What are your turn-ons/turn-offs?

[auntiehill]

^That sounds like me and my husband. I get so tired of being the one making all the decisions. Every movie, every restaurant, every tv show. The worst part is the subtle, passive-aggressive crap that comes along with it. He refuses to pick a place to eat, but says he's starving. So I pick a restaurant and he just sighs and says, "That's fine---I guess."
"What? You don't want to go there?"
"It's fine."
"Where do YOU want to go?"
"I don't care."

Even hubby's best friend has made jokes about needing an extra half-hour when they go out, because he's going to ask him where he wants to eat.

I don't understand that at all. If someone specifically asks me what I want, I can tell them exactly what I want--what movie I want to see, what restaurants I like, etc. I don't understand how hubby's own likes or dislikes can be such a fucking mystery to him.

 

[Gryffindorian]

I often say to others, "It's up to you" or "That's fine with me," but not due to being indecisive. I do it out of habit, as I like to be flexible and am open to suggestions. However, I'm not afraid to speak up or make choices when prompted. "How about sushi for lunch?"

Being too rigid is about as bad as being wishy washy. I don't like it when someone constantly makes decisions for others but tends to be inflexible or closed-minded when I try to make a suggestion.

I always try to strike a balance between the two.

 

[Venardhi]

Domineering certainly isn't preferable. I like my love interests (and my friends at that) somewhere in the middle.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I admit I have a hard time being assertive in relationships. I'm always afraid I'll start a fight.

 

[CommanderRaytas]

^ Stating one's opinion is important, but being afraid of people's reactions is natural and perfectly fine. I'm loud and obnoxious, so I always have to tell my current boyfriend that it's okay if he's afraid of me throwing a tantrum when we don't agree.