the FUCK?
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what the hell are you on?
Go ahead and start insulting me now, but this is just one example of why I felt unwelcome on this board. I lurked before posting, but saw lots of interesting potential threads reduced to swearing and insults. I'm new, but that's not funny. IMHO, there are better, more civil ways to disagree.
I also felt defensive when I found derogatory comments to be insulting and they are let slide, because they are tolerated (welcomed? encouraged?) on many threads on this board. I'm a TNG fan and a VOY fan, and my impressions are that VOY and ENT are seen as less-worthy Trek (the more pot shots, the better), Seven is frequently objectified (the caption contest with Seven, Harry and B'Elanna is a series of threesome jokes) and Janeway is any number of negative female stereotypes, which are said as though they were fact. There seemed to me to be some unwritten acceptance for that kind of thinking, and it didn't seem worth it to bring it up because I'm not interested in having debates about shallowness, sexism, whatever it would be perceived as when bandied about, with extra insults and namecalling thrown in.
I don't come to the trekbbs for anything other than to read and talk Trek. I hope I'm civil and respectful, even if I disagree; lots aren't. The tone was not welcoming to me as someone who wasn't fixated on Seven's breasts, whether or not Janeway was a bitch, or whether VOY/ENT were a total waste of time. I've participated in several interesting convos, don't bother reading some posters at all anymore, and ignore parts of others posts. Nobody cares whether I stick around or not, and I know that, but I thought I'd share my experience as an alternate viewpoint to those who feel this is welcoming board to newbies. I'm fully expecting someone to reply with, "Well then leave the board if you hate it so much" or some other helpful point.
Peace.