I remember an episode of TNG--Captain Picard fell in love with a scientist and then had to send her on a away mission, she almost died. He realized that it would have been impossible for him to send his wife on a mission that could kill her and he couldn't play favorites by keeping her on Enterprise & not letting her do her job. I think Kathryn felt the same way. She was resonsible for everyone on Voyager, if they died under her command, she would accept that. What if it was her husband that she sent away and never came back? ('Isabo's Shirt' for the STV-Distant Shores novel touched on this.) When the Admiral came back in 'Endgame', she came back while Chakotay was entering another relationship, as she was the one who would have married him to Seven, did she come back at that time to keep that union from happening? I enjoyed 'Resolutions' very much. It allowed Kathryn and Chakotay to get to know each other as Starfleet Officers, not at Captain and Former Maquis. I noticed that after the episode, Kathryn finally saw Chakotay as her First Officer, he was the only one who called her Kathryn (can you imagine not ever hearing someone call you by your name?). She would confide in him first, they could say what ever they wanted to each other and never lost each others respect. Whenever they disagreed they always made it work.