No one is saying you will suffer consequences if you watch porn in your free time (that is, if it's of the legal variety). But I think many companies on this planet would have a very hard time keeping you working if during working hours and with important deadlines coming up you spend the time and company tools to create deepfake porn where you have sex with your female colleagues and humiliate your superiors.
It's not kink shaming. It's basic work ethics.
I assure you that even in many European countries where the worker is protected much more than in the States this would be enough for an immediate dismissal.
Okay.
But Barclay doesn’t just work on the Enterprise. He
lives on the Enterprise. And living on the Enterprise is compared to living in a dorm.
A lot of college students access porn, even when they can hook up with someone on campus. And the college years are also synonymous with an experimentation phase, as part of a road of self-discovery.
And knowing what we know now, the 21st century has taken some illiberal turns. And the 21st century is not liked in the TNG era.
Its extremely plausible that values have shifted so much in 350 years that the idea of deepfake porn warranting dismissal is seen as silly and archaic.
Especially when Betazoids and other telepaths can know of others around them are fantasizing about them.
It always gave me the impression that the holodeck was like someone playing a PlayStation game. It's not something particularly private and if someone wants to sit on the couch next to you and watch they don't even have to ask permission.
Less like Playstation. More like Steam, seeing as adult visual novels can actually be purchased.
That said, some gamers just prefer playing solo, instead of with groups of people.
You pay for holosuites for privacy and pornography.
"Someone" was disgusted with Quark when they thought that he was letting season one Jake into a holosuite to fuc%, but he was just playing baseball.
Human holodecks are a different kettle of fish.
And it makes sense that the Federation, which makes a big deal about not using money, would believe that they can access anyone’s holodeck time at any moment. You can’t buy privacy, at least on their property.