Indeed, I have similar issues. This idea that continuity is bad or not wanted is a gross simplification of my actual struggle. It's when continuity is used to basically shoehorn in various disparate items because of how it looks. There is ignoring the idea of a much bigger galaxy and instead assuming that the Trek world centers around known characters, allowing them all to interact across various stories, no matter what. It creates a "small universe" that becomes more and more convoluted to actually enjoy, rather than newer characters. And, ultimately, it's characters that I watch this show for, not the imaginary history. Others might like all that history but then it makes Trek a series of data points to me, encyclopedia entries that make sure the boxes are checked for Trek continuity perfection. And that's frustrating to me because then it doesn't make the world feel more alive; it makes it feel way more artificial. Continuity is an excellent tool, but it can become just as rigid and unyielding as it can be binding together and inviting.