How to I reveal to my girlfriend the dark secret...

[Spot's Meow]

Shouldn't she know that before becoming your girlfriend?? I guess I've never really been in that situation since all the people I've dated I was good friends with first. The first time my boyfriend talked to me was to comment on my Enterprise calendar as he walked past my dorm room.

 

[Hermiod]

that I'm a Trekker. She would not be impressed.

Then she doesn't love you and she's not worth being with.

 

[RTOlson]

She shouldn't dump you for liking a TV show. At the same time, don't force her to travel across state borders to watch at "Star Trek" marathon.

Seriously, I have a friend who wasn't impressed when her boyfriend took her to visit friends and take part in an "X-Files" marathon.

 

[Cicero]

I want a SCIFI girl, where do I find one?

www.trekpassions.com

You know, the people on that site look surprisingly normal. I'm tempted to join under "looking for conversation/penpals".

 

[Brent]

I searched, some of the girls fit me well, for example I found one girl in my state who is into Dr. Who, FireFly and of course Trek, my dream girl. I saw one girl wearing a blue TNG uniform, OMG. I think I'm gonna sign up.

 

[Pingfah]

Don't tell her until May by which time Trek will be cool, for the first time.

 

[Hermiod]

Don't tell her until May by which time Trek will be cool, for the first time.

Just don't let her read the Trek XI forum.

 

[JNG]

that I'm a Trekker. She would not be impressed.

Then she doesn't love you and she's not worth being with.

I'm with Hermiod

She may have something she'll want you to be into that you might not like, but you can rest assured it will be worse than Star Trek is and you can feel superior.

 

[Hermiod]

^I didn't mean what I said in a "people who don't like Star Trek aren't worth being with" kind of way.

I merely meant that a person's interests are part of who they are. If someone you are with can't accept your interests then they aren't interested in you, they're interested in who they think they can change you in to.

They don't have to share those interests, just accept them.

 

[jamestyler]

I want a SCIFI girl, where do I find one?

MySpace. I had a fan add me after a show, saw she was a DS9 fan and off to the races I went...

She may have something she'll want you to be into that you might not like, but you can rest assured it will be worse than Star Trek is and you can feel superior.

A girl I'm dating now loves My Chemical Romance and will freely go on a rant to anyone who bashes them, though describes things I like (Star Trek included) as retarded.

Needless to say, I'm planning on upgrading...

 

[Locutus of Bored]

You should just go all 'Crying Game' on her one day and come out wearing Spock ears and a TNG uniform while playing with a model 1701 and reciting Klingon love sonnets.

If - after the massive amounts of vomiting from the shock to her system - she decides to stay, she's a keeper. If she leaves and you're alone, you will only be one step further along the path to total Trekkieness.

 

[Urgent Sky]

Wear a lace teddy from Victoria's Secret when you tell her, then it'll be the least shocking news of the day.

 

[NCC1701]

^ Convert her to Trek, I managed, it was quite easy, actually. The hard part is getting her into B5

I've been trying to figure out a way to get my husband to watch B5.

This is starting to sound like the start of some wacky comedy movie

And yeah, it shouldn't be a big deal. She shouldn't have to watch it with you, but she shouldn't care if you do.

Exactly! But anyway, to get her into Trek, start with Star Wars, the OT - if they haven't seen it yet, as in my case -, then move on to Firefly - seriously, everyone loves it, 4 out of 4 converts for me so far, and I'm only beginning - and if they like the little morsels of Sci-Fi they've seen so far, that is the point where you can start showing Trek in all its glory.

I started by showing her TWoK to TVH, she liked TWOK, thought TSFS was a bit boring, but by the end of TVH she was converted. I then moved on to showing the highlights of TNG, then to watching all of DS9, and we are now up to the final arc in season 7. The only problem is where to go from here, Trek post 1999 is a bit shit to be honest, Enterprise seasons 3 & 4 excepted.

 

[TheSeeker]

that I'm a Trekker. She would not be impressed.

I think your first mistake was keeping it a secret to begin with. You shouldn't have to hide an aspect of yourself like that. It's what makes you who you are. If they lose interest just because you like Star Trek they are pretty shallow if you ask me.

Personally I've never made a secret of the fact that I'm a Trekkie. I just treat it like any other interest, like reading, going to the movies, working out or playing hockey.

 

[Skywalker]

I make no secret of my geekiness when I meet new people, including girls. If they don't like it, oh well. I think it's better to be up front about such things rather than try and hide them.

 

[Stone_Cold_Sisko]

This is the sort of thing that maybe you hide when you're wooing or first getting together. Once you are together and she likes you, then you should be free to share it, because hey she already likes you and most people aren't gonna stop liking someone cause they like a show.

If that causes her to break up with you than she's not worth keeping to begin with.

I'd suggest a "slow roll-out". Don't tell her. Just one day leave some Trek DVDs out. A few weeks later, leave a Trek book on your bookshelf, etc etc.

 

[Ethros]

If it really is a deal breaker then so be it. If she's that dumb and shallow then she sounds horrible and I personally wouldn't even want to be friends with a woman like that, nevermind be in a relationship with

 

[Kestra]

I'd suggest a "slow roll-out". Don't tell her. Just one day leave some Trek DVDs out. A few weeks later, leave a Trek book on your bookshelf, etc etc.

I think the real question is, when does he casually leave TrekBBS open on his computer screen for her to see? I mean that's the real "dark secret" here, isn't it?

 

[TorontoTrekker]

I want a SCIFI girl, where do I find one?

Some might scoff at this, but conventions are a great place to meet people - and you never know where that could lead. (I met my bf at Dragon*Con in Atlanta. A friend of mine also met her bf there, and I have many friends in fandom, in various cities, who have met their significant others at conventions.)

It's a sure way to know that the person you're seeing is as interested in SF/fantasy/horror as you are, if that's important to you. The catch then becomes avoiding fights over which show is best.

 

[broberfett]

Walk up to her and put your hand on her shoulder and say, "I have something to confess and your not gonna like it."

Then when she tenses up expecting the worst, say, "I am Castor Troy!", just don't hit her in the back of the neck.