This is why I don't even bother asking women out anymore!

[Myasishchev]

Edgar Allen Poe calls me for a laugh.

Thank you, I'm glad somebody noticed. I go through all the hard work of setting up a witty comment and it gets ignored! So it's nice to see someone appreciated it.

I just noticed. I saw the joke you had made, and it was good.

Anyway, the appropriate response is, "So how about we just have sex?"

Well, it's what I would do. The important thing to remember is that human beings aren't people.

 

[Kommander]

Few people agree with me on this, but when asking someone out, getting turned down is a good thing. Without exception.

It is said that "the worst that can happen is they'll say 'no.'" I know from experience that isn't true. Women have laughed in my face, said things like "I'm insulted that you'd think I'd date a loser like you" and "that's my boyfriend over there. Leave me alone or I'll tell him to beat the shit out of you," and other things I don't care to mention; it's a long list. Still, it's a good thing.

If one turns down another's request for a date, it's really nothing personal. The prima facie reason is that we as humans can't choose who we're attracted to and who we're not attracted to. Beyond that, it takes more that mutual attraction for a relationship to work: compatible personalities and goals, similar interests, skill sets that complement each other... It's true that there are "plenty of fish in the sea," as it were, but compatibility is somewhat rare, and it's worth holding out for.

When someone turns down a date, it's usually because they realize that compatibility isn't there. While rejection hurts, and it may not seem like it at the time, they're actually doing you a favor. If they're not feeling it, but they say "yes" anyway, it will only cause bigger problems down the line.

Being turned down only means you're not what they're looking for. it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or that you're not good enough. Even if a girl actually thinks you're not good enough, or actually tells you you're not good enough, she's still doing you a favor. I mean, would you really want to date such a complete bitch?

I've had 2 dates in 13 years, neither of them lead to anything romantic. I had a hell of a time in Chicago last year, but aside from that, I am a 31 year old unattached male who has no prospects in any way with anyone about anything.

J, you're just starting to figure out who you truly are and what you want out of life. Things are about to become really good for you. I know this from personal experience. I can't promise you that you'll find your soulmate, or multiple soulmates if that's what you're looking for, but you're definitely in for one hell of a fun journey.

 

[smiki]

The important thing to remember is that human beings aren't people.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

Anal is the Grand Slam. At least in my book.

Unfortunately, no one can be told what a Grand Slam is... you have to experience it for yourself.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you took your partner to Denny's for breakfast the next morning.

 

[Darth Duck]

Anal is the Grand Slam. At least in my book.

Unfortunately, no one can be told what a Grand Slam is... you have to experience it for yourself.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you took your partner to Denny's for breakfast the next morning.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you get caught sneaking out at 4am by their roommate and end up sleeping with them too.

 

[sidious618]

Unfortunately, no one can be told what a Grand Slam is... you have to experience it for yourself.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you took your partner to Denny's for breakfast the next morning.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you get caught sneaking out at 4am by their roommate and end up sleeping with them too.

No, that's a doubleheader.

 

[Gaith]

And here and all I was thinking a Grand Slam would be more along the lines of particularly good boning with a beautiful, fit person you not only love but are totally in love with also, and with reciprocation, but okay...

 

[Thestral]

That's called winning the ballgame.

 

[Aldo]

Her- "I'm sorry I don't do lunch!" You-"Whew! Me neither!! You had me worried there for a moment! I can only afford coffee anyway!" (big smile from you)

See, I'm just not quick witted like that. My roommate had a similar nugget "You don't date? Good, lets just fuck instead." Or something like that.

Anyways, I asked the girl out, she said no, I'm over it. I did start this thread because I was bummed, but it's not the end of the world.

 

[spooky spice]

the blame needs to be place on her, and the spine-less detached attitude she presented

Right, so how many restraining orders have women taken out on you this week?

Just because you want to date/fuck a woman doesn't mean she has to date/fuck you.

 

[FPAlpha]

I just love women code and the million ways they can say "Hey.. i don't like the look of you and would never fuck you in a million years" but have the last shred of decency to not say it like that to your face but make up an excuse in the faint hope you won't take it personal

 

[Admiral Buzzkill]

This isn't exactly blowing up in your face. Don't be so dramatic.

Exactly.

You asked someone out. They declined, giving a reason.

That's normal. That's what happens to human beings. Sometimes the person says "yes" and sometimes the person says "no."

Aldo, You're complaining about having to live life and have common human experiences like everyone else instead of the world and people doing something special and treating you the way you'd prefer. What gives?

 

[iguana_tonante]

I'm not mad, it just irritates me that every time I make an attempt, it blows up in my face.

You seem to be missing the point on "asking" someone out.

What is wrong with you folks! What is this BS about- What?? Their is nothing wrong with him, the blame needs to be place on her, and the spine-less detached attitude she presented , that I have often seen represented by most American females of a certain age and maturity level.

The Shatinator

What. The fuck?

 

[{ Emilia }]

I just love women code and the million ways they can say "Hey.. i don't like the look of you and would never fuck you in a million years" but have the last shred of decency to not say it like that to your face but make up an excuse in the faint hope you won't take it personal

I'm pretty sure at this point Aldo would've taken every decline personal anyhow.

 

[Myasishchev]

Aldo, You're complaining about having to live life and have common human experiences like everyone else instead of the world and people doing something special and treating you the way you'd prefer. What gives?

There is no such thing cultural progress! Accept your society the way it is!

 

[Shatinator]

the blame needs to be place on her, and the spine-less detached attitude she presented

Right, so how many restraining orders have women taken out on you this week?

Just because you want to date/fuck a woman doesn't mean she has to date/fuck you.

Hi Spice--

If you don't agree with my characterization or comment, just say so and state your reasons. But instead you choose to make a broad generalization of me, a stranger to you and your 'perceived' notion I take part in deviant or illegal actions. All because, my simple comment threatened your ego or that of your gender. BTW, just to be clear I conduct myself as a "gentleman" and I am always looking out for a womyn that conducts themselves as a "lady", what's sad is so few people behave like either.

Good day.

 

[wamdue]

I thought a Grand Slam was when you took your partner to Denny's for breakfast the next morning.

I thought a Grand Slam was when you get caught sneaking out at 4am by their roommate and end up sleeping with them too.

No, that's a doubleheader.

that works for me

 

[Darth Duck]

the blame needs to be place on her, and the spine-less detached attitude she presented

Right, so how many restraining orders have women taken out on you this week?

Just because you want to date/fuck a woman doesn't mean she has to date/fuck you.

Hi Spice--

If you don't agree with my characterization or comment, just say so and state your reasons. But instead you choose to make a broad generalization of me (1), a stranger to you and your 'perceived' notion I take part in deviant or illegal actions. All because, my simple comment threatened your ego or that of your gender (2). BTW, just to be clear I conduct myself as a "gentleman" and I am always looking out for a womyn (3) that conducts themselves as a "lady", what's sad is so few people behave like either. (4)

Good day.

1) Haha. You made a broad generalization about American Women.
2) Simple comment? More like a broad insult. Not exactly the perfect stepping stone to a nice civil conversation. Were you expecting applause for taking such a stand against women?
3) Haha. Nice try.
4)Yes, the 19th century is over, how sad.

 

[JarodRussell]

Her- "I'm sorry I don't do lunch!" You-"Whew! Me neither!! You had me worried there for a moment! I can only afford coffee anyway!" (big smile from you)

See, I'm just not quick witted like that. My roommate had a similar nugget "You don't date? Good, lets just fuck instead." Or something like that.

Anyways, I asked the girl out, she said no, I'm over it. I did start this thread because I was bummed, but it's not the end of the world.

Ask her out again, man.

 

[Shatinator]

Right, so how many restraining orders have women taken out on you this week?

Just because you want to date/fuck a woman doesn't mean she has to date/fuck you.

Hi Spice--

If you don't agree with my characterization or comment, just say so and state your reasons. But instead you choose to make a broad generalization of me (1), a stranger to you and your 'perceived' notion I take part in deviant or illegal actions. All because, my simple comment threatened your ego or that of your gender (2). BTW, just to be clear I conduct myself as a "gentleman" and I am always looking out for a womyn (3) that conducts themselves as a "lady", what's sad is so few people behave like either. (4)

Good day.

1) Haha. You made a broad generalization about American Women.
2) Simple comment? More like a broad insult. Not exactly the perfect stepping stone to a nice civil conversation. Were you expecting applause for taking such a stand against women?
3) Haha. Nice try.
4)Yes, the 19th century is over, how sad.

Well, that is interesting. Too be fair I reviewed my original post, in that I stated this behavior of "detachment" of most American Womyn; in retrospect that was a little harsh. I should of stated many. As I have noticed many, not most. However to equate me as a stalker simply for holding others' accountable for their actions, is also a little lacking of perspective I would think.

Now the 19th Century reference, by that, does it give licence to not treat each other with decency, I find that odd? After all human being are more than just things or devices you pick and try on to see if they fit and discard if you don't, they / we deserve consideration, no?