It is interesting that a clearly patriarchal and sexist convention has survived into the future but is NOW currently culturally a minority on Earth.
It's an American TV show, created by Americans, for primarily an American audience.
It might be common elsewhere in the world, it is not common in the US, and would absolutely come off as odd and somewhat offputting to American viewers.
Put like this it almost seems like a conscious choice. As if the authors knew traditions and customs from all over the world but knowing that their audiences were Americans they wrote specifically for them.
You might overestimating American writers or Americans in general.
To a point, yes. American writers will write for American audiences. Just as Japanese writers will write for a Japanese audience, or Chinese writers will write for a Chinese audience. That's how it works.
But I do think alot of Americans are... ignorant would be the correct word, but I hesitate to use it in a negative context... about some other cultures. I think "Americans" get something of a bad wrap... most "American" things like this are shared with Canada as well. It's less to do with being willfully ignorant, and more to do with geography. Europeans have easier access to travel and interact with different cultures... most Americans and Canadians will spend the vast majority of their lives, if not their entire lives, in North America.
I was referring to m/m relationships on PIC, not w/w (I feel like as if I as a gay man am not THAT qualified to comment on the w/w representation on PIC, but from what I've seen from Seven/Raffi fans, a LOT of them were VERY disgruntled with the way the two were depicted... I think I read the word "ruined" and things like "they only had Seven and Raffi so that they could tick off lgbt representation and then they did nothing with them" several times tho).
Why would you not be qualified to comment? You are allowed to have an opinion.
My only "issue" so to speak with Seven/Raffi was that it just kind of came out of nowhere? Not necessarily within the show itself... yeah it's established/hinted that both had same sex relationships, and that worked fine for Raffi since she was a new character but it felt off for Seven as we have background on her and it was never hinted at before. People change, it's not actually a problem, but from an audience perspective it could seem like... well... they changed a character to tick off an LGBT representation box.
That being said, I put issue in quotes because it's really not an issue. I think there may have been a more effective way to present that. Sometimes subtle is good, this may have been too subtle. Non-LGBT people may take some issue with the fact of there being a change to the character... I can often be in that camp. I usually feel that they should just do a new character with -insert trait- rather than change an existing one. I did not have an issue with this one. I feel like it's a natural enough progression, by the end of Voyager Seven was still trying to find herself. I "buy" that as she came into her own and let her humanity assert itself she found that out about herself. Totally fine. (the opposite would be like, Picard being like "Oh hey by the way, i'm gay now!"... no. Doesn't work.)
From that point of view, comments like Chabon's "ah there was no time" just sound incredibly hollow. If the show had had NO relationships whatsoever I'd have been like "sure fine whatever", but apparently there's always time for m/w, but not m/m. And THAT I find... very double standard-ish.
The thing is though, PIC S1 really only had two depictions of relationships... three kind of. Maddox/Jurati was absolutely essential to the plot. There was "time" for it because it was a major part of the story. Rios/Jurati and Seven/Raffi were both largely irrelevant to the plot, with Rios/Jurati having at least a mild relation to the plot/character arcs. Seven/Raffi didn't really serve any story purpose at all, so Chabon was probably right in saying "there wasn't time". If we had an old school, 22 episode season... sure. Do a whole arc with them. With the time we have now? There was really no reason beyond "representation" to do it, which I think is a poor reason to do it.
And then ultimately it's largely irrelevant to the rest of the show too. Sure it gets brought up in S2 and plays a fairly minor role in Seven and Raffi's interactions, but otherwise it's largely irrelevant.
Contrast that say, Stamets and Culber in DSC. By and large, I greatly dislike DSC. But they are great, and their relationship serves a critical plot purpose. It never feels tacked on, just to tick off a box. There is an actual story reason for their relationship, and the orientation of their relationship is not the defining trait of their characters.