How important are looks (men vs women)

[Kestra]

Attractiveness is very important. Looks make up a portion, but not the majority of that.

 

[Admiral Buzzkill]

Looks are tremendously important. That said, I don't generally know what kind of looks I like until I meet someone I like who looks that way.

 

[QCzar]

Attractiveness is very important. Looks make up a portion, but not the majority of that.

Exactly! I can truly enjoy and really be turned on by a woman that doesn't have conventionally good looks, but I could never get in on with someone I wasn't attracted to (and that includes looks).

A truly brain challenged woman, for instance, can make me limper than wet paper no matter what she looks like.

 

[John Picard]

I don't know if the human body was designed to really be total muscle anyway. I have nothing against body builders, I admire that kind of serious dedication. But I could never do it, nor would I want to. Strong, firm tone? Yes. So muscley that my muscles have muscle muscles? No thanks.

J.

I'm in agreement with both. I've seen guys (bodybuilders and wrestlers) bulk up to the point where their body was too heavy for them - which was mostly an issue for the wrestlers as it kills movement, but wrestling and image is an issue I could rant endlessly about

I also agree with the muscle on muscle thing. It's just not appealing to me but I do respect the training a lot of bodybuilder I know go through, it just creeps me out when it goes too far.

When I was in the Navy, we used to (discreetly) make fun of the guys we called "Four by fours", meaning four feet tall and four feet wide. These were the shorter guys who would hit the weight room zealously to bulk up, but the problem was the muscles under the arms became to taut their arms would uncontrollably bow out. Basically, they looked like circus gorillas when they walked, unable to keep their arms to their sides when they walked or stood.

 

[RoJoHen]

I don't know if the human body was designed to really be total muscle anyway.

This I agree with. However, I do believe that the human body was meant to be more muscley that it tends to be these days. Humans are, first and foremost, animals, and I don't think nature intended for us to spend our days eating fast food and sitting in front of computers.

So it's up to us to make up for that lack of activity.

 

[blablover5]

I don't know if the human body was designed to really be total muscle anyway.

This I agree with. However, I do believe that the human body was meant to be more muscley that it tends to be these days. Humans are, first and foremost, animals, and I don't think nature intended for us to spend our days eating fast food and sitting in front of computers.

So it's up to us to make up for that lack of activity.

Have you ever watched an animal in nature? They spend most of their time sleeping. A rhino doesn't pull out an issue of PlayRhino and hope that they are living up to the ideal and work out running in a circle.

Hell just look at dogs and cats that are happy to spend their whole lives sleeping 23 hours a day. I think it's humans that have invented this nature ideal and if you asked any other animal if they want to expend all their energy just to look better they'd look at you like you're mad.

 

[RoJoHen]

A lot of it has to do with the way we've evolved. Animals in nature may spend a lot of time sleeping, but they also spend a lot of time hunting for food. That said, you rarely see an obese animal. If a human did nothing but eat and sleep, they'd be obscenely fat because they wouldn't be burning any calories. We're just not built that way.

 

[The Sneeze Police]

How a man looks can be important in making me look at him a second time...but the whole deal is more important...looks, humor, intelligence, kindness, etc.

Objectively, I don't know that my husband is the greatest looking man on the planet or even in the US, but I would rather look at him than anybody else.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I originally said about my bf that I really liked him but didn't 'fancy' him. 4 years later... I think looks do count but not in extremes - either over-grooming (I'd hate it if a man took longer to get ready than me) or not caring at all.

 

[Goji]

I'm just glad I managed to find someone who clearly doesn't consider looks important at all.

 

[Surefire]

Looks are a nice bonus (if they have everything else).

But compatible personality, values, etc. are 90% (or more) the most important thing for me.

If it was homely women with great personality vs. gorgeous socially challenged woman, I'd always go for the nice homely woman.

Of course, if they have both it is a nice bonus.

 

[Jetfire]

Looks to whom? You? 10 people who don't matter at all. I think people give up on those who are right for them and attractive to them because of someone elses opinion.


JF

 

[Sean Aaron]

I'd have to say as long as the woman is beautiful to me...that is all that matters, alot of females I find attractive, consider beautiful others find somewhat unattractive...some cases ugly. Relationships are more than superficial nonsense...it is up to the people involved.


JF

Agreed. I find a wide range of people attractive. I've met people that I've recognised weren't "conventionally attractive," but sometimes you just really dig someone regardless. A pretty face will make up for all other shortcomings for me as well; negatives on the personality can erase any positive physical attributes though...