Last time or how often you've lusted for someone....

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I own the copyrights to this thread.

I lusted after one of my closest friends for years. It was ... quite the one sided thing. He was straight you see and never felt anything like what i felt about him.

 

[Agony_Boothb]

I know what you mean Mr Mcbundy. I'm pretty sure i'm a bit head over heels for a close male friend. It's not lust, love maybe but regardless i have strong feelings for him. Anyway he has a fiance and a baby girl both of whom are awesome, so even if by some small chance he did have feelings for me not sure i could go there.

 

[Data Holmes]

I don't see why everyone gets so hung up on the exact "age bracket" deal.

Is not the objective to find someone you love, to spend the rest of your life with? If that is the mission and goal, than age is not a factor. The person, their personality, their maturity, none of that really matters. It's the "it thing" that just "clicks" in the brain when you are around them... that is all that really matters. You spend too much time obsessing on making sure they "fit the checklist" of requirements, and you'll no doubt miss out on the "real one".

 

[Tom Riley]

^ It's always been my thought that "the one" will be the person to make you set aside your "checklist". If you are seeing all the reasons why you shouldn't be with someone, then they clearly don't have enough going for them to distract you from that, and probably wouldn't work out in the long run.


About the OP's question, when you say lingering lust, I assume you don't mean crushes? Cause I have a crush on this guy, but I'd call that more than just lingering lust... there are two guys in my dorm building that I'd say I lust after, and it's more than just a "Damn he's hot" when I see him once, It's something I keep thinking about, but is in no way a crush. Is that you are talking about?

 

[Emher]

Last time was two times this past year. First it was a girl at the school I was studying at. Extremly cute, seemed nice, studied photography...but the clincher was this: the school had students all the way from grade school up to adult educations. I knew she was in the high school classes that shared the part of the building with us, but not which year. So she could have been as young as 15, which is too young for me.


After that this past winter I got to know one of the girls (well the only girl) in my class and we became good friends quickly. As things went along we came closer and closer to having something happen between us, and it all came to an head this spring when we both had had a really rough week.

But nothing came of it since she went out that weekend before I had a chance to ask if she wanted to come over, and she met a guy that weekend. She was with him for a few months, and then met her current guy. And during that time I realized that we are great friends her and I, but we would be a disastrous train wreck of a couple. Plus the guy she's with know is totally right for her and she's for the first time during the time I've know her really settled down.

So here's hoping I can find someone to lust over that is legal and lust at be back

Last time I let that happen I ended up doing a scene with the guy.

Awkward as hell, since he's 7 years younger than I am.

What's wrong with a younger guy?

Looking like a desperate cougar going after him.

Talking to his friends and realizing I could've babysat all of them.

Knowing I'm even closer to the end of my childbearing years than he is.

Oh tish tosh. You're a very attractive woman and in any case it's not that you're several decades older then him. Also I can't imagine a straight single guy being bothered about being pursued by an attractive woman.

Case in point:

Cougars are hot

Word brother!

I'd go with Crusherbunny being hot regardless though

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I think the last two genuine feelings of Lust™ (for me defined by the overwhelming urge to procreate with someone physically attractive, head and heart be damned) happened firstly at school when I was 16 and towards someone a year older than myself, with all the usual feelings occurring in the usual developing places; and again when I was 26, towards someone a few years younger (that was more awkward as I would work with that person a few months later).

Since then it's all been in the heart, always the heart, with downstairs starting to get a little neglected, admittedly. There have been others who have also been just as or more attractive, but due to mitigating circumstances (usually social clashes) the wheels just don't really turn for them.

 

[RAMA]

About 34 times yesterday, down from 56 the day before...today begins anew.

RAMA

 

[Warped9]

I should emphasize that in my OP I was making a distinction between lingering lust and a fleeting fancy as it pertains to me. It wasn't my intent to limit the discussion simply by my definitions. I was making a point that for me intense physical attraction has to have some other intangible to really have effect or a pretty girl is little more than what I might see in a magazine and with as little effect.

I, too, am mostly interested in meeting a significant other for a long term relationship. That said I'm reminded of two Frasier episodes that I found somewhat poignant.

In the first instance Frasier tries to deal with the situation where a much younger woman expresses her interest him. This is the one where Frasier goes shopping for clothes with Martin and the pretty young sales girl compliments Frasier and flirts with him. Of course he over analyses the situation and inevitably blows any possibility of something developing between the two of them.

In the second instance Frasier falls into a purely physical affair with an attractive young free spirit with whom he has nothing else in common. Of course he once again over analyses the situation rather than heed Roz's advice that perhaps he should just enjoy for as long as it lasts. Roz advises that for once Frasier should listen to his body rather than his mind.

I found those episodes rather poignant because in the past I've had somewhat parallel experiences. Indeed my sister-in-law also once advised me that in such situations I should just go for it, not think it to death and/or dismiss it because I might not see any for potential a long term relationship.

Something to ponder.

 

[Holdfast]

Last time I let that happen I ended up doing a scene with the guy.

In conjunction with the topic, this so makes it sound like you're doing porn these days.

When was the last time you've lusted for someone?

I will qualify my own response first because I think there's a distinction to be made. It's quite easy to find someone physically attractive and consider the potential of physical intimacy for a fleeting moment and then totally forget about it. I don't really consider this lusting because it's a very fleeting fancy. My idea of lusting is something that lingers and I cannot easily dismiss. I find myself thinking about this person in pretty much a purely physical sense long after I've encountered them. Of course it usually fades over a few days.

This is a stricter criterion than I was going to apply on reading the thread title, but it's probably a more meaningful one than a fleeting - and all too common(!) - "she's hot" thought.

I'd say about a month or so ago. She's single but for other reasons, it's a situation that would be a little complicated. Nothing dodgy, just potentially complicated/awkward for reasons I'm not going to go into here. Coincidentally enough, she contacted me just the other day on vaguely unrelated matter, though reading between the lines, one has to wonder. Haven't replied yet, mainly because I'm not yet sure what I actually want to do about it all because of the aforementioned potential complications.

 

[Kestra]

Is there no one else that lusts on a daily basis? Am I using the wrong definition? I'm basically just thinking "intense physical/sexual desire."

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Is there no one else that lusts on a daily basis? Am I using the wrong definition? I'm basically just thinking "intense physical/sexual desire."

If I had all of that on a daily basis, it would be ME complaining of a headache and a sore back.

 

[Emher]

Is there no one else that lusts on a daily basis? Am I using the wrong definition? I'm basically just thinking "intense physical/sexual desire."

Well yeah, like if I see a hot girl, but the OP said more intense lingering lustings.

 

[Lindley]

I have never had any "lingering" feelings of a purely physical nature. However, the last time I had lingering feelings with a notable physical component was in 2006.

I really wish I could have those sorts of feelings again, just to remind myself it's possible.

There is one girl I think about too much, but I wouldn't describe that as lust. More like an echo of an old crush that refuses to completely go away.

 

[nevermore]

I have spent a good portion of my life wondering if I was even capable of feeling passion...

As a Yankee fan you can't, I figured you knew that.

 

[Warped9]

Is there no one else that lusts on a daily basis? Am I using the wrong definition? I'm basically just thinking "intense physical/sexual desire."

Well yeah, like if I see a hot girl, but the OP said more intense lingering lustings.

That's how I defined it for myself. That doesn't mean that would automatically apply as other people's definition.

I can often see a girl who's hot and have the fleeting thought, "Yeah, I'd do her." but then the next one comes along and you forget about it. I don't call that lusting, but more a passing thought.

 

[Capn Flukie]

Last Friday, I saw a former co-worker from the bookstore at her new job. Lust indeed, but more than that, I could almost be content with just her smiling at me across the breakfast table. It's too bad she has no (that I know of) interest in me.

 

[Cicero]

I don't know that I ever have lusted for someone. I've certainly thought about persons being physically attractive (i.e. very pretty), but without an aspect of strong sexual desire.

 

[Niorah]

I am blessed in that I have a splendid creature with me, that I lust for every single day.

 

[Agony_Boothb]

photos/cardboard cut outs of rob pattinson don't count as people!

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

What about my photos of Chris Pine?