My birthday kinda sucks

[blablover5]

Normally I don't really care much about doing anything huge for my birthday. Just a nice relaxing day with some ice cream cake but this year has just been so infuriating.

My husband and I just closed on our first house this past friday and we have to get everything painted and moved as fast as possible and all on our own because on the 24th we have to head to Chicago for his sisters wedding.

This stupid wedding has become the major focal point of everyone's lives. Hell, yesterday my MIL called me and left a message "Hey um early Happy Birthday but could you have my son call me about his tux measurements for the wedding."

And because of the wedding being the most important thing of the decade no one has the time to help us, or even show a modicum of empathy that we may have more important shit to do than show up to a rehearsal dinner we have no reason to be at (long story short my husband is just an usher and the bride decided that it should be held on Thursday instead of Friday so she can get her beauty sleep. I really wish I was kidding).

So on top of being ignored or pushed to the side because we're not the ones with a wedding I get to face another exhausting night of painting a bathroom and moving huge boxes because damn it we should be just as pleased as punch to take some of our vacation and instead of using it on our house devote it to that most holy of weddings.

I'm in a misery loves company mood. Anyone else had a craptacular birthday recently?

 

[Kestra]

Happy Birthday, blab! Hope you find some time for yourself at least.

I invited all of my friends to a dinner and games type thing because they said they wanted to do something to celebrate my birthday. My friends are the busy type and I'm usually kind of sensitive to that, and don't want to make it feel like an obligation. We've had issues in the past. But they said they wanted to, so I put something together.

The day of the event, one of my best friends emails us and basically says that she's tired of her friends making her put themselves first, above her health and career. And that all her spare moments are spent at weddings or birthdays and she's going to basically "take a break" from her friendships.

And then she showed up at my party. Yeah, that made me feel great.

 

[Aurian]

Sorry you are having such a stressful time on your birthday.. but I wish good things happen to you today Happy Birthday.

 

[Plecostomus]

Happy Birthday!

Sod the gifts and presents and stuff lets get to the important question: What sort of cake do you fancy?

 

[Zulu Romeo]

My birthday will come up in September, and I am not looking forward to it.

But I wish you a happy birthday and I hope you feel better soon.

(((((hugs)))))

 

[Locutus of Bored]

Happy birthday. I hope things look up for you.

 

[Finn]

Happy b day. At least your MiL wished you a happy birthday first. Many wouldn't.

 

[sidious618]

Make plans to ruin the wedding and I assure you that your birthday will be looking up in not time at all.

 

[Canadave]

I had a birthday a few years ago, back in my first year of university (actually my 19th, so double-suckage) where I woke up, finished the essay I'd been working on the night before, handed it in, went back to my room and finished the one I had due later that night. Was a lot of fun, let me tell you.

Happy birthday to you, though, and I hope things get better.

 

[auntiehill]

Well, my birthday is in September, and the last few were far less than spectacular. Last year, a hurricane hit ON my birthday. The year before that, I went to dinner the night before with some friends and all of us ended up with HORRIBLE food poisoning. It was bad enough that two in our group had to be taken to the hospital for dehydration. I was sick as a dog for a full week. The one before that? My favorite aunt died.

Then there was that REALLY fun time in 2001....

I love birthdays--mine or anyone else's--and I always want to make a big deal of it, especially as some people I really care about may not have many more left. But hubby thinks birthdays are stupid and won't do a damn thing to celebrate. I have a VERY big birthday coming up and I know it will end up being another, very depressing disaster.

Wedding ARE a big deal and people do get very wrapped in it. Have you actually asked for help? If you have, and still haven't gotten any, KEEP asking. When the wedding buzz dies down, you may be able to get more attention.

 

[kimc]

Happy birthday blablover!

I also agree with auntiehill, keep asking for help since for all you know there may be folks as tired as the wedding hype as you are and helping you will be a great way to avoid some of it for a good cause.

 

[Thespeckledkiwi]

Happy Birthday Blabby!

*hug*

 

[blablover5]

The issue with asking for help is we have to be moved out by the end of the month, and the wedding is the 25th-26th so by the time it's all over there will be nothing left to do.

It's just one giant mess, but what gets me the most is that the whole family isn't even willing to meet us halfway. They just seem to think our lives stop as soon as we get outside Chicago.

 

[Mallory]

Not recently. But in 1976 I was working two summer jobs to get through college. So for my birthday that year I got to get up and work at the gas station from 7am-4pm and then my other job at a convenience store from 5pm until midnight. That birthday sucked.

Congrats on the closing blab and Happy Birthday! Hopefully the day will surprise you in a good way.

 

[SmoothieX]

My birthday this year was no bargain. There was a heavy snowstorm that day, which doesn't bother me as I love snow.

I went out to the car to clear it off and shovel the driveway so I could go to work. Turns out that I musta hit something the day before and my tire had gone flat. so I had to change it in about 9" of snow with more still coming down. Everything was all frozen up. I needed to heat water in my electric tea kettle over and over just to get bolts off and the spare tire out.

Took me over 2 hours and by the time I was done I was a sweaty, greasy, mess. Hell of a way to start the day@

 

[blablover5]

This post is kinda depressing.

Needs more puppy:

 

[Aurian]

^^ puppies...

 

[Zulu Romeo]

This post is kinda depressing.

Needs more puppy:

Me want! Me waaaaant!

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

Sorry to hear about your birthday. That sucks that your special day was ruined.


About 3 or 4 years ago, my birthday went in the crapper. I was still living at home and my husband (common law, we weren't a married couple living at home, haha) was living at his parents house and I came over and stayed at his place. Anyways, my mom called me on my cell as we were watching TV and asked me if he had gotten me a card and I said no, which is no big deal to me because I don't really care about cards, and my mom wasn't upset or anything but she felt he should have given me a card.

Well, he heard the convo (obviously, since this happened in his room) and he got pissed because he thought that my mom thought horrible things about him and he was saying how he could never meet my mom because he thinks she would be thinking he was an asshole for not getting me a card.


It was a stupid, petty thing but he cares about his image and worries too much what people think of him and my mom never thought anything negative about him. He has since met her and all is very well but back then, it was such a stupid thing to get upset about a ruin a birthday over.

 

[trampledamage]

Normally I don't really care much about doing anything huge for my birthday. Just a nice relaxing day with some ice cream cake but this year has just been so infuriating.

My husband and I just closed on our first house this past friday and we have to get everything painted and moved as fast as possible and all on our own because on the 24th we have to head to Chicago for his sisters wedding.

Forget them! Concentrate on enjoying moving into your first house.

Is there anyway you can leave some of the painting until after you move? I know it's easier to do it while the house is empty, but why not move in and then in a month or two say "Hey, let's redecorate!"