There was ZILCH wrong with Jellico, and to me this is why:
- It was a
crisis situation. The CO of Starfleet's most powerful vessel had been kidnapped by another race (who while not enemies at that time, certainly were a species that Starfleet had an eye on), and another Federation/Cardassian War could
readily have arisen. Jellico had no time to make friends, or not be "rude" or abrasive. Tough decisions had to be made, irrespective as to whether the crew liked it or not.
- The crew of
Starfleet's flagship should know better! Riker,Troi, Geordi, etc. were moaning like babies, when they were senior officers on the most noted/powerful of (most likely) the
thousands of Starfleet vessels in existence! They should have had the knowledge/experience to adapt and adjust to new command styles, especially given that Starfleet is a pseudo-military organisation. You follow orders, period. Your CO is not there to be your chum or pal.
All of the five captains in the series have held similar command styles. They enjoy to be friendly and non-abrasive with their crews, give recognition when due, be supportive and motivating, be hard on them when justified, and even hang out and socialise with them. The fact remains that command/management styles are as unique as commanders. Some are supportive COs, whilst others are not. In the real life workplace, one gets good bosses and one gets jerks as bosses. one is grateful for a good boss, and if one has a jerk boss, you just suck it up and take it.

