Please forgive me as I don't know the major players on this forum. I have only been here a few days and was previously largely unaware of such ire toward Abrams Trek. Perhaps that's why seeing these differing opinions doesn't bother me. In fact, it's actually interesting to see. Time will tell if that will remain that way if I've been arguing the same points with the same people for six years.
I grew up with the original series. In fact, I was born the year it went on the air. I built models of the Enterprise and dreamed of piloting a shuttle into the landing bay. I loved TNG too. I watched episodes of it in the desert during my time in the desert in 1990-1991. I enjoyed all of the follow-on shows and watched all of the movies too.
When I first heard they were making Trek with the original crew, I too cringed. But I begrudgingly admit that they were good movies. Not the best, but very solid. The effects were amazing and some of the casting, such as Carl Urban and Zack Quinto was spot-on. It was enough to convince me that they hadn't totally fumbled the ball. And it brought Trek to a new generation.
And let's face it, Trek had been off the air for four years. It wasn't going anywhere anytime soon without these new movies. And even though these movies were big hits, six years later, there is still no new series on the horizon. Eventually, perhaps ST would have faded into oblivion, with us fans debating about the best of ST on various forums until we're all in the ground...
Perhaps I'm more forgiving but I think these movies carried the franchise flag well. These aren't the best movies but they're not the worst either. However, I don't think that many of these complaints are based upon the merits of the movies so much as the concept that no one could ever replace Shatner and Nimoy. I think there is almost a god-like quality they have been bestowed over the decades, and I think there is a certain segment that would absolutely never accept that someone else could portray Kirk and Spock other than them. Then there are the other differences such as the redesigned nacelles and such. These things don't bode well for someone who has been watching ST all of their life and already has an ingrained concept of how ST should look like. I get that.
But I think you have to keep an open mind.
In any case, I will close by saying that these new movies are in the books and there is nothing we can do about it but accept it. As my supervisor in the military used to tell us when we had to do something we didn't want to accept: It is what it is...