Then you run up against people who don’t do subtlety, or subtext, or innuendo, or are utterly oblivious to the concept that characters either lie, or tell what they believe to be the truth at the time they said it, or they speak strictly for themselves, or the speaker falls back on cultural social conventions i.e. standard replies to standard questions.
I think it just comes down to how each individual is wired. There isn't a right or wrong, just how we each process information.