Yeah, I've been trying to actually piece together a kind of timeline for the events. I think there is a shot where Bane is talking to Bruce, and he actually knows the the truth, that Bruce is batman. There is a shot during the prologue bootleg (from a collage of quick bits later in the film) where Bane is carrying Batman's mask. I really think it falls within Nolan's writing style that Bane - and maybe the League of shadows - would want Bruce to see the destruction of Gotham - that they wouldn't kill him until this happens - that he has to see it and realize that he has actually helped make it come about.I'm not saying Selina is a villain, per say. I'm thinking Bane forces her to go along with his plan. I doubt there isn't a connection between her and Bane.
Flying Spaghetti Monster: you may be right about Bane crippling Batman and putting him in prison for eight years. But I'm wondering if Bane does this to Batman shortly after the events of The Dark Knight after keeping an eye on Batman for a while now, thinking he would pose a threat to his plans and feeling it would be best to have him dealt with so he would be out of the way. And come to think of it the clip in the trailer when Alfred says he hasn't protected Bruce makes sense within the context you established.