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I'm In India!

Well, the other night was fucking awful, but things are better now. My mother is on a lot of psych meds and and because of the surgery she couldn't take them for two days. At about 1 pm the day before yesterday she started hearing a marching band. I couldn't hear it, but then, I was born deaf and my hearing isn't exactly stellar. She still seemed fine but the drumming was getting louder and louder and not stopping, then she realized she was hearing the air conditioning, much more acutely than before. Soon it was other things, she was hearing conversations all the way down the hall in perfect detail. Her sense of smell became hyper acute too. She could smell the tiny spritz of vanilla scent I sprayed on myself after my shower, before I even left the bathroom, which should have been impossible. As night fell she got to the point where she couldn't close her eyes because every time she did she saw horrible things. She couldn't stand me being even across the room, I had to hold her hand. Of course, by then I had realized what was going on, having gone through withdrawal off some of the same medicines myself. Her withdrawal was just coming early and ten times stronger than anyone could have expected.

Since she could not take her tablets orally I tried to get her something like Ativan, which can be injected, to at least ease her anxiety and help her sleep, but we had to wait for the psychiatrist. All night long she had nightmares, talking and yelling in her sleep the whole time. I couldn't let go of her hand and had to wake her up whenever I thought they were getting too bad, which was at least ten times. I haven't seen her so crazy in years.

Thankfully, early the next morning the psychiatrist was able to come and give her her medicines. It was horrible, but only one bad experience this whole time, which is really saying something for a week and a half in a hospital.

Yesterday, after that horrible night of no sleep I had to go down to the foreign relations office as my mother's representative and register her, as she is here on a medical visa. Despite being dreadfully tired and still a bit anxious about my mother, I really enjoyed seeing more of Mumbai. The shops that I can't wait to explore, the animals wandering the streets downtown. I ate lunch at the best restaurant. I real hole-in-the-wall, famous in the city, where I cot samosa soup and a sweet dessert, the name of which I cannot remember (ghouleb something?), all for 5
about 25 cents. I love the monsoons. The deep grey skies contrast with the bright green and orange of the foliage. All the colors are saturated from being drenched everyday, and on occasion a bit of sun peeps through and the whole world glistens! I understand why in India the monsoons are considered the season of love.
 
Gulab Jamun? It's my husband's favorite of our desserts.

Sorry to hear it was such a rough night, but it sounds like you're handling it well. My thoughts are with you and your mother!
 
Strange that you had to wait until morning for them to call somebody in. I'm glad they got it all straightened out quickly, though.
 
Wow. tsq I know being a caregiver is rough, especially when a meds regime is interrupted. Please remember to give yourself a break now and then.
 
Kes, that's the dessert! Super sweet and not something I'd be able to enjoy every day, but a great treat.

Thanks to everyone for the supportive words. My mom is so much improved it's amazing. She's up and walking, up and down stairs. It's great. This weekend in the hospital and then on Monday we're checking into the Hyatt for a week during which time she'll continue treatment as an outpatient and we will finally get to be tourists!

I had a really wonderful, interesting conversation with my chaperone (the hospital provides me a chaperone whenever I desire to help navigate the city, which is nifty). One thing that I am asked often here, and that he asked me too, is my religion. Replying, "Atheist," is always the start of interesting discussion. My chaperone was positively shocked when I explained what Atheism was, but he was interested, and we talked about the fact that although I am Atheist, and live in a secular country, my life is still greatly informed by Christian morals and ideals, as Christians are the majority, likewise, although he is Buddhist, his life is very much influenced and informed by Hinduism, that being the majority religion here.

Another interesting subject we touched upon was Pakistan. I am very aware of the fact that the picture the news media shows us of the world is microscopic indeed, and that the chances are slim that what I see and hear, even on thorough andgenerally unbiased programs like PBS's News Hour, are entirely accurate or really convey the big picture. Bharat, my chaperone, brought up the subject and with the door opened I delved right in. It was his opinion that the people of India and Pakistan mostly consider themselves "brothers" and that all the violence is entirely on the government. It was definitely a different view than I had heard before, even from some of my Indian friends in the states. Bharat and I had similar liberal political leanings, and I surprised him when I told him that I did know, for example, that the Taliban were originally armed by the US government in the fight against the Soviet Union -- he thought it was something Americans didn't know.

We also talked about homosexuality. I already knew a bit about how it is viewed here; I knew about the crossdressing men who are considered dirty and deviant, who beg because they can't get jobs (or who work the only job people shunned for their sexuality can work). My first day out into the city our car was approached by a few trans beggers -- there's a name for them here but I can't remember what it is. The subject arose when Bharat asked me my living situation, and I told him I lived with two women and a man, he replied "Lucky guy," and I said, "Well, he's gay, so he's not into us." Bharat's first impression was of a crossdressing man, who behaved in every way like a woman. When I explained to him that no, Joseph wears a suit and tie every day, that he acts like any other guy, and that one wouldn't be able to tell just by looking at him that he is gay, Bharat was very surprised. He also asked me if I was afraid of Joseph, saying that he was afraid of the homosexual men here. I tried to explain that it was somewhat similar in the States in the past, and how perceptions of gays and gay rights started changing 40 years ago and were still changing. It was all very interesting. I have a lot of Indian friends, including one of my best friends, and I consider myself pretty worldly. Still there is so much I don't know, and it was great to have a long and open discussion; I think we learned a lot from eachother.

Has anyone here had a similar experience learning about another culture?
 
TSQ, you may be thinking of the word Hijra.

I am so glad to hear your mom is doing better. What a nightmare that evening must have been for you both. {{{squishy hugs}}}
 
Has anyone here had a similar experience learning about another culture?
Not by going and learning about in place, but I had an Irani roommate for a while and we used to stay up way too late and talk about all sorts of things, including Persian culture and what things were like there, both before the Shah was deposed and after Khomeini's regime took over. (The revolution had happened 5 or 6 years earlier; her father had been a businessman in Tehran and she'd been a student in France when that all went down.)

It was really interesting to get that kind of personal perspective on all of it, as compared to the version of Iran which came filtered through the news media and the government press releases. Not as immersive as what you're doing, but still pretty cool.
 
I'm happy to hear your mum is getting better, and that night was just a single rough spot in what has been a mostly positive endeavour. My heart goes to you and your mum. I wish her a even speedier recovery. Please make sure to take care of yourself as well.

I have to say, reading your tales about your experiences fills me with wonder. I knew you were a visual artist, but I didn't knew you could paint such a vibrant picture with just your words. I could close my eyes and see the city just like I was looking at a picture.

I've never experienced such an immersive dive into another culture (well, if you discount watching American TV almost all my life... but, for all the differences, Europe and the US are still part of the same western world). I've interacted with plenty of people from different countries, but I can't say I ever had a conversation like yours. It's really an inspiring and informative read.

So, in the end, thank you very much for sharing all this.
 
Good to hear that it's getting better, even though it's been a bit rough. Speaking as a guy who once at one time was near death for several days in a hospital, things get better.

As for the whole culture thing, not that much really. Well there was me having some fun with conservative southern people in Atlanta a few years back, but that's doesn't really qualify :lol:
 
Right now, tsq, this is one of the coolest threads in the entire board. Because you're bringing us the world unfiltered by politics and agendas. I'm very aware that the circumstances of how it came about, your mother's illness, aren't the best, but something good has come of it.

I had NO idea that the average Indian regards the Pakistanis as 'brothers'. None. Despite their national and religious differences... brothers. ANd the problems are caused by some political posturing, some nationalism, some terrorists. All we ever hear is how traumatic Partition was.

Please, if time allows, please keep telling us more. Ne knowledge is a wonderful thing.
 
Glad things are going well, tsq. :) When I see the thread title I always think afterward 'Now I'm on a horse!'. :D
 
I just caught up on this. What a story. I'm glad your mom is doing much better and I'm glad you're making the most of your trip. You sound like you're doing a nice job helping her out, too. You should be proud.
 
Wow! I am so happy you guys have enjoyed reading this thread -- I was worried it might be a bit bloggy, but as I'm not a blogging type I don't really have an outlet for my occasional blog...urges?...blogitis? Blog itch?

Anyway, my mother is doing very well, and the big news is that we've moved into the Renaissance Hotel (changed our minds about the Hyatt as this one is nicer and much closer to the hospital). We moved in yesterday, Thursday she has a check-up, and all things permitting, Friday we fly home.

I have so many more experiences to share! But only a few more minutes before my internet runs out (I paid for only an hour tonight as I'll be going to bed shortly). We went shopping today which was great fun. I learned to bargain in Cairo and so got some fair deals. One of my favorites being my new Harem pants:
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The hotel is stunning -- absolutely stunning. And tonight I discovered the chocolate cupboard. Oh yes, not only do we have a mini bar, but a chocolate cupboard. Bars and bars of chocolates and a stack of truffles. I just ate 5 truffles! But no more or I'll get a tummy ache.

I can't wait to share more of my experiences, but it'll have to be when I return to the States!
 
I asked my sister about London hotels, and she suggested checking out laterooms.com and lastminute.com because they sometimes have amazing offers from the really big hotels.

edit: don't mine me, I forgot you'd started a separate thread! sorry :)
 
Thursday she has a check-up, and all things permitting, Friday we fly home.
That's great news. I'm glad everything went well.

One of my favorites being my new Harem pants:
Better be careful you don't get kidnapped by a sheik. Or maybe not. I just watched Myrna Loy in The Barbarian and she seemed pretty happy. :rommie:
 
I know enough about minibars to stay out of them period. What do they charge for the chocolate cupboard? :eek:
 
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