Oh no, not the "was Dukat really that bad?" discussion again!

We've been through this before.
Navaros, I'll just refer you to my previous post from another thread:
http://trekbbs.com/showpost.php?p=3717442&postcount=52
I can't imagine Kira EVER having a romantic relationship with Dukat. It would be like a Holocaust survivor ending up in a romantic relationship with, a still alive, Adolph Hitler in 1949.
Not exactly. More like, a resistance fighter from one of the colonized countries ending up in a romantic relationship with a former colonial administrator, or, if you prefer the Nazi analogies, one of the most prominent fighters in the French Resistance entering into a relationship with the head of the German occupation army. Still extremely unlikely and outrageous. There's no need to use hyperbolic and incorrect parallels to drive that point home.
Season Four:
Indiscretion - He had an affair with a Bajoran woman who was essentially one of his subjects and incapable of saying "no." I have serious doubts that Ziyal's mother actually loved him, no matter what he says about the matter.
I find it hard to believe that Ziyal, having grown up by her mother, would not be aware if her mother didn't love her father at all. I think that children can sense when parents hate each other or are miserable, and I can't see her adoring her father that way if she thought her mother was his mistress only because she had no other choice.
But everything else you list is true - Dukat was always shown to be a ruthless, cruel, egotistical, calculated, racist despot and murderer and one of the worst products of the Cardassian military and social system.
I do think they should have went with the similar storyline that was floated around and which Alaimo really wanted to do, which was Kira and Dukat having a romantic relationship (eventually they changed the idea to make it Kira's mother, but making it Kira herself would have been way better).
I'll refer you to another previous thread, also started by
mystikgeek, where this was debated in detail. I believe that a few of us (PS Garak, JustKate, NerysGhemor, and me) have explained the problems with that idea a bit more eloquently than "Dukat is a horrible person and Kira hates him, blah blah blah".
http://trekbbs.com/showthread.php?t=105683&page=2
Let's put aside the issue of whether
you find Dukat to be a horrible person or guilty of terible crimes - which you (Navaros and mystikgeek) don't seem to - ask yourself, do you really believe that Kira, with her history, her past, her personality - would find it a remotely acceptable idea to have a relationship with him? Try to put yourself in her shoes. Would it really be convincing, can you see her deciding that, since he was so charming, it just didn't matter that he had enforced occupation of Bajor, with forced labor, sexual slavery, random executions, and other crimes for years, and was responsible for the deaths of millions of Bajorans? You as a viewer may not care much about it, since, as viewers, we can just care about how interesting or charismatic or fun a character is; but imagine if you were a real person with a backstory like Kira's? Keep in mind that this is the man who had been the symbol of Cardassian oppression, of everything she had fought against all her life.
Thinking about the possibilities if the show had gone that road as the writers intended at one point, it could have been done it two different ways - and both present huge problems, as
flemm put it
in this post:
I will add this: I'm glad the writers avoided the trap of Kira and Dukat becoming romantically involved for a couple of reasons. Basically there were two options here.
On the one hand, a sincere romance and a redemptive arc for Dukat. This would have been unimaginable from Kira's point of view (thank you, Nana Visitor), and it would have been far too easy a resolution to Dukat's dark past and meglomaniacal urges.
On the other hand, a Stockholm Syndrome-style warped dependancy whereby Kira is seduced and manipulated by Dukat. I imagine this was the one the writers were tempted by, and it must have been very tempting indeed. It seems somewhat topical, and psychologically plausible, at least potentially. But it would have made a victim of Kira, and one of the things that is great about Kira is that she is vulnerable and traumatized at the beginning, but not doomed to be a victim eternally.
What we ended up getting with Kira was great: she went through hell during the occupation, and she goes through a lot more over the course of seven seasons, but she emerges as a whole person who is stronger for it. This is what makes her character arc one of the best in Trek, and I'm very glad it wasn't sacrificed on the alter of having her sleep with Dukat for however long.
If the writers had opted for a redemptive storyarc for Dukat, a romance with Kira would not be the best way to do it. It would made the show fall into a trap of an over-used cliche/romantic fantasy "bad man turns good through heroine's love", which works better when it involves teenage girls and high school drop-outs, but would look out of place withdictators/war criminals and resistance fighters who fought against them... NerysGhemor
explained best why:
A redemptive arc, in my opinion, could not even happen with a romance--at least not for YEARS in the future.
Look at St. Paul--he was VERY similar. Full of himself and bent on killing anyone he disagreed with. And when he came around...that was a truly devastating experience to go through. He encountered tremendous mistrust and it was only over time that people came to accept him. And I truly believe (personally--this is not any official theological stance) that one of the reasons he never married was because of how much guilt he still felt for his actions before the Road to Damascus.
If Dukat TRULY repented, TRULY felt the weight of all of his sins--believe me. With all that the guy has done, there is NO WAY he would be in any kind of shape for a relationship. Perhaps Kira might feel sorry for him, perhaps find someone who could help him put himself back together (clergy or a counselor), but actually be in a romantic relationship? No.
I suspect that what Behr had in mind (especially knowing his views on Dukat, and that he wanted it to happen in season 6, when any redemptive arc for Dukat had become extremely unlikely) was closer to the second option that
flemm mentioned - some kind of warped, dark, angsty relationship based on Dukat's manipulation and Kira's issues and traumas. That could have been interesting - but at the expense of making Kira look much weaker and turning her into a victim. (I am guessing that this was the type of relationship they eventually transferred to Kira's mom, but Kira's mom was portrayed as a having a much weaker personality.) Kira is vulnerable, but her strong will and uncompromising attitude are her most important characteristics.
I guess one could show a momentary weakness or dark period in such a character, but then it would be very tricky how to follow up on that? I've read a couple of fanfics that tried to did something similar to what the writers on the show might have intended - have Kira sleep with Dukat during the Dominion Occupation arc - and managed to make it look pretty convincing, but only because they portrayed it as a result of Kira going through a period of self-loathing, struggling with her demons, and generally being in a very dark place; and because there was no attempt to make it look like a genuine romance or a normal relationship. (I've never read a fanfic that made the latter look convincing - even when they were very well written, I always found myself thinking "No, I'm not really buying this.") But fanfics have an advantage that the show would not have: they didn't have to - and did not - follow up on it. If a storyline like that had been introduced on the show, it would have to have huge psychological consequences to Kira's character - because, for her, sleeping with Dukat would feel like betraying all her principles. How would they have followed it? Most likely, by having one or two episodes where it's dealt with, and then everything back to normal? (Just like O'Brien never seemed to feel any psychological consequences of his experience in
Hard Time, or Odo's linking with the Founder and temporary betrayal during the Dominion arc eventually had no lasting effect on any of his relationships with anyone on DS9?) Really not a good idea. (And for the record, I find it easier to believe that Kira would forgive Odo for his betrayal, than that she could forgive herself if she got involved with Dukat.)