Loving a Large Woman

[CompCarp]

It really comes down to whether or not you are physically attracted to this woman. If you aren't, no matter how much you enjoying talking to her or think she's funny or whatever, a relationship won't work without that attraction.

I enjoy exercise and being outdoors, and looked for that in women before I was married. That tended to rule out larger women in general.

This is what I'm trying to address. I WASN'T physically attracted to her - or any woman of large size. I had SEVERE reservations and years of NOT being attracted to big women.

I had to talk to a couple of friends who also had large wives to TRY to get over my hangups. My strong frustration (lots of inner turmoil) was that after months of getting to know her - I loved EVERYTHING about her EXCEPT HER BODY. That actually made me a little angry (at myself). Eventually, I even started telling myself if I was going to be in a sexless marriage (it isn't by a LONG shot) - I could do it with her, because I loved who she was (if not what she looked like).

I'm telling you and anyone who will listen, don't let THAT be the obstacle that keeps you from getting to know a woman - or never getting the chance to know if you could love her or not. Sure, you can keep telling youself that you're not attracted to big women -- but I'm suggesting you could be letting your best and one-and-only get away.

BTW, I LOVE hiking and being outdoors. Mind you, I live in WV so hikes are all UP HILL. I invited my 'friend' down for a visit and she kept up without a problem. Turns out she loves being outdoors, doing yard work and hikes up the mountainside. So... just because someone is bigger than you, doesn't necessarily mean she can't keep up.

Besides, even if she isn't in as good a shape as you - wouldn't it be nice for all she'll bring to you and make your life better - that you could help her with activities and opportunties to change her less than active lifestyle. Remember: Opposites Attract!

 

[Chess Piece Face]

It doesn't matter. The hottest chick in the world gets boring too.

So you better be able to talk to her because that's all you'll end up being excited about at some point.

 

[Guartho]

^ I think it's John Picard that has a thread-bomb of a beautiful woman in a very alluring pose that's captioned with words to the effect of "No matter how good she looks now, somebody somewhere is tired of putting up with her shit."

 

[T'Baio]

I don't like tubbies.

 

[Plecostomus]

I don't like tubbies.

Too bad, more for the rest of us then.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I don't like tubbies.

A shame. There was always something about Laa-Laa...

 

[Plecostomus]

I don't like tubbies.

A shame. There was always something about Laa-Laa...

YOU! OFFA THE FORUM! *coach whistle*

 

[Kemaiku]

I don't like tubbies.

Too bad, more for the rest of us then.

Indeed.

 

[Emher]

I don't like tubbies.

Um, yes you said that already. Or are you looking to be converted?

 

[Kemaiku]

Hmm, maybe we should post a few images to convince him.

 

[Guartho]

Yes yes. I declare this thread to be officially "useless without pics."

 

[Jenee]

As cool as the first post was, I still predict someone will be offended by this thread.

I'm offended.

just kidding. had to harass Maestro here since he's staying out of TNZ.

I appreciate everyone's feedback! Now, I feel better about posting this rather embarrasing personal discovery. BUT, I wanted to hopefully encourage others to rethink potentially damaging, false misconceptions. It's all good!

Next, she'll have to create a thread on 'Loving a Geek'. I know she's got a lot of good things to write there! She's kinda giggly happy about that!

Excellent, I can't wait. I love the geeky guys.

 

[Candlelight]

 

[RJDiogenes]

I don't like tubbies.

Any more Posts like this will get a Warning for Trolling. Find something else to do.

 

[T'Baio]

It's okay to express the opinion that you're attracted to large women, but not okay to express the opinion you're not attracted to large women?

 

[MANT!]

jeeze..not again...

 

[RJDiogenes]

It's okay to express the opinion that you're attracted to large women, but not okay to express the opinion you're not attracted to large women?

Comments to PM.

 

[Deckerd]

There are some famous large women who I think actually look better because they're plus size. Sophie Dahl famously got hired as a model for her plus size curves and after a few years dropped several dress sizes. I think she lost her contract, since she can't compete with the coathangers of the catwalk.

 

[Deckerd]

Sorry double post. With extra chocolate sprinkles.

 

[thestrangequark]

I have had the experience, several times, of finding myself developing a physical attraction to some one because of his personality -- coming to find traits in him that I would generally find unattractive to be attractive. Though I am usually not attracted to short men, one of the sexiest men I ever dated was only a couple inches taller than me (and I'm 5'2"). For a more relatable example, I find John Goodman very attractive, specifically because I've always found his character on Roseanne to be so. He's a pretty hefty man, and while I wouldn't normally count considerable overweight to be an attractive feature in a man, it is for him. My sister and I (she agrees with me about John Goodman) came up with a few actors who's characters were so attractive that they became attractive to us because of it, even though they weren't the type we (and perhaps society) would typically term "sexy" -- I wish I could remember some of the other examples! The point being, the OP is right about not letting these things stand in ones way. People seem to think that the physical attraction comes first and everything else follows, and that without that initial physical chemistry, no relationship is possible. That's not always the case, or at least, it's not been the case in my experience.