The trouble is that you belie the very point you attempt to make, with a statement like that. To automatically equate conservatives with sexism and racism is the exact sort of broadbrushing you point to the extreme right and say you don't like.
Sexism, racism and other forms of intolerance are well-known attributes of Right Wing ideology and have been for a long time. Don't blame me.
And that's quite narrow of you to dismiss every conservative's view in that manner. There are extremists of whom that would be true, but what I see you doing is demonstrating intolerance towards those who disagree with your views and making unwarranted, stereotype-based assumptions. What that does is create a straw man you can beat up on instead of having to actually give consideration to the fact that another viewpoint may have something to it.
As a woman from a conservative family, I was never kept down or oppressed in any manner. I was never, ever raised in such a way to believe that all I was good for was to be "barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen," or that a marriage was supposed to be anything but equal. Or that I even have to marry to be a worthwhile person.
But I also do not believe in dropping accusations of sexism to get my way. That's the conservative in me: if I win, I want to win fair, because I was the most capable and qualified, not because I was somebody's diversity pick or because someone was afraid I might drag their reputation through the mud if they displease me. I may not make much, but what I make, I'm going to make by hard work and I intend to earn every dime I take home with that work, not by any other means.
Nor is bigotry part and parcel with the conservative ideology. Being of a right-wing ideology does not mean I want to dance around with a sheet on my head and burn crosses on people's lawn OR even that I must harbor some pernicious, subconscious desire to do so.
That you would make such an assumption I find quite offensive and, I must say, intolerant.
This, to me, is the difference between the extreme right and the extreme left. The extreme right, however repugnant its views, will make no bones about what they are (think Ann Coulter)--they will come right out and say whatever offensive thing is on their mind.
No, they make extensive use of rhetoric, doubletalk, newspeak and all other forms of dissembling.
I hate to break it to you, but that's a darned-near universal trait of politicians, not a left-right thing. Any politician that's not an extremist is going to use the doubletalk. But when you look at the extreme right--your Coulters and Falwells and Robertsons and Westboro Churches--you'll find their ugliness to be quite blatant and undisguised.
To have a little fun with this...here's the difference between the way people react to offensive statements from the left and from the right...
Let's say a conservative person walks in and drops a great big pile of poo in the middle of the table. The reaction is immediate: "That's crap and it stinks! Get it out of here!" That person is rightly castigated and made to atone for the mess.
Let's say a liberal person walks in and drops a great big pile of poo in the middle of the table. Somebody tries to criticize them. But the liberal person snaps back: "If you criticize this, than you're anti-manure and you want to destroy the environment!" And everybody gives a great big round of applause to the liberal and the person who objected suddenly becomes the bad guy.
The trouble is, both have been equally disrespectful and offensive, and one might say,
intolerant of others' olfactory nerves...but only one actually gets called on it, and in the second case, the person who spoke out against it is the one who gets in trouble!