I, on the other hand, would argue that ST09 did depict the emotional consequences of the destruction of Vulcan as well as it possibly could have within the conceits of a 2-hour action film. I don't think that it was something that was done as a cheap gimmick without dignity or consequence. It's fair enough to say that the ending shouldn't have been a "happy" ending -- but I'd argue that, to start with, the film is deliberately ambiguous about how much time has passed between the main plot and Kirk's taking command, and that, two, that's part of the idea in the film (expressed as subtext earlier in the Spock/Sarek scene) that one should not stop living just because the dead have -- life goes on and death, however horrific, should not be allowed to stop that.