Does anyone else besides me think that the Kelvin Timeline comics have consistently depicted Uhura with a staggering level of incompetence and disrespect for Vulcan culture? Which is somewhat stunning given that she initiated their relationship?
that's interesting as I have the opposite feeling. And so do the vulcans in the story as they mostly seem to like her (kids included, LOL). Sarek himself points up to how well and effortlessly she seems to fit among vulcans, to the extent they actually ask her to teach a class at the academy to their kids.
Respecting the vulcan culture doesn't mean, however, that she has to agree with Spock/the vulcans about everything all the time and placate them when they are acting stupid or have flaws just like anyone (and she does experience a bit of xenophobia herself from some vulcans doubting her validity as Spock's mate just because she's human.. and she is more amused by their gossip than being offended).. and really, if she were to pretend every flaw they have or every bad decision they make as
individual people must be blamed on them being vulcans and a 'culture', rather than them having their own personality like everyone, she'd essentially 'other' them rather than treat them as equals and thus as people no less than the humans.
There is a difference, though, between her and McCoy for example because she isn't racist/xenophobic about the vulcans, she likes their race and respects their culture (there is a great monologue in boldly go 9 that emphasizes that and how much she gets them. And also a scene from the after darkness comics where she says she loves Spock's vulcan heritage, but he hides it from people and even her at times because he's scared of being perceived as alien). When she disagrees about something the vulcans think or do, she doesn't really make it seems the 'issue' is that those people are vulcans and not human.
as for her competence, she honestly is portrayed being as one the most competent officers of the crew. I mean, she constantly saves the day with her skills and I can't even really remember an instance where she failed or damaged a mission or was truly wrong about anything..so again, I'm confused by your assertion about them 'consistently' decipting Uhura as disprectful of the vulcan culture (again, that would be McCoy), or incompetent (that would be Kirk, and at times Spock too). If they truly were to put examples of that, perhaps it would only balance a bit all the other scenes.