Seven was able to talk Chakotay into acting as her conduit to Janeway when the captain was too preoccupied. Chakotay was also the only one who was able to talk Janeway into letting the crew help instead of going it alone. As one of two people on the ship that Janeway relied on (Tuvok would be the other) it was only logical of Seven to appeal to Chakotay. The fact that he listened to her just means he was being a good first officer, imo. At the end of the episode though it was Janeway Seven turned turned to to discuss her "first religious experience". Ironically Chakotay seemed to be missing that inner peace during "Endgame". He was also off his game as a first officer. I mean, an older version of his captain shows up and he makes no effort to communicate with either one of them about what's going on? It was like his character was just along for the ride. Convenience is not a good basis for any relationship although I'll admit some people may end up lucky. You had a ton of advantages over Seven though. You had growing up as a human; learning what works and doesn't work socially. You had time to figure out the qualities that attracted you in the opposite sex. You had girlfriends to discuss hair, makeup and luna pads () with. You also didn't have a borg chip dampening all of your emotional responses. You may have bee nervous about taking the leap but ready or not you were certainly better prepared. The most beautiful Trek love story imo is the one where the Doctor and the Vidian doctor D'Nara Pel fell in love. I think the Doctor proved in that relationship that not only is he capable of looking beyond the externals and appreciating a woman for who she is warts and all but that he when cares about someone he doesn't need to be the center of the universe. Unfortunately in this case Chakotay looked like a guy in the middle of a mid-life crisis - not the most balanced period in any man's life.