^ You are right. I just wish I had more strength & trust.
I Wish I Had A Friend
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Eh, mid 30s, yeah. But I'm in my mid 50s, so there are long times, even now...
Dennis Leary has a very blunt assessment, from which I take this: life has only moments of joy, it doesn't roll through the whole day, so when the moment comes (a good cup of coffee, the scent of fresh bread, a stranger's smile), we recognise it, savour it, and move on through the other stuff. It gets me through each day. (Leary's comments are in his video, 'Lock And Load').
Dennis Leary has a very blunt assessment, from which I take this: life has only moments of joy, it doesn't roll through the whole day, so when the moment comes (a good cup of coffee, the scent of fresh bread, a stranger's smile), we recognise it, savour it, and move on through the other stuff. It gets me through each day. (Leary's comments are in his video, 'Lock And Load').
^ True. I am embarrassed to have started this thread to be honest. I appreciate all the kind words, thoughts & advice. 
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^ True. I am embarrassed to have started this thread to be honest. I appreciate all the kind words, thoughts & advice.
Don't be embarrassed. No one should ever be embarrassed to call out for friends. No one should ever be embarrassed to seek out love, and kindness. You deserve love and kindness. You've got a friend.
maybe that was your first step and Leap!
^ True. I am embarrassed to have started this thread to be honest. I appreciate all the kind words, thoughts & advice.
Don't be embarrassed. No one should ever be embarrassed to call out for friends. No one should ever be embarrassed to seek out love, and kindness. You deserve love and kindness. You've got a friend.
Listen to J...wise words there...
...and you just took your first step!...keep moving forward!
Incidentally: really not that uncommon to hit a rough patch in your mid-thirties. Especially your mid-thirties today, which are happening in a much different world than the one your parents or grandparents faced. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Something that bothers me that others have said about me is they think I am mentally retarded. If that is the case then so be it, I have worked with and have family that are mentally retarded but I don't think I am and no professional has diagnosed me as being that way. 
I was wondering how this thread got so immediately serious.
Hopeless poverty.
ETA: I have a laptop and internet access I am part of the 1 Percent.
If you want the truth I have jeans, 2 shirts and a pair of underwear/socks + shoes I have had for a few years. The house I live in doesn't have full electricity and no hot water unless it is heated on a stove.
I am sorry but my spirit has been broken for a while now.
-I want out of my life.
How old are you, what was your previous job, what's your education, what is the stuff you are good at, and why can't you get a new job?
Do you have meetup where you live?
http://www.meetup.com/
They are most places, good way to just find something social to do that is usually free. Random people show up with some talking/doing point and do it. It can be good to have some social outlets even if you don't make friends at them, just to have acquaintances is nice.
I can relate to what Australis said about friends. Most of my socializing is with my family which is large and I find everyone much more interesting and less hard work than other people.
Also online is good, it's not necessarily a lesser thing in friendships.
http://www.meetup.com/
They are most places, good way to just find something social to do that is usually free. Random people show up with some talking/doing point and do it. It can be good to have some social outlets even if you don't make friends at them, just to have acquaintances is nice.
I can relate to what Australis said about friends. Most of my socializing is with my family which is large and I find everyone much more interesting and less hard work than other people.
Also online is good, it's not necessarily a lesser thing in friendships.
TayLaLaLa, PM me whenever you like, okay?
This is true. I met someone online with whom I developed the deepest, most satisfying friendship I've ever had and things have now developed to the point that we are likely to marry. I was'nt even looking for someone. We just started talking.
The point is, don't give up on people just because those around you are disappointing. Your friends are out there. You just need to find them.
^ Yup. The two women I am closest to in real life both started out as online friends. One is now my unofficial daughter.
Believe it or not, I have been where you are now. When I lost a very successful business, I was even homeless (living out of my truck, having lost everything I owned). When my money was gone, so were my friends.
Eventually, I made new friends... friends who were there even though I had nothing. Many are still friends today. So, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
As others have said, I am here if you need a friend. Where are you located? It may be that some of us are close enough to meet you. Often, just a cup of coffee with someone will help you get past the rough patches.
Eventually, I made new friends... friends who were there even though I had nothing. Many are still friends today. So, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
As others have said, I am here if you need a friend. Where are you located? It may be that some of us are close enough to meet you. Often, just a cup of coffee with someone will help you get past the rough patches.
That you definitely aren't! Your grammar is among the best I've seen here on TrekBBS, you explain well and make perfect sense. I bet your IQ is a good deal higher than that of the malicious people who call you retarded.
As for the unemployment: what's your profession and in which area do you live (or would like to work)? We could keep an eye open for any fitting job offers and point you to them. They say 4 eyes see more than 2 - here at the BBS you have 100 eyes to help you look.
I very much agree with what was said previousely: mid-30s appears to be a time of catastrophies and desasters. It does get better, honestly.
I just started a penpalship with Phil via snailmail, and hijol and I are exchanging emails on a rather regular basis. Would you like to join in?
Quite a few people here have become RL friends of mine, over the years. I'm sure the same thing will happen to you, too
Whenever you feel in the mood to talk, we can PM, email or meet on an instant messenger. Sometimes it already helps to have someone who can listen.
And as I come from a very poor family, I totally understand the frustration not having any money can cause. It's not an easy life but it would propably be even more frustrating to be rich and stupid. Just look at Justin Bieber or Paris Hilton! Who would want to trade their common sense for these people's money?
Just don't give up: luck favours the bold and the tough ones. Just hang on and in a few years you'll have a job, money and a place of your own. And looking at this thread it would seem to me that you have quite a few friends here
(Count me in, ok? )^ True. I am embarrassed to have started this thread to be honest. I appreciate all the kind words, thoughts & advice.
I was in a similar frame-of-mind last year, felt like my life was going no where fast and caught myself envying my closest family and friends for the success they've achieved, I was trapped in my "I'm the baby sibling, my problems are superseded by older and more serious issues in the family"; but then my older brother gave me some valuable advice and words of wisdom.
"Hey, this is a brief chapter in your life story, your the author so go out and write the best damn epic saga for yourself... one day you'll look back and think - how far I've come since those days of loneliness and jealousy."
So keep your head up, take some time to hash out a game plan for your epic life story and go sell it (to yourself) because you are the only one that can truly make a change in your life, your the star of your show and we are here to cheer you on and give morale support... Things will get better, just don't give up my friend.
Wishing you find all the success and happiness you seek... VORTEX8472
a little proof-reading never harms, though 
LOL just pulling your leg, Vortex. I like the image of the epos to write. (isn't it a bit annoying that older siblings are always right?)
LOL just pulling your leg, Vortex. I like the image of the epos to write. (isn't it a bit annoying that older siblings are always right?)
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