Same here. Our venue has a 120 person minimum so it's going to be a little less intimate than we would naturally have. We're opening invites to people we wouldn't normally associate with on such an occasion.
So..who wants to come to my wedding?
Paying for weddings
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Same here. Our venue has a 120 person minimum so it's going to be a little less intimate than we would naturally have. We're opening invites to people we wouldn't normally associate with on such an occasion.
So..who wants to come to my wedding?
We're taking that into account.
My parents' fine china from their wedding has been on display in the china cabinet for about 30 years.
What is the point of fine china? Does anybody actually use it for eating?
I'm pretty sure no. After my dad died and my mom was selling the house and downsizing, I got all this old china that belonged to my grandparents on both sides. My mom convinced me I'd use it from time to time when have guests over for fine dining or entertaining with class.
First thing I did when I got it home was give it to the salvation army. I have no use for it.
My parents' fine china from their wedding has been on display in the china cabinet for about 30 years.
What is the point of fine china? Does anybody actually use it for eating?
We use ours sometimes. My parents use theirs several times a year. But we do have other wedding gifts we don't really use and I can't bring myself to part with them.
Fine china is for dinner parties.
My in-laws seem to know what these are and when to deploy the china.
They also think that because my wife is an adjunct, that some day we'll need the china because we'll be hosting a dinner party with the dean and perhaps the chancellor.
She's worked at the local D3 U for 8 years, and the closest we've ever had to a dinner party with the muckedy-mucks was going for pizza and beer with the chair of her department. Somehow, I don't envision the chancellor dropping by for burgers on the grill any time soon.
My in-laws seem to know what these are and when to deploy the china.
They also think that because my wife is an adjunct, that some day we'll need the china because we'll be hosting a dinner party with the dean and perhaps the chancellor.
She's worked at the local D3 U for 8 years, and the closest we've ever had to a dinner party with the muckedy-mucks was going for pizza and beer with the chair of her department. Somehow, I don't envision the chancellor dropping by for burgers on the grill any time soon.
In everyone's defense, her chancellor is a really good guy. The English department publishes a magazine of top freshman writing each year, and I met him at their gala reception. I was skulking about the back near the buffet when he came over and introduced himself to me. I shook his hand and respectfully called him "Chancellor." He looked me in the eye and said, "No. To you, I'm Dennis." Then he pointed at my wife's colleague, a friend of mine, who was also skulking near the buffet and said, "He calls me Chancellor."
I LOL'ed.
I LOL'ed.
We got a set of fine china as a wedding gift. We use it maybe once or twice a year, tops. We also got a crock pot that we've used twice in 7 years. The most useful gifts we received were towels, stainless steel flatware and everyday dishes.
I think the nicest gift we received was from the people who volunteered to come by and feed my cat while we were on our honeymoon (the dearly departed Max). The wife cooked up food and put it in the freezer, and left instructions on how to reheat & serve it. There were at least three big meals worth of food waiting for us when we got home. So, not only did she come by after her long workday for a full week, get the mail and feed the cat, but she cooked for us as well.
I think the nicest gift we received was from the people who volunteered to come by and feed my cat while we were on our honeymoon (the dearly departed Max). The wife cooked up food and put it in the freezer, and left instructions on how to reheat & serve it. There were at least three big meals worth of food waiting for us when we got home. So, not only did she come by after her long workday for a full week, get the mail and feed the cat, but she cooked for us as well.
My parents paid for most of our wedding 21+years ago. I think it was about $5000. I actually got my dress from JCPenny for about $250. We only had about 60-70 people, but everyone seemed to have a good time. I wasn't one of those people to do research about what was proper or what wasn't. We got married in a church, had a photographer, did the reception, had a DJ and ate and drank. I got very very small things for my 2 bridesmaids, but hubby and I didn't exchange gifts--we bought things together on our honeymoon in DisneyWorld/Epcot.
I have been to weddings with 250-300+ people and I felt like it was too big and 'formal' I suppose. Ours felt intimate and fun--like a big party with kids, friends, adults, grandparents, great-grandparents, etc. Heck, I didn't even get a piece of cake at one of the really big ones I went to!!!
But to answer the OP: I think the couple should pay as much as they can without going into debt, and if the parents can help foot the bill and WANT to, they should be able to help out. If you can't afford your own wedding, maybe you should scale it back.
I have been to weddings with 250-300+ people and I felt like it was too big and 'formal' I suppose. Ours felt intimate and fun--like a big party with kids, friends, adults, grandparents, great-grandparents, etc. Heck, I didn't even get a piece of cake at one of the really big ones I went to!!!
But to answer the OP: I think the couple should pay as much as they can without going into debt, and if the parents can help foot the bill and WANT to, they should be able to help out. If you can't afford your own wedding, maybe you should scale it back.
Well, today is the day before my brother's wedding.
150 people.
There's a "small" dinner tonight and a brunch on Sunday.
Live music, 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen (i.e. 14 total), a cocktail hour before dinner, and the ceremony itself doesn't even start until 6 pm or so...so you can imagine when it ends.
Yeah, I so don't want to know the budget.
150 people.
There's a "small" dinner tonight and a brunch on Sunday.
Live music, 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen (i.e. 14 total), a cocktail hour before dinner, and the ceremony itself doesn't even start until 6 pm or so...so you can imagine when it ends.
Yeah, I so don't want to know the budget.
Can I have an invite?
I'll be happy to come to the wedding....if you mail me a plane ticket. 
Don't know what the costs were for my sisters weddings but one's marriage lasted 4 years, the other's 6 months.
My wedding in Australia cost around $2500 (of which $400 was for the celebrant). We had another ceremony in Canada which cost about $10,000 but the biggest difference was the number of people - 24 in Australia, 100 in Canada (my wife has a big family it sort went as a family re-union).
At least my mother-in-law didn't have to worry about the thing being called off (unlike when my sister-in-law did at the very last minute after her parents had paid all the money, my wife had bought her dress etc etc).
