My mother was diagnosed with cancer. :-(

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by Naira, May 7, 2012.

  1. Naira

    Naira Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Sep 23, 2002
    Hello everyone,

    the thread title pretty much sums it up. My mother was diagnosed with peritoneum cancer. :(

    She has been feeling really uncomfortable during the past one and a half month but she thought it was because of her being sad because I recently moved to another city for a new job (I had lots of trouble making that decision and felt pressured because I was pressured as well). Even though she hasn't been eating much, she has been feeling full as if she had eaten a lot all the time. She has a lot of extra weight, and so she didn't think much of it. However, her discomfort became too much and she went to the hospital, only to have almost 8kg(!) of fluid extracted from her abdominal. :eek: She had lots of tests done and the doctors said that she has cancer...

    They told us that usually such tumors are not isolated, but fortunately in her case it seems that that it is. She will begin chemotherapy next week for 5-6 months in hope that this will shrink the tumor.

    I am generally an optimistic person and I always try to look on the bright side. Right now, I am trying to focus on the fact that she has no more tumors and that there is a treatment plan. I try not to think that I am far away, or that things might turn bad.

    My mother has a different personality though. She keeps thinking that her own mother died of cancer at the same age she is right now (merely 55), that her hair is going to fall soon etc.

    So, I am keeping up fairly good up to know, but I wanted to share this with you and ask for all your positive vibes for my mother and my beloved father who stands by her side all alone now that I cannot be there regularly to help.
  2. jespah

    jespah Taller than a Hobbit Moderator

    Jun 21, 2011
    Boston, the Gateway to the Galaxy
    I know that news. You just, well, you just crumple. There's a reason why people are told to sit down.

    Hang in there - the oddest things might be of help. Sometimes the appetite really goes (even though there are drugs to really help with that these days) and sometimes it's because other things smell bad. Potpourri can help (but make sure it's a scent that works; think of pregnant women and how some scents are better than others). Foods are gonna be all over the place in terms of appeal. Italian might work whereas Chinese might not, for example.

    You know this, but be there, and listen.

    Hang in there.
  3. EmoBorg

    EmoBorg Commodore Commodore

    Apr 2, 2012
    in the 10 dimensions of reality
    I am sorry to hear about that. I will pray for her.
  4. Misfit Toy

    Misfit Toy Caped Trek Mod Admiral

    Feb 11, 2002
    Transporter buffer
    Cancer sucks. Naira I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this. I know being away from her is only magnifying your feelings. I also know, from personal experience, that this board is a good place to vent. Use us. :)
  5. Captain_Nick

    Captain_Nick Vice Admiral Admiral

    Jan 28, 2002
    I am really sorry to hear that :(
  6. An Officer

    An Officer Vice Admiral Admiral

    May 14, 2002
    Reality & Other Falsehoods
    So sorry you received such terrible news. God willing she will pull through, 55 is still quite young and strong. She needs cheerleaders. A positive frame of mind will do her the world of good... I recommend positive thinking videos such as:

    Seems to really work for people along with a strict well-balanced diet and exercise when she's able. Doesn't hurt to go organic and include more of the super-foods as well - in fact, these can really tip the balance, we are what we eat.

    Look into something called nigella sativa, a family friend has been having her doctor inject her with it and vitamins, and she was recovering from a spinal issue which had caused complete paralyses, she has now regained most of her mobility. I have also used it personally for more minor ailments, and it's absolutely incredible, I must say - an extremely powerful antioxidant. Of course, read up on everything, and take advice from your doctor before trying any of that.

    God willing your mother will be just fine, and you have better times ahead. I am sure she will start coping much better shortly, the initial shock is bound to drive someone to pessimism... fight the pessimism along with the illness. It will stand her in good stead for life, not just for this. Doesn't hurt to try stuff at this point, even if all it does is bring hope.

    Good luck and god bless. Already sent up a prayer for your mother. :)
  7. Tora Ziyal

    Tora Ziyal Vice Admiral Admiral

    Feb 27, 2010
    Keep focussing on that. Also, encourage her to get a second or even third opinion, preferably from a major teaching/research hospital.

    You and your mother will be in my thoughts.
  8. Mr Awe

    Mr Awe Vice Admiral Admiral

    Jan 15, 2002
    Naira, I'm sending all of my good vibes to your mother, and you. It sounds like she caught it early, before it spread. If so, that's great news. She's lucky to have you.

    Mr Awe
  9. Captain Ice

    Captain Ice Cookie Constructor Admiral

    Dec 30, 2002
    Getting Captain Ice on to the naughty list
    Cancer absolutely sucks and I'm sorry that your mother is going through this. Cancer treatments have really evolved in the last 30 years or so. Types of cancer that were a death sentence thirty years ago are a mere blip on the radar now.
  10. rhubarbodendron

    rhubarbodendron Vice Admiral Admiral

    May 1, 2011
    milky way, outer spiral arm, Sol 3
    I keep my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for your mom! With 3 cases of cancer in my family I have a fairly good idea of what you both are facing atm.

    AnOfficer is right: positive thinking helps really a lot.

    Hair loss is frustrating at first but on the other hand your mom will get a skin as smooth as a baby's. And with wigs she can have all those hairstyles and colours she always wanted to try out and never dared to.
    And don't worry: after the chemo the hair grows back.

    The biggest problem with a systemic chemo is that your mom will feel very very sick. I recommend ginger. It works miracles and won't interfere with the medication. Any form of ginger helps: tea, candy, cookies, fresh or powdered and my absolute favourite: chocolate-coated candied ginger :drool:

    Since there are only few and isolated tumours it is unusual that the doctors don't try to first remove at least the biggest ones surgically. That'd be the standard treatment and in an early stage the prognosis is excellent. The tumours too small to excise can afterwards be attacked with the chemo.
    It looks like your mom's cancer is still in such an early stage that it's too small to be removed surgically. That means the outlook is quite good.

    Please keep us updated. And maybe you can lure your mom here or print this thread for her? Good vibes help quite a lot when the chemo-sickness sets in.
  11. the 4th hanson bro

    the 4th hanson bro No one can resist my Schweddy Balls Admiral

    Aug 17, 2001
    the 4th hanson bro
    F* Cancer!

    You and your mom will be in my thoughts.
  12. Lumi

    Lumi Captain Captain

    Jan 13, 2012
    I'm sorry... that's so hard. :( I don't know what I'd do...

    Will be keeping her in my prayers.
  13. WillsBabe

    WillsBabe Vice Admiral Admiral

    Dec 27, 2002
    I'm so sorry to hear this. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
  14. Kestra

    Kestra Admiral Premium Member

    Jul 6, 2005
    This, a million times this. Thinking of you and your family, Naira.
  15. doubleohfive

    doubleohfive Fleet Admiral

    Aug 17, 2001
    Hollywood, CA
    Beat me to it.


    I'm all too familiar with the ravages of cancer and wouldn't wish it on anyone. I will absolutely be thinking of and praying for your mother and all of you Naira.

    I'm sure I can speak for all us when I say we're all here for you.
  16. Miss Lemon

    Miss Lemon Commodore Commodore

    Feb 14, 2012
    In Poirot's office
    I'm sorry your mother is ill, Naira. I wish you and your family all the strength in the world.

    It might make you feel better, but it won't cure cancer. Also, I don't think it is very helpful get told that 'diseases in the body are created by your own mental patterns'.

    Medical treatments of cancer on the other hand have become more and more successful over the years. But even physicians make mistakes, so don't hesitate to ask a second opinion if you feel that is necessary.

    If you mother decides to follow some diet, take extra vitamins or start exercising, please consult a physician first. She needs enough strength to get through her treatments. Also, taking too much vitamins can be unhealthy.
  17. stj

    stj Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    Dec 27, 2006
    the real world
    You have my sympathies and hopes.
  18. Shanndee

    Shanndee Commodore Commodore

    Sep 6, 2010
    There has been some great advice in this thread and I can't really add anything new, but I certainly send you and your family my best wishes and positive thoughts.

    It can be very easy to forget about yourself while you try to help your Mom, please make sure that you take care of yourself in this time as well.

    Best wishes.
  19. Amaris

    Amaris Fleet Admiral Admiral

    Dec 25, 2002
    United States
    All of my best to you, your mother, and your family, Naira.
    May your mother come out of this stronger, healthier, and happier than ever.
  20. JiNX-01

    JiNX-01 Admiral Admiral

    Dec 29, 2002
    I'm so sorry about your mom. You and your family will be in my prayers.