I think my girlfriend is a Christian! Advice needed.

[tomalak301]

Depends on the qualities. Is she/he hurting you by saying what her religion is? If yes, than I do think you have issues if you liked her before but not now because of that one thing. It seemed like they were getting it off fine, until the OP found out she was a christian. If I was in the girls position and someone did that to me, I would be upset and break off the relationship myself because the guy turned into a total douche.

There are plenty of religions/beliefs that would be a deal breaker for me. You have to respect the person you're with. If you really can't find it in you to respect their beliefs even if you don't share them then you better get out now because that lack of respect is going to erode your relationship.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who though I was deluded.

I think that is what I'm trying to say. You have this relationship that seems to have a cool mutual respect, and then one of them finds out the other is something you don't agree with and then make a sweeping generalization that because she is this way, she is obviously deluded. So much for that mutual respect.

ThankQ, That one quality and one opinion changes everything because of said generalization. It isn't just "one" quality. It's just the root of everything that comes after in the relationship.

 

[ThankQ]

Depends on the qualities. Is she/he hurting you by saying what her religion is? If yes, than I do think you have issues if you liked her before but not now because of that one thing. It seemed like they were getting it off fine, until the OP found out she was a christian. If I was in the girls position and someone did that to me, I would be upset and break off the relationship myself because the guy turned into a total douche.

There are plenty of religions/beliefs that would be a deal breaker for me. You have to respect the person you're with. If you really can't find it in you to respect their beliefs even if you don't share them then you better get out now because that lack of respect is going to erode your relationship.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who though I was deluded.

How could you ever respect them enough to have a mutual relationship?

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I am a Christian but I would never refuse to date someone just because she doesn't believe as I do. That would be insulting and rude. And no matter what her beliefs might be, I'd never think them 'deluded' or anything like that.

People ask me why I don't seek out a singles group at my church...I think I'd feel guilty about using a house of God as a dating pool.

 

[ThankQ]

Depends on the qualities. Is she/he hurting you by saying what her religion is? If yes, than I do think you have issues if you liked her before but not now because of that one thing. It seemed like they were getting it off fine, until the OP found out she was a christian. If I was in the girls position and someone did that to me, I would be upset and break off the relationship myself because the guy turned into a total douche.

There are plenty of religions/beliefs that would be a deal breaker for me. You have to respect the person you're with. If you really can't find it in you to respect their beliefs even if you don't share them then you better get out now because that lack of respect is going to erode your relationship.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who though I was deluded.

I think that is what I'm trying to say. You have this relationship that seems to have a cool mutual respect, and then one of them finds out the other is something you don't agree with and then make a sweeping generalization that because she is this way, she is obviously deluded. So much for that mutual respect.

But if you are of the opinion that religious beliefs are a delusion, you have no choice other than to conclude that she is deluded.

ThankQ, That one quality and one opinion changes everything because of said generalization. It isn't just "one" quality. It's just the root of everything that comes after in the relationship.

Oh, the "one douche quality" bit was a bit of fun. I should have capped it with a My bad.

People ask me why I don't seek out a singles group at my church...I think I'd feel guilty about using a house of God as a dating pool.

I never felt guilty

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

Depends on the qualities. Is she/he hurting you by saying what her religion is? If yes, than I do think you have issues if you liked her before but not now because of that one thing. It seemed like they were getting it off fine, until the OP found out she was a christian. If I was in the girls position and someone did that to me, I would be upset and break off the relationship myself because the guy turned into a total douche.

There are plenty of religions/beliefs that would be a deal breaker for me. You have to respect the person you're with. If you really can't find it in you to respect their beliefs even if you don't share them then you better get out now because that lack of respect is going to erode your relationship.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who though I was deluded.

How could you ever respect them enough to have a mutual relationship?

People fool themselves. There might be plenty you like about the other person so you overlook that they think when they die they will get a planet full of virgins and be a god. It's not like this is going to come up every day so it's easy to push it away from your thoughts. But that is exactly the kind of shit that erodes away your respect for the whole person. It doesn't mean you won't still think they are a good person or have lots in common with them but such beliefs are a lot more fundamental than just taste in tv.

This isn't even bringing children into it, which is when the person with the beliefs tends to start getting more serious about them.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

People ask me why I don't seek out a singles group at my church...I think I'd feel guilty about using a house of God as a dating pool.

I smell the fine aroma of an excuse.

Do you use the church toilets?

 

[ThankQ]

People ask me why I don't seek out a singles group at my church...I think I'd feel guilty about using a house of God as a dating pool.

I smell the fine aroma of an excuse.

Do you use the church toilets?

I'm sorry to admit that it took me a few seconds to figure out where the hell you were going with that.

This smiley has never before so perfectly fit my reaction in reading your post:

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

She's right, actually. I shouldn't feel guilty about it, if only for the fact that my church actually HAS a singles group and it is obviously meant to be used.

 

[ThankQ]

She's right, actually. I shouldn't feel guilty about it, if only for the fact that my church actually HAS a singles group and it is obviously meant to be used.

So singles are there to be used? That's what you're saying? THAT WHAT YOU"RE SAYING? HMMMMM???

Pig. I should have known!

 

[Scout101]

Really? Last series of threads literally ended in a confession of trolling, and mods are letting this start up again?

 

[Darth Duck]

MadBaggins, I once dated a Christian girl. It was fine, until I wanted to have sex, and she wanted to have sex but her religiosity wouldn't let her have sex ("sometimes I wish God didn't exist so we could have sex."). Then things became tense and not very much fun because I could have been getting laid if not for "God." Also, after her next boyfriend she came out as a lesbian, so I was her beard. So in short. DTMFA. It can only end in tears and blue balls.

 

[Misfit Toy]

MadBaggins, search your soul and listen to your heart. You'll know what to do.

 

[archeryguy1701]

Really? Last series of threads literally ended in a confession of trolling, and mods are letting this start up again?

If I remember the discussion from the previous thread, they knew it was fake the whole time. So, allowing this one to move forward isn't exactly anything new.

I, for one, welcome the return of our sex-crazed overlord who rarely makes sense.

 

[TheGodBen]

Really? Last series of threads literally ended in a confession of trolling, and mods are letting this start up again?

Apparently that finale has been retconned out of the story to allow for a new season. I'm not entirely happy with it, and I hope that we get some sort of explanation like it being a drug-induced dream, but I'm willing to see how this season develops before I make a final judgement. I'm not excited by this new Christian angle to the story, but I'm sure we'll be up to our noses in incestuous and homosexual sex in no time.

 

[ThankQ]

I'm not excited by this new Christian angle to the story, but I'm sure we'll be up to our noses in incestuous and homosexual sex in no time.

That's not at all Christian. Now, offering your daughter to a rape gang to prevent homosexual sex, you got yourself the work of an all-knowing, all-loving God!

 

[Satyrquaze]

I read the OP and all I could think of was a quote from Blue Harvest.

Chris (Luke Skywalker): You don't believe in the Force, do you?
Peter (Han Solo): Oh, you mean the thing you just found out about three hours ago and are now judging *me* for not believing in?

She sounds like a good person, who happens to be christian. You sound like a crazy judgmental athiest who doesn't trust his girlfriend enough to tell her the truth.

My girlfriend is catholic and I'm pagan. We love eachother. We tell eachother everything and her family accepts me for who I am.

Friendship is based on mutual respect. If you think shes deluded, you don't respect her.

 

[Holdfast]

Baggins, I'm a gonna hurt you.

Wait, you're the Christian chick?

I sense much win in you.

 

[Alrik]

Baggins, I'm a gonna hurt you.

Wait, you're the Christian chick?

I sense much win in you.

I nominate this for PotD!

 

[Zulu Romeo]

MadBaggins, search your soul and listen to your heart. You'll know what to do.

Just don't get the two mixed up. I did once, and I ended up with a disturbing voice in my head and a handful of my own blood. Fun times trying to explain that to the magistrate.

 

[ThankQ]

If you think shes deluded, you don't respect her.

I disagree. Circle gets the square!

A delusion is a belief held with absolute conviction despite superior evidence

Unless there is perfectly adjusted person among us, we ALL have delusions. Most of the guys who post in MISC that they can't find a girl have delusions about their own self-worth/self-value--they think their worth less as a person than they actually are. That's a delusion. There are beautiful women who think all men only want them for sex and that it's impossible to find someone who will cherish them as a person. That's a delusion.

We all see the world through our own filters, and those filters are not perfect. We are all deluded about something in some way.

I am of the opinion that all religious people are deluding themselves. Someone is going to come in and say that's a gross (in two meanings of the word) generalization. It is not. In my opinion "a belief held with absolute conviction despite superior evidence" describes religious belief. Therefore, religious belief = delusion. It's not a generalization; it's a definition.

If you think shes deluded, you don't respect her.

While I think that religious beliefs are delusions, I have respect for a great number of religious people. To think someone has a delusion does not preclude you from respecting them. If that were the case, no one could respect anyone.

I think people are thinking of "delusional" in the same way as demented (being in the state of dementia). A delusion is confined to one specific area of thought or belief.