But that's the problem -- you're looking at it solely from the man's perspective, as if the woman were merely a prize that he was entitled to win if he made the right moves in the game, rather than a person with her own emotions that need to be respected and understood. We're not just talking about any random woman, we're talking about a woman who saw her husband die in front of her just eight months ago, and on her wedding day, no less. It is incredibly callous to think that her grief is merely an inconvenient obstacle to a man's ability to score. Caitlin was completely in the right here.
I actually agree with Caitlin too. But both the man's and the woman's perspective should count equally. Yes, Caitlin's past grief matters and Jay should be sensitive to that. But I am sure it is not easy for Jay either. Knowing you are going to die soon would be pretty scary. And telling someone you love that you are dying is not an easy thing. Jay is in a tough spot. In fact, he might be reluctant to be start a relationship, knowing what both will lose and suffer, when he dies.