I suspect I'm bringing my own history there as there have been a lot of history in my family of where family members have suffered great tragedies or struggles (sometimes substance abuse, sometimes accidents) then essentially other family members gave lengthy spiels that blamed THEM for not being more outgoing or reaching out. It made it about THEIR feelings not the victim's. Essentially, privacy and dealing with problems is something I consider to be very important to respect and waiting for people to do things on their own time. For me, I was taught that space is an all important thing to give people when they need it. Shastri reminded me essentially of a very strong family proverb that my parents reassured me of, "Love is about other people not yourself." The Arcturus plot is fantastic, though. I always love Starfleet issues where everyone is trying to do their best but there's deep disagreements about what that may be. The Arcturus people invoked a lot of real life controversies where well-meaning people try to lecture people about their own culture and often talk over them like they're children. Starfleet and the Protestors very often seem to have difficulty just asking what the students themseves want. It also gets handled from a variety of perspectives too and isn't limited to "reality" but incorporates the scifi elements well. I'm surprised Starfleet isn't working on more options to expand their lifespan among other corrections but I suppose that would fall under genetic engineering.