Long story short, a female acquaintance separated left her emotionally abusive husband around January of this year. I learned of it about two months later on a chance telephone call to her when I was looking for him (his cell phone was disconnected and I wanted to return an engine hoist to him). We talked for about two hours where I was able to assure her I understand what she had endured as 1) the guy has the maturity of a 14 year old, 2) he has trouble holding a job as he's always getting hurt. A lot of people think he's "Oh so funny" because he always pops off with smart-ass comments about anyone and everyone that are actually very inappropriate and hurtful. He treated her like this in front of "the group" for a long time, and I caught on quick by watching her reaction many of the times the group congregated. It's the typical spouse is an asshole Catch-22 scenario.
Anyway, since I've been through what she had been through, I was able to empathize with her in many ways. I was basically a lifeline for her, because no one could understand her situation, whereas I could. That gave her a much needed level of sanity. I also gave her a book that I bought when I was enduring my divorce that aids the reader in dealing with the emotional turmoil that accompanies the end of a relationship. She's very intelligent and burned through the book in a matter of days and reported back to me that it helped her very much.
As time went by, she started e-mailing me with very simple messages: "Hope you are well and have a good day!!!" Every once in a while, we'd e-mail for a while as she is a Pharmacy Technician and surfs when there isn't much going on. These sporadic, random e-mails go on for a while and she would also vent to me issues about the divorce and I would keep her grounded (she's a fiery red head
) Summer comes a long and she forced his hand to sign the divorce papers. She's free and clear of him and I invited her to come by my place on a Saturday to chat. Well, she comes by around 1:30 and we end up chatting, drinking beer, and chatting until 2:00AM 
I e-mailed her the following Monday apologizing for keeping her there so late, and she (lightly) chastises me saying not to worry and that she had a good time as well.
So here's the deal, she's 34 with a 19 year old son who is smart as a whip. He's in college and she's starting fresh and can live her life not being smothered, like she was with her ex. She's teaching an occasional Pharmacy related course as well as taking extra classes to further herself in her field. I like that about her. She's smart.
A female friend of mine told me that this woman has been testing the waters with her e-mails (by telling me to have a good day and all that) about having a relationship with me. OK, I can deal with that, but her modus operandi is a bit strange to me. A couple of weeks ago, the brakes went out in my truck and I needed a ride to town. Luckily, she had the day off as well and gave me a ride to town. She stated that she'd come out the following day to help me bleed the brakes, but for some reason never appeared. I called her in the morning and she stated she would be at my place in an hour or so, but nada. I called a few hours later and ended up leaving a voicemail. I never heard back from her all weekend, but yet a few days later, another "Have a good day" e-mail. My female friend is perplexed by what's going on, so I'm wondering if any women-folk here could shed some light. I'm debating on being more direct with her, but am not sure if I want to proceed that way.
Anyway, since I've been through what she had been through, I was able to empathize with her in many ways. I was basically a lifeline for her, because no one could understand her situation, whereas I could. That gave her a much needed level of sanity. I also gave her a book that I bought when I was enduring my divorce that aids the reader in dealing with the emotional turmoil that accompanies the end of a relationship. She's very intelligent and burned through the book in a matter of days and reported back to me that it helped her very much.
As time went by, she started e-mailing me with very simple messages: "Hope you are well and have a good day!!!" Every once in a while, we'd e-mail for a while as she is a Pharmacy Technician and surfs when there isn't much going on. These sporadic, random e-mails go on for a while and she would also vent to me issues about the divorce and I would keep her grounded (she's a fiery red head
) Summer comes a long and she forced his hand to sign the divorce papers. She's free and clear of him and I invited her to come by my place on a Saturday to chat. Well, she comes by around 1:30 and we end up chatting, drinking beer, and chatting until 2:00AM I e-mailed her the following Monday apologizing for keeping her there so late, and she (lightly) chastises me saying not to worry and that she had a good time as well.So here's the deal, she's 34 with a 19 year old son who is smart as a whip. He's in college and she's starting fresh and can live her life not being smothered, like she was with her ex. She's teaching an occasional Pharmacy related course as well as taking extra classes to further herself in her field. I like that about her. She's smart.
A female friend of mine told me that this woman has been testing the waters with her e-mails (by telling me to have a good day and all that) about having a relationship with me. OK, I can deal with that, but her modus operandi is a bit strange to me. A couple of weeks ago, the brakes went out in my truck and I needed a ride to town. Luckily, she had the day off as well and gave me a ride to town. She stated that she'd come out the following day to help me bleed the brakes, but for some reason never appeared. I called her in the morning and she stated she would be at my place in an hour or so, but nada. I called a few hours later and ended up leaving a voicemail. I never heard back from her all weekend, but yet a few days later, another "Have a good day" e-mail. My female friend is perplexed by what's going on, so I'm wondering if any women-folk here could shed some light. I'm debating on being more direct with her, but am not sure if I want to proceed that way.
