Honestly, I always felt that the destruction of Romulus was incidental to the story PIC S1 was telling. When PIC was initially announced, the buzz about the show implied that Picard's efforts with the evacuation, the aftermath of the supernova and Picard's guilt over his failure was going to be the focus of the show. That fascinated me. Instead the focus of the show was an asinine plot about Romulan zealots who hate AI, doom their own planet just to doom some second-rate Data clones from being slave labor, are chasing a girl who is Data's daughter but really isn't, an incestuous Romulan brother and sister, a planet full of androids with a conveniently placed nuSoong, a Starfleet that's become a bunch of assholes all thanks to one over-the-top infiltrator, and a robotic Cthulhu from the 8th dimension that pops up for about 5 minutes before it pops back out again. So I don't quite share your interpretation in that regard.