I'm so ronery . . .

[backstept]

sorry . . . I watched Team America last night and got Kim Jong Il's song stuck in my head

anyway . . .

does anyone else feel lonely?
it seems like everyone I know is dating or has a girlfriend or boyfriend, or is married, or will be married soon

I know part of this feeling of malaise is just the seasonal depression brought on by short winter days, but I just can't help feeling a bit left out . . . I don't want to stay single forever


what I'm NOT looking for in this thread is dating advice, or well-meaning-but-insensitive encouragement
I just want to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way

 

[John Clark]

I have my moments, so I'd say you're not alone in feeling that way.

 

[RoJoHen]

I've been single my whole life, but I generally know why. I was more bothered by it a year ago when everyone I knew was dating someone. But now most of my friends are single, too. One thing I've come to realize is that I'm just not a "dater." I don't like the idea of dating someone just to date them, or being in a relationship just to not be single.

If I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to at least have some amount of confidence that it will last forever (or as close to forever as is humanly possible). My friends have all been in and out of relationships, and it sucks when they're in them and I'm not. But I like to think that my long-term single status will pay off in the end with a really amazing relationship.

Yes, I do get lonely. Often.

But I've got some good friends, and I try to just have fun with them and not worry about the rest. Something will come along.

 

[Lindley]

It's starting to become more of a problem lately.

 

[Kryton]

I'm right there...I got horribly ill over the summer and I'm still dealing with the long-term effects. I decided not to become involved with ANYONE until I'm in better health and a better place emotionally.

Doesn't make it any less ronery, though. Good thing my kitty loves me.

 

[An Officer]

^ Sorry to hear you were so ill, hope you're fully recovered now.

 

[The Squire of Gothos]

I used to, then I got an ex, and a daughter with said ex, now my free time is spent mentally grinding my teeth at her (my ex, not my daughter.)

Besides, after a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing, after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.

 

[Kryton]

^ Sorry to hear you were so ill, hope you're fully recovered now.

Thanks, but no...vital organ failure takes months and months to come back from. I'm probably around 75%-ish (though I forgot to take my vitamins today!).

 

[An Officer]

Wow. That's serious. Sounds as though you are on the road to recovery, at least. Get well soon!

 

[backstept]

I've been single my whole life, but I generally know why. I was more bothered by it a year ago when everyone I knew was dating someone. But now most of my friends are single, too. One thing I've come to realize is that I'm just not a "dater." I don't like the idea of dating someone just to date them, or being in a relationship just to not be single.

If I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to at least have some amount of confidence that it will last forever (or as close to forever as is humanly possible). My friends have all been in and out of relationships, and it sucks when they're in them and I'm not. But I like to think that my long-term single status will pay off in the end with a really amazing relationship.

Yes, I do get lonely. Often.

But I've got some good friends, and I try to just have fun with them and not worry about the rest. Something will come along.

I definitely agree with you on this. I would rather be single than have an endless succession of ex-girlfriends.

I believe that a lasting relationship is in my future, but for the time being I just haven't met any girls that I'm attracted to, not to mention the fact that I'm not one to talk much, and judging from popular opinion that girls like a confident guy, my shyness doesn't give me any points in that area.

I guess I just haven't met the right lady, and I'm sure I will at some point.


back when I was in highschool my church did this lame thing called True Love Waits. It was a program for kids and their parents to encourage abstinence until marriage . . . well it's been really easy for me! haha
it doesn't help that I'm totally inept at reading signals so if anyone was ever interested in me I failed to notice

well I'm glad to know that I'm normal in feeling down
I suppose I'll just be thankful that I only have myself to spend money on, and that I'll avoid all that other unfortunate relational angst involved with dating etc

^ Sorry to hear you were so ill, hope you're fully recovered now.

Thanks, but no...vital organ failure takes months and months to come back from. I'm probably around 75%-ish (though I forgot to take my vitamins today!).

oh dear!
I guess I can only wish you a steady and continual recovery and that nothing like that happens again

 

[RoJoHen]

I've been single my whole life, but I generally know why. I was more bothered by it a year ago when everyone I knew was dating someone. But now most of my friends are single, too. One thing I've come to realize is that I'm just not a "dater." I don't like the idea of dating someone just to date them, or being in a relationship just to not be single.

If I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to at least have some amount of confidence that it will last forever (or as close to forever as is humanly possible). My friends have all been in and out of relationships, and it sucks when they're in them and I'm not. But I like to think that my long-term single status will pay off in the end with a really amazing relationship.

Yes, I do get lonely. Often.

But I've got some good friends, and I try to just have fun with them and not worry about the rest. Something will come along.

I definitely agree with you on this. I would rather be single than have an endless succession of ex-girlfriends.

I believe that a lasting relationship is in my future, but for the time being I just haven't met any girls that I'm attracted to, not to mention the fact that I'm not one to talk much, and judging from popular opinion that girls like a confident guy, my shyness doesn't give me any points in that area.

I guess I just haven't met the right lady, and I'm sure I will at some point.

I haven't met a girl I was really interested in since high school, and that was over 6 years ago. In college, there were a few random girls that I would occasionally make out with when drunk, but that's about as far as it went.

I'm really not in a position these days to meet anyone. Plus, I don't really like the area I'm living in anymore, and I want to move next year when my lease is up, so finding a girl that would keep me in this place is the last thing I want. I'm trying to limit my attachments so that I can make a clean break and start fresh somewhere.

I wouldn't mind some more drunken make out sessions, though. It's been over 2 years since I've even kissed anybody!

 

[Emher]

Yeah I'm pretty lonely. Used to be worse now I have good female friend to spend some time with at least. Although I'm nuts about her, she's nuts about this other guy at the moment. Pretty much the story of my life, even my ex had another guy when she was still involved with me.

 

[Goji]

No, not really. If anything there are too many people around me. Too many crazy people. And not crazy in any "fun" way. Of course, there's that kind of crazy people around me too. Maybe that's why I'm not lonely. Or maybe it's because I am crazy myself. I don't know. It could very well be. What was the question again?

 

[JNG]

does anyone else feel lonely?
it seems like everyone I know is dating or has a girlfriend or boyfriend, or is married, or will be married soon

I know part of this feeling of malaise is just the seasonal depression brought on by short winter days, but I just can't help feeling a bit left out . . . I don't want to stay single forever

I was married in all but name for several years and it just ended a few weeks ago with virtually no warning or explanation. I love the winter short days, but they aren't enough to make me feel better.

There are so many lonely people in the world who never find one another. I hate sitting and thinking that there's someone else, sitting somewhere else at that very moment, who feels the same way I do—and that maybe we'd be great for one another, but circumstances will prevent us from ever meeting.

 

[loldrey]

I get lonely pretty much all the time, living in a town where I know no one. The difference is, for me it doesn't have anything to do with a lack of a relationship. I just wish I were closer to the people I care about (distance-wise).

 

[RJDiogenes]

Here in my contented middle years, I realize that being alone is my natural state, and I'm comfortable with it; if I were to get involved with someone, it would be because it made us both happy, not because I'm lonely or because there's some expectation. And I'm not really inclined toward casual dating these days, either. I did enough of that back in the day, and now it's time to catch up on my writing and art.

 

[Ruaidhri]

Well, I ended my ten year marriage this past March, and my closest family lives a 9 hour drive away in a different country.

I've had a weird almost-relationship with my best friend for the last few months, felt like we were a couple but she kept giving me mixed signals, and she told me on Thursday that she's getting engaged. I didn't handle it very well (I can't imagine our friendship could remain as close while she's with someone), and we've been in a running argument since, and the friendship might be over.

So yeah. I may be a wee bit lonely. Thank god for my dog, don't know what I'd do without her.

 

[OdoWanKenobi]

Yes, I am lonely. I've never had a girlfriend. My friends and I are all caught up so much by work and school that finding the time to hang out is very difficult. This is especially made worse by the fact that my younger brothers are out having fun with their friends every single nights, whereas I'm lucky to hang out with my friends once every couple weeks.

 

[blaXXer]

I hear ya, but still most of my firends are in a relationship by now, some of them even expecting a child and married *shudders*, but I'm quite happy in the 6 months I've been single now. Would not want to change it for the world.

See, I can get by just fine with casual sex and without a nagging constantly attention-demanding significant other when I get home after 12 hrs of working at my agency.

 

[Hermiod]

what I'm NOT looking for in this thread is dating advice, or well-meaning-but-insensitive encouragement
I just want to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way

You're not.