Soulmate

[RJDiogenes]

Not in the supernatural sense, of course, but there are definitely soulmates in the metaphorical sense. I knew somebody who was pretty damn close.

(just realized I have no idea how to spell that word)

You're thinking of "rapport."

 

[Hermiod]

Do you have a soulmate? If not, do you think that you will eventually meet your soulmate? Or do you not believe in soulmates?

No, no I don't and no, I don't believe in the concept.

 

[An Officer]

I believe anything is possible. I am not certain about reincarnation (once is enough dude), but I try to keep an open mind.

 

[Jadzia]

Do you have a soulmate? If not, do you think that you will eventually meet your soulmate? Or do you not believe in soulmates?

This is an Existence-Uniqueness question. All I will say is that if the number of people in the world is not divisible by two, then the conjecture is not universally true.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Do you have a soulmate? If not, do you think that you will eventually meet your soulmate? Or do you not believe in soulmates?

This is an Existence-Uniqueness question. All I will say is that if the number of people in the world is not divisible by two, then the conjecture is not universally true.

Unless, as tsq suggests, one can consider there being more than one "soulmate" per person...

 

[Jadzia]

If one redefines the word, then yes. But the OP presented us with the definition from Greek mythology, which defines a soulmate as a unique half person. In the mythology it isn't question of compatibility, but of origin: Your soulmate is that which your own soul was once fused with.

 

[Shazam!]

Not everybody knows this...

Probably because it's bollocks.

 

[RJDiogenes]

^^ Thanks for that insight.

Do you have a soulmate? If not, do you think that you will eventually meet your soulmate? Or do you not believe in soulmates?

This is an Existence-Uniqueness question. All I will say is that if the number of people in the world is not divisible by two, then the conjecture is not universally true.

Well, it would be impossible to determine whether or not the world population is divisible by two on any given day, but it doesn't really matter. People are killed and murdered all the time. If the concept of soulmates was literally true, many people would have a soulmate who is no longer alive.

 

[Mary Ann]

I don't know about "soulmates", but if you recognise that long term relatioships go through peaks and troughs. That they take nurturing to flourish, and that you don't cut and run the minute when things get tough, etc then you have a chance of making it. You have to work on your relationship to keep the moonlight and roses going. YMMV.

Probably the smartest coment I've heard on relationships. I am married to a fine woman, but I don't think I believe in soulmates. You're just compatible with someone or you're not. There are also varying degrees of compatibility. There are probably several people with whom you could have a wonderful, successful relationship, given all of the work that Trilliam stated earlier.

Words of wisdom. "Soulmate" sounds too perfect, like something from a soppy Hallmark card. My husband is my best friend and we've been together for years, but I don't consider him my soulmate, just my life-partner. Neither of us is easy to live with so our relationship takes a lot of work, whereas being a soulmate sounds effortless. There's no such thing as an effortless relationship in my opinion.

 

[propita]

I don't know about "soulmates", but if you recognise that long term relatioships go through peaks and troughs. That they take nurturing to flourish, and that you don't cut and run the minute when things get tough, etc then you have a chance of making it. You have to work on your relationship to keep the moonlight and roses going. YMMV.

Probably the smartest coment I've heard on relationships. I am married to a fine woman, but I don't think I believe in soulmates. You're just compatible with someone or you're not. There are also varying degrees of compatibility. There are probably several people with whom you could have a wonderful, successful relationship, given all of the work that Trilliam stated earlier.

Words of wisdom. "Soulmate" sounds too perfect, like something from a soppy Hallmark card. My husband is my best friend and we've been together for years, but I don't consider him my soulmate, just my life-partner. Neither of us is easy to live with so our relationship takes a lot of work, whereas being a soulmate sounds effortless. There's no such thing as an effortless relationship in my opinion.

These are all sound like they've been learned through years of experience. This past Sunday was Hubby's and my 23d anniversary together.

Hubby is as close to a soulmate as I will have. It's not always easy, but knowing that there's someone who loves you and, despite frustrations, will be there for you, is what makes life worth living for me.

Someone once asked me why I was with Hubby, a reason beyond "I love him" or anything overly emotional. I said, "He is my best chance at maximizing my happiness in this lifetime." I strive to be his best chance, too.

 

[ares93]

i've always believed that soulmate's does exist. i just haven't been lucky enough to find mine yet. oh well. the day is still young as they say.

 

[ancientone51]

My Hubby and I almost made it to 29 years.

Soulmates...as close as I will ever come.

Yes, we worked at it and failed upon occasions, but we knew we belonged together and to each other.

 

[propita]

My Hubby and I almost made it to 29 years.

Soulmates...as close as I will ever come.

Yes, we worked at it and failed upon occasions, but we knew we belonged together and to each other.

If you are/were still together, you didn't fail. You slipped a bit, but didn't fail.

That's how Hubby and I feel. Very into exclusivity, as in "MINE!" He needed someone who was entirely his--he is the eldest of 6 and never go to keep anything for himself. I needed someone who wanted me to be entirely his.

Cheating would be throwing away everything we have. And since we're based on such deep-seated, even neurotic, needs and have a strong sense of honor, cheating is out of the question.

And that's actually freeing, in a way. I know that I can give a male friend a (non-passionate) hug because there is no way anything else would come of it. And I talk about Hubby enough so the guy knows that there's nothing romantic behind the hug. Hubby's not the touchy-feely type, so his hugs with others are just the polite kind.

 

[iguana_tonante]

I don't think anything like a "soul" exists. Can I have a body&mind-mate?

 

[MeanJoePhaser]

Here's a place to search for a Seoul mate

http://www.koreancupid.com/

 

[Alpinemaps]

Yes, I do believe in 'soulmates' (or whatever you want to call it). I don't think we have just one person, though. I do think we have multiple people out there that we are completely compatible with.

Mrs Alpinemaps and I had our first date 19 years ago (and we're in our mid-30s now). I have no doubt that she's my soulmate. But, I'm know that if she and I hadn't match up, there would be others out there that I would feel that connection with.

 

[propita]

Yes, I do believe in 'soulmates' (or whatever you want to call it). I don't think we have just one person, though. I do think we have multiple people out there that we are completely compatible with.

Mrs Alpinemaps and I had our first date 19 years ago (and we're in our mid-30s now). I have no doubt that she's my soulmate. But, I'm know that if she and I hadn't match up, there would be others out there that I would feel that connection with.

That's why I say that, while Hubby may not have been my only chance at happiness, I believe he is my best chance at maximizing my happiness in my lifetime.

A nice analytical approach to romance.

 

[Trilliam]

Dear Husband and I rack up 28years married in November and have been together since July 1981.

 

[Servo]

Zeus. That guy's always raining on my parade.

As for the question, I believe some people are just "compatible", to the degree that their personal energies, (their minds, their life-force, spirit, call it what you will) "overlap" a bit. They can therefore ease naturally into a relationship rather than having to work at it like most others. That said, most people who do work at it can become attuned to one another to the point that this "overlap" results, or so I believe. They become soulmates, in a sense. I've always hoped I'll find someone who can be this for me. We'll see, I suppose.

This is how I feel about soulmates, too.

That's how I figure it too.

 

[MeanJoePhaser]

What happens when soulmates part? They were never really soulmates? Did their souls unmate?