Long distance relationships, can they work?

[sidious618]

So far we have managed to see each other for 2-3 days every week for the last 5 weeks. Can't be sustained indefinitely but we seem to be making it work for now.

And he's a trekkie..whats not to love?

Fuck, I don't want to see anyone more than twice a week.

 

[Pindar]

I did it for 8 years, we have been together a total of 23 years.

It has it's ups and downs.

We saw each other every weekend, a dash from work for the train on Fridays then 4 hours later we would be together.

Then back home on Sundays, I hated the traveling.

 

[HighteeHeller]

Wow! Eight years is a long time to do that! I glad to know you made it work.

 

[Finn]

I'm not sure I'd call it a long distance relationship if you are able to see your partner 3 times a week. I'd say it is if you go two weeks or more without seeing each other. I generally only see my girlfriend on the weekends, maybe once during the school week. It's because we have a busy schedule and we live across town from each other.

 

[HighteeHeller]

Well i don't know. Maybe some people wouldn't want to do a 3 hour drive every weekend so they maybe only see each other a couple times a month instead. It doesn't invalidate the nature of the relationship if your willing to travel a long distance weekly.

 

[msbae]

No. Go find yourself a girl that loves Trek.

 

[Pindar]

Wow! Eight years is a long time to do that! I glad to know you made it work.

If it's worth it, it's worth it.

 

[An Officer]

If you are both 100% committed to one another, and you are willing to work hard at it, then you can make anything work. You need to work from a base of love and respect though.

 

[Capt Garrovick]

Let me first start off with, I am that guy. The guy on the other side of your fence. I'm in a long distance relationship and I can tell you very little about that. I am new to it and find myself looking forward to what can develop. With out a doubt, I remain fearful of what may hurt us both. I stand committed to making it work and feel that any definition of a standard relationship does not translate to the days we live now. Try, fail. Try, fail. And yet try, try again. Love ain't necessarily easy, but when it's there - it should not be overlooked.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

They can. I almost had one. Hmm ... i guess it didn't work after all.

 

[HighteeHeller]

Let me first start off with, I am that guy. The guy on the other side of your fence. I'm in a long distance relationship and I can tell you very little about that. I am new to it and find myself looking forward to what can develop. With out a doubt, I remain fearful of what may hurt us both. I stand committed to making it work and feel that any definition of a standard relationship does not translate to the days we live now. Try, fail. Try, fail. And yet try, try again. Love ain't necessarily easy, but when it's there - it should not be overlooked.

Do you ever sleep!?

Love is the easy part, it's all the other shit that gets in the way.

 

[Capt Garrovick]

No I never sleep. I want only for my babies even though she may be so far away! If I had a hoo hoo, oh what I'd do!

 

[TorontoTrekker]

Since this thread was resurrected, I'll just provide a short update for those who might still think a long-distance relationship is too difficult... this past Wednesday marked six months that my sweetie and I have been together. We talk about four nights a week for a few hours each time, and we're still finding stuff to do and talk about. Tonight we made dinner together - a chicken casserole that is his mother's recipe - and we watched some Dead Like Me on DVD (since we both own both seasons of the show and the movie), and then we tried to play chess. Unfortunately the image was a little blurry and I was having trouble making out which pieces were where (I have a board of my own, but no men, so he had the board set up in front of his webcam), so we didn't actually finish the game. It was a fun evening, though.

So yes, I can assure you that long-distance relationships can be just as wonderful as regular ones.

(I still can't wait until he comes up to visit in about six weeks, though. )

 

[Capt Garrovick]

Good for you TorontoTrekker! You give great hope to all us broken up by distance but not of the heart. I wish you and yours all the best. Thanks for your words.

 

[BrotherBenny]

I live in the UK, and my American girlfriend lives in Texas. We met when she was in the UK at uni in '02 but didn't it off. We kept in touch and eventually decided to see what would happen in July '08. I spent xmas/new year with her and when she comes over here in june, I will propose. We've already started to get the visa thing sorted out.

Love and commitment is all you need. But it's hard. The internet and webcam/mike communication has made it easier, but not being able to hold her is the hardest part of all.

 

[SalvorHardin]

I guess they can work.

My fiancee has been living for quite a few months now in another country finishing her studies. Everything is going fine so far.
I can't say I like it much.

But it's not long now. A few more months and the long distance part will be over.
Until then it's webcam chats and cyber sex

 

[bigdaddy]

No.