How do you all handel stress?
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Happens to me a lot... I have an inability to spell hard wired into my brain.
Just don't expect me not to judge you for it.
Ebeneezer, you are nuts and I mean that in the most affectionate way possible.
I like your style 
I aim to please. Come on over sometime and we'll have a ball.
I try not to let myself get stressed in the first place, by figuring out what can be changed and what cannot and just letting the latter issues go.
However, since I am still only human(!), that does occasionally fail, and then I tend to distract myself by watching DVDs of what I call "comfort TV". Light, fluffy shows that I've watched a million times before and I can just slide into and switch my mind off: TNG, Friends, Red Dwarf, that sort of thing.
However, since I am still only human(!), that does occasionally fail, and then I tend to distract myself by watching DVDs of what I call "comfort TV". Light, fluffy shows that I've watched a million times before and I can just slide into and switch my mind off: TNG, Friends, Red Dwarf, that sort of thing.
I tend to not feel much stress, rather dissappointed if things don't turn out the way I want them to. I can try my best, but if that doesn't work then so be it.
But with regards to the the suggestion Holdfast gives
Judging by what I see of stress in others, this sounds to me more like a malformed coping mechanism. Isn't the nature of stress the emotional component of trying to determine if something can be changed or not?
You're describing the same rational process that occurs with stress, just describing it without the corresponding emotional component.
But with regards to the the suggestion Holdfast gives
, I'm not so sure about that.
Judging by what I see of stress in others, this sounds to me more like a malformed coping mechanism. Isn't the nature of stress the emotional component of trying to determine if something can be changed or not?
You're describing the same rational process that occurs with stress, just describing it without the corresponding emotional component.
You're missing the point.
Stress (or at least, one concept of it) is the emotional state resulting from a mismatch between the desire to effect change and the inability to effect said change. By cognitively recognising when we are truly unable to effect change, the desire to effect the change can be suppressed.
That active cognitive process results in thought suppression and also allows sublimation (both classified - correctly, in my opinion - as mature defence mechanisms). In essence, you can rise above the stress by cognitively recognising its futility. This is very different in concept from the more immature defences like repression, fantasy or denial (which I agree are unhelpful) despite some superficial similarities.
working out at the gym is an awesome stress reliever. i always leave the gym quite content and mellow.
Funnily enough, after a good workout at the gym, I end up feeling angry and irritable. Maybe I can't handle the endorphins.
your routine should include aerobic and anaerobic exercises.
OK ~ maybe not stress but pissed-off-ness...
Had great day at work today, mainly looking after a party of 20 odd golfers (yes take that as you will) Whom I loved immediately as they prefered beer to coffee at 10am
Fed them bacon butties and they returned after a soaking wet round for more beer and general joshing. They left happy and after wishing them all a Happy New Year I started to lock up.
So dark was drawing in ~ I had cleaned down, including the beast of a coffee machine and felt good. OK I know we're open 'til 4.30 but it was 4.20, peeing with rain and I assumed all had gone, so cashed up and lo and behold this idiot of a chap ~ plainly seeing that all was closed, came in and ordered 2 teas and 2 coffees (it takes 10 minutes to clean the machine Grrrrrrr). Despite me explaining I has cashed up, the look on my face and general 'lack of enthusiasm' he sat himself down and waited for his friends.
As I was hoovering around them one of the wags said "Oh and can we get 2 breakfasts"
My reply ~ "You'd have to buy me a sense of humour first"
That's not rude is it?
So the answer is ~ with humour and I've never appreciated a cigarette more when I got home
Had great day at work today, mainly looking after a party of 20 odd golfers (yes take that as you will) Whom I loved immediately as they prefered beer to coffee at 10am
Fed them bacon butties and they returned after a soaking wet round for more beer and general joshing. They left happy and after wishing them all a Happy New Year I started to lock up.So dark was drawing in ~ I had cleaned down, including the beast of a coffee machine and felt good. OK I know we're open 'til 4.30 but it was 4.20, peeing with rain and I assumed all had gone, so cashed up and lo and behold this idiot of a chap ~ plainly seeing that all was closed, came in and ordered 2 teas and 2 coffees (it takes 10 minutes to clean the machine Grrrrrrr). Despite me explaining I has cashed up, the look on my face and general 'lack of enthusiasm' he sat himself down and waited for his friends.
As I was hoovering around them one of the wags said "Oh and can we get 2 breakfasts"
My reply ~ "You'd have to buy me a sense of humour first"
That's not rude is it?
So the answer is ~ with humour and I've never appreciated a cigarette more when I got home
I'm very solution oriented when it comes to stress. I try to identify the problem that is causing me stress, and then I work to fix it.
Obviously there are daily stressors and life stressors that you can't fix, but you can still act as if you can. For excess stress I try to clear my mind by walking the dog, riding bike, listening to music, talking to my friends, etc.
Obviously there are daily stressors and life stressors that you can't fix, but you can still act as if you can. For excess stress I try to clear my mind by walking the dog, riding bike, listening to music, talking to my friends, etc.
Have you been in many situations where you have to keep running just fast enough to prevent the real-life screen edge catching up with you and killing you?
That would be my ultimate nightmare.
So much so, I'm not even sure if I'm joking any more...
Have you been in many situations where you have to keep running just fast enough to prevent the real-life screen edge catching up with you and killing you?
That would be my ultimate nightmare.
So much so, I'm not even sure if I'm joking any more...
Oh, you mean like in the Contra series? I hated that part of the game.
Here's something. Try getting an AWESOME rating on Burnout Revenge in the Eternal City Preview track. That's stress and that's my video.
I've had to run from gunfire and panicking crowds many times, if that's what you mean. You'll need that Burnout-type "long-perspective eyesight" in situations like that, so that you know which way to run at high speeds.
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