is misogyny inherent in the relationship between Archer and his XO, but in how the writers went about it in Season 2. It just makes me very uncomfortable.
Disagree. I think it's weird that people have a problem with Archer making some Freudian slip to T'Pol - accidentally because it's almost as if people are looking to get angry about something. If we were to throw blame around the Enterprise, we could also say ....
* Trip took advantage of T'Pol when she was on drugs to have relations with her
* T'Pol put the ship and crew in danger in order to do drugs to have relations with Trip
* Reed sacrificed the people aboard Enterprise to sell out to Section 31
See? I may think characters make mistakes (and certainly Archer made one when he accidentally made a couple of Freudian slips), but he had no intention of harming T'Pol. And I believe it's rather absurd to believe the the main characters would be anything other than honorable. Archer by saving T'Pol multiple times, including her reputation, has certainly been more than just a captain. At least we can say they are great friends. She cares for him. He cares for her. And it's not a relationship that is based on abuse (drugs, physical or emotional).