Yep. It's impossible to discuss Kes here - you get all mopey with the "'who, li'l ol' me?" shtick and the accusations of hatred and sinister motives. Quit clutching your pearls and engage with people on the facts - the canonical version of Kes we saw onscreen, not the re-imagined, re-written one you created in your head and your awful fanfiction.
I've suffered deaths in my immediate family too. Kes' lifespan has no impact on me - not least because the character understood it better than any of us. Or did you miss
Before and After? Or was that 'Suspiria in disguise' as well? Kes, to me, is a positive affirmation of a simple truth of our existence - that our time is finite, and we should embrace it with the energy and enthusiasm that she did.
One final thing: I think it's particularly disappointing to invoke unknowable personal tragedy to shut down sensible debate. I'm sorry you felt the need to do that.
You just have to make this personal, don't you?
OK then, I expressed my personal number one reason why I don't like long outdrawn death dramas and tear-wrenching episodes. Since this is a debate forum, I do think that I have the right to do so.
I have also presented another solution in the Kes case since, according to your beloved "canonical version" it was possible to prolong her lifespan.
I have also stated why I find the nine year lifespan silly, unnecessary and unrealistic. Since this is a debate forum, I do think that I have the right to do so.
It also strikes me that most of the people who would have liked to see Kes getting old and die in some episode and who vehemently defends the short lifespan are the same people who several times express their dislike and loathing of the character.
As for Berman's, Braga's, Taylo's and Fuller's "canon", you can't possibly imagine that I would accept the events in that s**t episode in season 6, do you?
As for "Before And After", I've watched that episode several times and I have actually discovered that the events in that episode takes place in an
alternate reality which had no effect on
later episodes of the series.
As for deaths, I don't "embrace it with the energy and enthusiasm" because I've already seen too many good people die during my lifetime, some of them too early. As for my own inevitable death in some bleak future, I don't care. When it happens, it happens. I live for today and try my best to avoid worrying about tomorrow.
As for my "awful fanfiction, I take that comment as a compliment!

I write for the fans of Kes, not for those who hate the character.