I came out. Yay me.

[iguana_tonante]

After 25 years of crawling, im finally beginning to walk. Theres no fascade anymore.

I don't care if you are gay or straight but please spell "facade" correctly of you'll give me an aneurysm.

Seriously: congrats for your coming out!

 

[Amaris]

And some people just don't talk about it. My sister was convinced I was a lesbian until I started dating someone. She didn't understand that I was just really picky and had no interest in dating casually or going to dances and things like that in school.

Yep. My extended family is still convinced I'm gay, because I'm not married or have anyone pregnant. Most of my family members were married around the ages of 17-20, with my brother getting married at 19. I am currently the oldest single (as in never married) person in the family, so I must be gay.

Ironically, I had sort of the reverse experience. I was a "nerd" all through Jr. High and High School, and everyone THOUGHT I was gay ... until one of my closest female friends got pregnant. The father shunned her and started spreading scurrilous rumors about her and pretty much everyone who had previously been close to her, with very few exceptions, abandoned her. The only male exception was me. I didn't know it at the time, but rumors began spreading that I was the father. For a brief period I got a peek into "the other world": what it was like to be popular (yes, believe it or not, where I grew up to be straight and having gotten a girl pregnant was thought a badge of honor ). Suddenly, the jocks and popular girls would deign to speak to me, the jokes and ridicule ceased, I was invited to parties!!!! It was pretty amazing, and all the more so because I had no idea why things had changed.

It was like being in my own personal MU for awhile there.

But ..., seriously ....

Well at least you got a taste of popularity for a while. It was nice, wasn't it?

Yeah, in my family, several of my cousins who are "real men" have ex-girlfriends who have kids. One of my cousins has 4 kids and he's 23. My Uncle has 9 kids that we know of (only two are from a marriage), and possibly several more once the DNA tests are done. It's a mess in our family, and yet somehow, I'm "different".

 

[RJDiogenes]

I am currently the oldest single (as in never married) person in the family, so I must be gay.

I'm, I think, the third oldest single person in my family and I'm not Gay. I am happy, though.

Love it!

It took me years to get my mother to see gay people as something other than sinners. She's a good hearted woman, but she was just so conditioned. Well, after much work, she started talking to one of my cousins who lives in New York and is in a relationship. She ended up loving their conversations and also thinks the world of my cousin's husband. It gratifies me on many levels to see that kind of transition take place.

My Mother, who is a hardcore Catholic, has also mellowed when it comes to Gays (even Gay marriage).

 

[Turbo]

It took me years to get my mother to see gay people as something other than sinners. She's a good hearted woman, but she was just so conditioned. Well, after much work, she started talking to one of my cousins who lives in New York and is in a relationship. She ended up loving their conversations and also thinks the world of my cousin's husband. It gratifies me on many levels to see that kind of transition take place.

My Mother, who is a hardcore Catholic, has also mellowed when it comes to Gays (even Gay marriage).

That's fantastic to hear with both your moms!

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I don't really know how my parents feel about gays and gay marriage now. Back in the day, they were pretty dead set against it. I don't know of any other gay or lesbians in my family actually, and i have a massive Mexican Catholic family.

Then again, that's the main reason why i haven't come out yet; the Catholic part. So who knows, there may well be more gay people in my family.

 

[Turbo]

Do you ever talk politics with them? You could always bring up the Prop 8 trial and see what they think.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Not really. My mom's not interested in politics. My dad is more interested but even then, they still don't follow it very much.

 

[Turbo]

So much for that plan. Just look for an opening or something. It's hard figuring your parents out, especially when you don't want to raise their suspicions by asking. Been there, done that.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I'll gauge their reaction when the courts hand down a verdict on our gay marriage case.

 

[Turbo]

That won't be for at least a couple months, if not longer. =/

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I know.

 

[Amaris]

Keep the faith.

 

[Turbo]

You're still their son. That will go a long way to get past any prejudices they may have, even if it doesn't do so at first. It may take awhile, but in many cases, a parent's love will override their prejudice.

 

[Nick086]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

 

[Amaris]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

It can be.

 

[Turbo]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

Maybe that's true up in NYC, but PDAs are going to get a lot of stares here in the South. I've decided I no longer care, and hope that I find a boyfriend who feels the same, but I don't expect it to be a popular choice.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

How you doin'?

 

[Nick086]

If any gay Trekbbs members want to add me feel free to. I could use some friends on here

 

[Amaris]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

Maybe that's true up in NYC, but PDAs are going to get a lot of stares here in the South. I've decided I no longer care, and hope that I find a boyfriend who feels the same, but I don't expect it to be a popular choice.

Love who you love. That's all that matters.

 

[Nick086]

Now you don't have to worry about getting a boyfriend and showing public display of affection. I love public display of affection. You see two hot gay men in their 20s kissing and cuddling its so cute and sexy.

How you doin'?

I'm doing well shamelessMcBundy, How about you?