Mental Wellness Support Group

[Peach Wookiee]

I’m the same and can’t throw things away even if I don’t need or use it. Newspapers used to stack up but I stopped buying them a few years ago to save money. Sometimes I wouldn’t even read them so couldn’t throw them away until I had read them but but due to indecision never would so the pile increased. I try to have a minimalist existence now and only have what I need and use.

I’ve gotten rid of three bags of trash, put together paper bags and plastic bags for work, and know what’s going in donation. I’ll feel better tomorrow when Dad and I get my TV in.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

Feeling unwanted and likely to die alone.

I understand that feeling. **HUGS**

 

[Gryffindorian]

Hugs to all. Wishing everyone a happy and healthy 2023.

 

[publiusr]

I’m the same and can’t throw things away even if I don’t need or use it. Newspapers used to stack up but I stopped buying them a few years ago to save money.I try to have a minimalist existence now and only have what I need and use.

In defense of clutter
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/29/opinion/sunday/clutter-decluttering-marie-kondo.html

Interesting:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...ight-and-sound-stimulation-to-shift-the-brain
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-02-for-profit-hospices-quality-nonprofit.html
https://sciencex.com/news/2023-02-weekancient-roman-phallus-kombucha-circuit.html

Our memories
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-long-held-beliefs-roles-short-term-long-term.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-long-lasting-memories-brain.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-language-impairment-autism-gray-volume.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-musical-expertise-older-adults-brain.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-rhythmic-brain-temporary-memories.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-problems-pruning-brain-linked-adolescent.html

The real AI
https://techxplore.com/news/2023-04-team-brain-sensory-functions-artificial.html
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2023-04-reveals-brain-pathway-future-decision-making.html

 

[JoseNoodles]

Feeling unwanted and likely to die alone.

Buck up BoP, a new year is dawning and there will be plenty of time for your situation to change. Sending all my positivity to you and wishing you all the best in the New Year.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

My bedroom floor is vacuumed!!
ETA: I think I’m clearing my head a bit.

 

[Birb-of-Prey]

Thank you all for your words of support .

 

[Malicia]

In defense of clutter
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/29/opinion/sunday/clutter-decluttering-marie-kondo.html

Interesting:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...ight-and-sound-stimulation-to-shift-the-brain

I can’t read the nytimes article it says I need to subscribe for a fee. I’d be interested to read it because clutter invites dust and pests.

 

[Avro Arrow]

I can’t read the nytimes article it says I need to subscribe for a fee. I’d be interested to read it because clutter invites dust and pests.

It's an interesting article. (Not sure why it doesn't paywall me? Maybe because I'm not in the US... but you're not, either, so who knows?)

We are not allowed to reproduce entire articles here, due to copyright, but we are allowed to quote a paragraph or two, so hopefully this gives you a sense of what the article was going for.

So I persuaded her not only to keep her figurines but also to let herself continue to appreciate their presence. Because ultimately my mother’s urge to purge struck me as illuminating something misguided about our general relationship to material culture. In short: What we often dismiss as “clutter” — all those nonessential, often oddball objects that a third-party observer might write off as needless junk — can actually be good for us.

As one cluttercore advocate argued to Architectural Digest, social media has fostered aesthetics that tend toward the neutral, the acceptable, the blandly, conformingly tasteful: an endless series of unobjectionable tidy backdrops “devoid of personal style.” Cluttercore, in contrast, wholly depends on idiosyncratic personality and rarefied interests, and thus “celebrates radical individuality.” In an era when imitation is everywhere, Architectural Digest asserted, so-called clutter represents something that “can’t be duplicated.”

Here's an article that the NYT article links to that covers similar ground (hopefully it's not blocked for you):
https://www.architecturaldigest.com/story/cluttercore-chaotic-good-tiktok-trend

I've never really been a fan of minimalism; it may look nice in model homes, but it's not anything I would want to live in. I want my space to look more homey and, well, lived in. So it's nice to see I'm actually at the forefront of an emerging trend for once!

 

[wayoung]

Feeling rough lately. Dec - March are usually bad for me. Especially Jan-Feb. Lots of bad stuff happened Dec-March, including the worst moments of my life. Add to that the brutal cold, snow, and lack of sunlight resulting in spending a lot of time sitting inside watching TV and I go stir crazy/SAD on top of the many past trauma anniversaries. My activity level also drops because I'm not out walking or hiking most days. I force myself for little walks but they're not as frequent, as long, and are usually in the dark.

I get pretty emotional, and find it hard to clear my head. Plus, work had a surprise at the start of Dec that upped my stress. And I still haven't heard back about my insurance submissions from the first week of November, and now I don't even know how much of the stuff I can return if it gets declined since it's been so long since I bought it all.

I have my trip to Paris and Kenya for Feb coming up. I purposely picked it for what is for me the worst month of the year mentally/emotionally to try and rewire some of those bad moments with good, but I'm a little paranoid it's not gonna work and I'm just gonna be depressed and anxious on my trip.

I know I'm better than last year, which was better than the year before, which was better than the year before, but I still feel so unwell.

Plus, between the holidays and the added stress from work and less activity I undid all the weight loss I had done in the months previous.

 

[Commander Troi]

*HUGS*

 

[Gryffindorian]

The so called combination of a bomb cyclone and an atmospheric river is making me anxious. New Year's Eve saw massive flooding all around the SF Bay Area where I live.

California Drowning
On such a winter's day!

 

[Commander Troi]

Stay safe man!

 

[Bynar0110]

Severe pain in my neck and back from an injury has me depressed.

 

[Commander Troi]

I'm sorry to hear that! Chronic pain can really do a number on mental health. **gentle hugs**

 

[JD]

I'm getting kind of annoyed with myself, I keep swearing if I see the owners of the horses I've been stopping and visiting on my bike rides, I'm gonna stop and talk to them, and possibly ask if they're OK with me petting their horses, but every time actually see one of them outside I go into a panic and can't even stop. If they're nice I would love to ask them about the horses, and find out things like their names and what breed they are, but I can barely even get myself to wave to them.

 

[Commander Troi]

What have you tried to stop your panic attacks?

 

[Malicia]

It's an interesting article. (Not sure why it doesn't paywall me? Maybe because I'm not in the US... but you're not, either, so who knows?)

We are not allowed to reproduce entire articles here, due to copyright, but we are allowed to quote a paragraph or two, so hopefully this gives you a sense of what the article was going for.





Here's an article that the NYT article links to that covers similar ground (hopefully it's not blocked for you):
https://www.architecturaldigest.com/story/cluttercore-chaotic-good-tiktok-trend

I've never really been a fan of minimalism; it may look nice in model homes, but it's not anything I would want to live in. I want my space to look more homey and, well, lived in. So it's nice to see I'm actually at the forefront of an emerging trend for once!

Thanks for the snippets and link to the AD article. Maybe I was hasty saying I’m minimalist because I do like nik-naks like ornaments and pictures to make it homely but I try not to overdo it. I agree with the article that it can be good for the soul to have our own bits and bobs on display and it shows individuality. I really like that shelf with all the colourful toys, games and books and that looks like a well used netball so could be from her old school days. I like that kind of clutter even though it must be a pain keeping dust at bay. I was thinking of clutter from a hoarder which can quickly get out of control and become a safety and sanitation issue.

 

[wayoung]

Thanks for the snippets and link to the AD article. Maybe I was hasty saying I’m minimalist because I do like nik-naks like ornaments and pictures to make it homely but I try not to overdo it. I agree with the article that it can be good for the soul to have our own bits and bobs on display and it shows individuality. I really like that shelf with all the colourful toys, games and books and that looks like a well used netball so could be from her old school days. I like that kind of clutter even though it must be a pain keeping dust at bay. I was thinking of clutter from a hoarder which can quickly get out of control and become a safety and sanitation issue.

I kept my place pretty empty and bare and my therapist had me start to put up stuff a few years ago. Souviners from trips or adventures, pictures of fun stuff, etc. I kinda hate how cluttered my place seems now, and one person did comment on all the stuff on my fireplace, but I do find it's nice to look around and have good memories available.

 

[Bynar0110]

I feel depressed and overwhelmed I'm running out of time for the things I enjoy.