Oh yeah. My brother told me that many of his friends who came out lost not only friends but their families. Sad.
I came out. Yay me.
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Good for you! It's great that you have such a good friend. 
If that's all you have to go by, then he isn't necessarily gay or asexual. I mean, subtract one year off that age and that sentence would describe me perfectly, yet I am 100% straight. Not all heterosexuals flaunt it.
If that's all you have to go by, then he isn't necessarily gay or asexual. I mean, subtract one year off that age and that sentence would describe me perfectly, yet I am 100% straight. Not all heterosexuals flaunt it.
That was Curly. You'll need to call each other "Onion Head" and "Porcupine."I'm in!!! Only, that spelling of "Moe" makes me think we all have to have bowl haircuts and say "nyuk, nyuk, nyuk" a lot.
Congratulations on coming out! I first came out to my best friend as well. They always seem to have the funniest things to say; We were in gym and he stepped out to get a drink so I cornered him at the water fountain and told him I was gay and he just stopped for a second and said, "I suppose I should stop trying to find you a girlfriend...". Anyways, you're lucky to have a good friend. 
I'm in! As long as our tagline can be "We don't like THE WOMEN!"
I still think we need to start our own Facebook page. We can call it "Moes of the TBBS" or something like that.
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Welcome! Glad to have you on the team.
The council is preparing the initiation proceedings as we speak...
When I came out, it was out of annoyance: my little brother kept raving on and on about how finally have to find a girlfriend. He wouldn't shut up and got so on my nerves that I just told him 'I'm gay'.
Yeah, he was silent after that
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Yep. My extended family is still convinced I'm gay, because I'm not married or have anyone pregnant. Most of my family members were married around the ages of 17-20, with my brother getting married at 19. I am currently the oldest single (as in never married) person in the family, so I must be gay.
Congratulations! It is fantastic that more and more people can be themselves. Have a great time.
While I'm of course pleased you have stopped hiding, I must say I'm concerned and upset you felt the need to hide it, and that you should feel worried about telling someone- and your best friend of all people! It's your sexuality, my friend, it should be no more a deal than your hair colour or whether you're left or right handed. When people in my community at age 16 or so said "I'm gay" it was something completely casual. I'm worried that you seem to think it's normal or natural to be concerned, even about telling your best friend.
And I'm worried that every other response seems to also accept this terrible nervousness as well, as though it's a massive hurdle.
It was more of a case of him being the first person Ive told and moreso admitting it to myself. I can't see how anyone could not be nervous at the thought of losing someone who is close to them?
In an ideal world, yeah, it would be great if everyone loved everyone regardless of sexuality, but life being what it is, I risked losing someone who is a very important in my life. The thought that, like many others, he would react badly to my sexuality, to be honest, scared the crap out of me.
ALSO, thank you to all who have shown support. I honestly, was not expecting such a response. It is seriously like such a massive weight has been lifted. After 25 years of crawling, im finally beginning to walk. Theres no fascade anymore. He's even pointing out good looking guys in the street for me. The sign of a true friend.
Congratulations! I am so happy for you!
What a true friend!I have a gay friend who did the same thing when he came out. Thought for certain I'd hate him, etc but was very relieved to have it all out there. He cracks up at a line I stole from SouthPark when I call him a "gay homosexual". He also told me that years ago, when he and other gay friends visited and partied in Dallas, they never "walked straight" down the road -- it was always "gaily forward".
No damnit, he must be categorized in to one of 5 boxes prepared by professional survey-writers!
I think it's a very real possibility that it's because he's the kind of guy that doesn't half-ass anything and he's not ready to share his life with someone at this point.
I'm, I think, the third oldest single person in my family and I'm not Gay. I am happy, though.
Ironically, I had sort of the reverse experience. I was a "nerd" all through Jr. High and High School, and everyone THOUGHT I was gay ... until one of my closest female friends got pregnant. The father shunned her and started spreading scurrilous rumors about her and pretty much everyone who had previously been close to her, with very few exceptions, abandoned her. The only male exception was me. I didn't know it at the time, but rumors began spreading that I was the father. For a brief period I got a peek into "the other world": what it was like to be popular (yes, believe it or not, where I grew up to be straight and having gotten a girl pregnant was thought a badge of honor
). Suddenly, the jocks and popular girls would deign to speak to me, the jokes and ridicule ceased, I was invited to parties!!!! It was pretty amazing, and all the more so because I had no idea why things had changed.It was like being in my own personal MU for awhile there.
But ..., seriously ....
While I'm of course pleased you have stopped hiding, I must say I'm concerned and upset you felt the need to hide it, and that you should feel worried about telling someone- and your best friend of all people! It's your sexuality, my friend, it should be no more a deal than your hair colour or whether you're left or right handed. When people in my community at age 16 or so said "I'm gay" it was something completely casual. I'm worried that you seem to think it's normal or natural to be concerned, even about telling your best friend.
And I'm worried that every other response seems to also accept this terrible nervousness as well, as though it's a massive hurdle.
It was more of a case of him being the first person Ive told and moreso admitting it to myself. I can't see how anyone could not be nervous at the thought of losing someone who is close to them?
In an ideal world, yeah, it would be great if everyone loved everyone regardless of sexuality, but life being what it is, I risked losing someone who is a very important in my life. The thought that, like many others, he would react badly to my sexuality, to be honest, scared the crap out of me.
ALSO, thank you to all who have shown support. I honestly, was not expecting such a response. It is seriously like such a massive weight has been lifted. After 25 years of crawling, im finally beginning to walk. Theres no fascade anymore. He's even pointing out good looking guys in the street for me. The sign of a true friend.
I was 25 when I came out, too, so know what it's like to carry that burden; and how difficult it is to tell those closest to you.
Good on ya! It's all uphill from here.
Love it!
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In my family, they would think you were gay. It's annoying because:
1) They use 'gay' as the dirtiest slur they can think of, and
2) It's none of their business but they crack jokes about it anyway.
I have several cousins who are gay, and they're pretty much ignored unless we're all at a family reunion, and then they get asked uncomfortable questions by some. The rest just look at them from sidelong glances.
It took me years to get my mother to see gay people as something other than sinners. She's a good hearted woman, but she was just so conditioned. Well, after much work, she started talking to one of my cousins who lives in New York and is in a relationship. She ended up loving their conversations and also thinks the world of my cousin's husband. It gratifies me on many levels to see that kind of transition take place.
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