What's the point...

[Colonel Green]

I suggest that you take up badminton, it always cheers me up. You meet so many interesting people!

In all seriousness, a physical activity with a social component would probably do you a world of good. I actually do play badminton at the local YMCA, it's a lot of fun.

 

[Timby]

I'll just re-post what I said the last time you started a "pity me" thread, Trekker:

Stop defining yourself by what you don't have, and start defining yourself by what you do have (a roof over your head, stable full-time employment, family, etc.).

If you're unhappy with your lot in life, do something about it. Get involved (you're still young enough to become part of your local Jaycees chapter), do community service, join a club, whatever. If your anti-depressant isn't working, ask your doctor to switch it. If your doctor won't, get a new one. You can't change anything unless you're proactive about doing so, just as I can't get myself another mug of coffee right now unless I actually get up and pour one.

You post a thread like this about once a year, it feels like. Quit feeling sorry for yourself. If you don't like your life, improve it. No one can do that but you.

 

[Kelthaz]

In all seriousness, a physical activity with a social component would probably do you a world of good. I actually do play badminton at the local YMCA, it's a lot of fun.

Yeah, that's probably the best idea for Trekker. It forces him out of the house, it's cheap, he can meet people, and get some exercise. I'll probably be doing the same thing when I finish school and enter the workforce.

 

[Lumi]

In all seriousness, a physical activity with a social component would probably do you a world of good. I actually do play badminton at the local YMCA, it's a lot of fun.

Yeah, that's probably the best idea for Trekker. It forces him out of the house, it's cheap, he can meet people, and get some exercise. I'll probably be doing the same thing when I finish school and enter the workforce.

Badminton is good. My boyfriend plays as well. Very healthy way to spend time.

This is very good advice!

 

[Kemaiku]

I'm already developing a larger social network through archery, it's not all that expensive and the concentration and body building can also be useful.

 

[Scout101]

Just a matter of DOING something about it all. Pick some activities, start there. Hell, I play volleyball (indoor and in the summer, beach), I'm in a bowling league, a dodgeball league, i used to play poker in a bar (weekly tourneys), whatever you want. All those things give you something to do, usually a workout, and you meet different groups of people in all of them. Meaning more social connections, invites to hang out or do something, potential to meet women while not actively TRYING to meet women, etc.

Complaining that nothing's getting better every four months, while not trying to improve anything, well, you see how effective that's been...

 

[Robert Maxwell]

Yes, for the love of God, do something! Like the other people said. Feeling sorry for yourself will never, ever accomplish anything. It's wasted effort. Stop it.

 

[ArcherFanForever]

Happiness is something you have to pursue. If you are unhappy standing still, you have to go forward. If you see no chance of happiness, then look for it.

yep! nice post!!

 

[Australis]

Take Dennis Leary's words to heart:

Happiness comes in small doses, folks. It's a cigarette butt, or a chocolate chip cookie or a five second orgasm. You come, you smoke the butt you eat the cookie you go to sleep wake up and go back to fucking work the next morning, THAT'S IT! End of fucking list!

Happiness is not an all day thing. The secret is to recognise when those moments come along, and drink them in deeply, and then keep moving forward.

 

[Balrog]

You don't like how something is in your life, change it. Do something, anything, that changes the outcome from whatever it continues to be.

Sounds easy, right? Guess what? It is.

But only you can make that happen. You can get all the suggestions in the world. None of it is worth a damn until it's put into action. By you. Period.

 

[ThankQ]

I think the greatest mistake some people make in their lives is thinking that if they just had a little more money, they'd be happy. Then they keep chasing after more and more money. If they don't get it, they're miserable. If they do get it, they wonder why they're still unhappy--and think maybe they didn't quite get enough, so it's time to set the bar a little higher.

In other words, learn to be happy with what you have, not unhappy because of what you don't have.

In other other words...

There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

 

[T'Bonz]

There IS no point. Much of life is repetition and sometimes things just suck (like my back at the moment).

What you NEED to do is to find something in life that is fun for you; that will give you purpose, or at least make it worthwhile to get out of the damned bed other than to go to school or to work or some other obligation.

I had to learn that with my health. I don't work outside of the house anymore, and my kids are raised/grown, so what is my purpose? Surely it ain't washing the dishes or dusting or cleaning a toilet, right?

Doesn't matter. I've found stuff to do that I enjoy, that make me forget that I'm useless at times, that I hurt or that I'm just down at times. Things that make me want to get out of bed in the morning.

Doesn't have to be anything major. My fun thing is genealogy, and of course, I love reading stuff - either online or in books.

That's not all that is good, but when I have shitty stuff happen, like having a slipped back disc, I can escape to fun stuff and at least for a bit, forget my woes.

So you need to do the same. Find something that you love - a hobby, an activity, in the house or out of the house that gives you joy. And pursue it. Doesn't have to be expensive, just has to be something that you'll anticipate when you'll engage in it.

And don't post your down posts online. There are a minority of people online who get their jollies out of making someone feel worse - and why give them fuel?

Plus - just don't give into gloom. FIGHT it, or it takes you over. If it's way too much, you may need professional help. If not, all you need is a distraction.

 

[ThankQ]

Golly gee whiz Trekker you hang in there, mkay? You're such a wonderful guy and it pains us all to see you like this - you so deserve a shot at happiness, and it just makes me so gosh darn angry that there's people or things out there that get in the way of your contentment in life.

Just know that I think you're a real super special guy and the world is so much richer for having you in it.

Don't ever change, we love you so much the way you are, geewillikers we do.

Hugs and kisses

Stop it.


Just... no. Wrong.

I need you to promise me right now that you'll never try to be a sweet, caring decent person ever again. It's just not you... plus it scares the animals. They can sense these things.

Promise?

 

[JarodRussell]

I'm already developing a larger social network through archery, it's not all that expensive and the concentration and body building can also be useful.

Please don't teach anything weapons related to a depressed person. Just sayin'.

 

[Kemaiku]

I'm already developing a larger social network through archery, it's not all that expensive and the concentration and body building can also be useful.

Please don't teach anything weapons related to a depressed person. Just sayin'.

Yeah I take back that suggestion. Go with the tennis.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

I don't know. If you could commit suicide by shooting a bow and arrow, that would be a pretty impressive achievement.

Not that I'm suggesting anyone try, mind you. I'm just saying, mazel tov for the uniqueness and skill of the method.


As far as the OP goes, Trekker I wish you luck, buddy, but I think you know what everyone else is saying is true, and that it's up to you to fix your problems.

 

[Gov Kodos]

A crossbow, sure, but a longbow or compound, that takes talent and commitment.

 

[Kemaiku]

I don't know. If you could commit suicide by shooting a bow and arrow, that would be a pretty impressive achievement.

It's more that a lack of concentration or so on could lead him to fire it randomly, possible 'at' someone, not a good idea.

 

[Pingfah]

You could fire it straight up in the air, then run around and try to be underneath it when it comes back down.

 

[Paradon]

We don't have much time either!

It's about finding the truth. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt! [laugh]