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Have You Ever Been Stood Up?

Yeah I was stood up once. We agreed to meet up for coffee at 1, she was a bit weird and beforehand I had a feeling that she wasn't going to show, so I sent her a text to give her an opportunity to cancel (positive thinking here obviously). Didn't get a reply to that so I thought, well, if I assume she's not gonna show and she does show then I'll be the douche.

So I got there about 5 mins before we arranged to meet (I hate being late), and gave her a bit of a window for traffic. Then I text her, nothing. Waited a bit longer. Called her, I heard noise in the background and she said could she call me back in a second, I asked if she was on her way but she didn't answer. So I waited for a bit, called her again and got no answer, then I just text her saying I don't appreciate being stood up blah blah and I left.
 
Moving to another country is a huge commitment, but before even considering it you shoud be in a commited relationship. married or at least been engaged for a while.

Just remember as well Gems, life doesn't always work out the way we think it should. We never know who is around the next corner.
 
I thought I'd be married by 25 too. I'm 35 now and still not married. It's really nothing to really worry about.

Don't settle. Most guys your age have their heads firmly up their asses. And I can say that as I was once a guy at that age. :)
Yes, well, you do have a point...:lol:


East Coast you say... I don't think you are from the Northern states nor are you from the deep south. I would guess either VA or FL.

Actually, I was born and raised in Tennessee, but don't live there anymore. You are close though...

Ever been picked up with the line "Hey beautiful, are you from Tennessee? Because you are the only ten I see."

lol. No, can't say I have. But then again, I don't get hit on............ever...So....*shrugs*
And no, I'm not saying that so you'll make a big deal out of it, I just simply don't get hit on. It doesn't matter to me one way or the other.
 
Moving to another country is a huge commitment, but before even considering it you shoud be in a commited relationship. married or at least been engaged for a while.

Just remember as well Gems, life doesn't always work out the way we think it should. We never know who is around the next corner.
Well, we have talked marriage and all of that, but honestly, it seems a bit soon for me. But then again, it's only been six months...
 
Well, we have talked marriage and all of that, but honestly, it seems a bit soon for me. But then again, it's only been six months...

My best friend's (hell, we're practically brothers) parents married after knowing each other for a little over two months. They've been married for nearly 40 years now. And they have three kids aged 23, 27 and 35.
 
Well, we have talked marriage and all of that, but honestly, it seems a bit soon for me. But then again, it's only been six months...

My best friend's (hell, we're practically brothers) parents married after knowing each other for a little over two months. They've been married for nearly 40 years now. And they have three kids aged 23, 27 and 35.

But that's really not typical.
 
Well, we have talked marriage and all of that, but honestly, it seems a bit soon for me. But then again, it's only been six months...

My best friend's (hell, we're practically brothers) parents married after knowing each other for a little over two months. They've been married for nearly 40 years now. And they have three kids aged 23, 27 and 35.

But that's really not typical.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?
 
My best friend's (hell, we're practically brothers) parents married after knowing each other for a little over two months. They've been married for nearly 40 years now. And they have three kids aged 23, 27 and 35.

But that's really not typical.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?

Indeed. Okay, here's the thing, I really do love the guy, and there are times when I think he really is the one for me, lame as that sounds, but lately it just seems like we've lost touch. I almost feel like I don't even know him anymore...
 
My best friend's (hell, we're practically brothers) parents married after knowing each other for a little over two months. They've been married for nearly 40 years now. And they have three kids aged 23, 27 and 35.

But that's really not typical.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?

It makes me think they are fortunate to have such an enduring relationship, but that's about it. I would definitely not recommend that people who've only known each other a couple months go get hitched, thinking they'll be together for decades.

But that's really not typical.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?

Indeed. Okay, here's the thing, I really do love the guy, and there are times when I think he really is the one for me, lame as that sounds, but lately it just seems like we've lost touch. I almost feel like I don't even know him anymore...

Maybe it's time to consider taking a break from each other.
 
^^Well, someone should do something to save the relationship. If it isn't going to be him... it should be you. Otherwise, you're both wasting eachother's time.

Or take a break... that works too.
 
But that's really not typical.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?

It makes me think they are fortunate to have such an enduring relationship, but that's about it. I would definitely not recommend that people who've only known each other a couple months go get hitched, thinking they'll be together for decades.

Still, it makes you think, doesn't it?

Indeed. Okay, here's the thing, I really do love the guy, and there are times when I think he really is the one for me, lame as that sounds, but lately it just seems like we've lost touch. I almost feel like I don't even know him anymore...

Maybe it's time to consider taking a break from each other.


:(That's always the step I hate taking....But, you're probably right...
 
Well, at least give him a wake-up call. Tell him how you're feeling. Don't let him full the veil over your eyes with some "It'll never happen again BS."

Hold him accountable.

If he has a problem with that, then kick him to the curb.
 
Well, at least give him a wake-up call. Tell him how you're feeling. Don't let him full the veil over your eyes with some "It'll never happen again BS."

Hold him accountable.

If he has a problem with that, then kick him to the curb.

It'd be easier if I didn't love him so much...
 
Well, at least give him a wake-up call. Tell him how you're feeling. Don't let him full the veil over your eyes with some "It'll never happen again BS."

Hold him accountable.

If he has a problem with that, then kick him to the curb.

It'd be easier if I didn't love him so much...

If he doesn't love you as much in return it's a bit pointless.

That's what's so confusing! He says he loves me, and when we're together he certainly acts like it...but then, all the bad shit gets in the way. What if I'm just not worth paying any attention to? That could definitely be the problem...
 
Well, at least give him a wake-up call. Tell him how you're feeling. Don't let him full the veil over your eyes with some "It'll never happen again BS."

Hold him accountable.

If he has a problem with that, then kick him to the curb.

It'd be easier if I didn't love him so much...

If he doesn't love you as much in return it's a bit pointless.

Man's got a point, luv'. It might feel wrong, but the bloke needs a wake up call.
 
It'd be easier if I didn't love him so much...

If he doesn't love you as much in return it's a bit pointless.

That's what's so confusing! He says he loves me, and when we're together he certainly acts like it...but then, all the bad shit gets in the way. What if I'm just not worth paying any attention to? That could definitely be the problem...

If you weren't worth paying attention to, then why does he pay attention to you at all in the first place?

If he pays attention to you when you're together, but seems to forget you exist when you're apart, then it's possible he's just using you to fulfill his own needs. Or he's just really shitty at having consideration for another person.
 
If he doesn't love you as much in return it's a bit pointless.

That's what's so confusing! He says he loves me, and when we're together he certainly acts like it...but then, all the bad shit gets in the way. What if I'm just not worth paying any attention to? That could definitely be the problem...

If you weren't worth paying attention to, then why does he pay attention to you at all in the first place?

If he pays attention to you when you're together, but seems to forget you exist when you're apart, then it's possible he's just using you to fulfill his own needs. Or he's just really shitty at having consideration for another person.

I honestly think we've just plain run out of things to say to each other, already....as sad as that is. In the beginning things were so great. I'd never been happier in my life, and let me tell you, I'm literally incapable of happy. I'd never had a guy make me feel the way that he did. But now......*shrugs*
 
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