Have you ever Been Cheated On By A Boyfreind or Girlfreind
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How can you not understand why men and women cheat, when you've done it yourself?
I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on. About 10 years ago, I was engaged. My fiance cheated on me with my supposed best friend. Apparently it had been going on for a month or so, and I was oblivious. Then he broke up with me. (Never confessed to the cheating, though. Apparently everybody but me knew and nobody told me until after the fact.) Long story short, they've been married for about 7 years and have 3 kids.
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Amaris
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Oh, I'm wonderful.
I'm sitting here with my best friend drinking and watching LOST. Can't complain.
I'm just horny.
Well, at least I can empathize with you on that one. Regardless, you're a good person with a good heart. Things will work out (and I swear that's not pity or patronization. I mean it!).
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Amaris
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Oh yeah, not worth being upset about it. I love my life, even if it's not as sexy as it could be.
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Amaris
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Oh yeah, not worth being upset about it. I love my life, even if it's not as sexy as it could be.
You know, I always believed that everyone around me could just go out on the town and have sex with anyone, anywhere, and that they didn't have any problem doing so (as TV will lead you to believe), and that I was an anomaly in that regard. It took me a long time to realize that was just a fantasy, and that reality is much, much colder and harsher than that.
What I also discovered was that if I could take control of my own wants and desires and make them mature and reasonable instead of hormonal and mindless, I could make that work to my advantage. Over time, I have built my confidence and become wiser for it. I no longer let it control me, and I promise you, I love women, I mean, I really love women. I find myself endlessly fascinated by them. Maybe someday I'll find a woman who feels that way toward men, and in particular, me.
Like you, I keep the faith that it'll all work out.
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Jetfire
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I am sure one of them has and I didn't know about it...to be-honest I don't want to ever know. I am just glad the relationships ended and I moved on.
Not that I know of, but my "relationships" have always been so casual or short lived, or both, that the issue never came up. 
I've never cheated. And, as far as I know, I've never been cheated on.
My fiancée is probably the most honest person I have ever met: I've never had any doubt about her being completely faithful. I am not one for cheating: I find the very idea distasteful. Also, knowing she has two black belts in jujutsu works wonders for dispelling any idea I might get.
My fiancée is probably the most honest person I have ever met: I've never had any doubt about her being completely faithful. I am not one for cheating: I find the very idea distasteful. Also, knowing she has two black belts in jujutsu works wonders for dispelling any idea I might get.
I've got a theory.
Similar thing happened to me many years ago. My "best friend" and my boyfriend were seeing each other behind my back for months. I was so blinded by love that i didn't see it and once i saw it i still wouldn't believe it. This also happens to be the guy that punched walls (mentioned in other thread.) Anyway, it sucked big time.
Not as far as I know. Can't even say that it would bother me that much. If I was married, yeah, but until I get to that point it isn't a long-term commitment and if she is happier with someone else, more power to her. I would rather find out sooner than later, though.
I cheated on my last boyfriend with my current girlfriend. But, I've never had it the other way around.
I guess that makes me shifty.
I guess that makes me shifty.
Hubby was my only boyfriend. I was his only girlfriend.
Exclusivity is VERY important to him, and to me. Not from a religious background, but from whatever need, insecurity, and/or co-depenency.
Hubby will never cheat on me because that would be his throwing away the only thing (me) that has ever been his and his alone. I will never cheat on him because I will not take that from him without a damn good reason--like him cheating on me. Circular logic. Also, he's my best chance at maximized happiness in this lifetime.
I seriously doubt I would find: 1) Someone as well-suited for me, who 2) is equal to Hubby in every way but 3) exceeds him in at least one way. The guy's got to be better than Hubby in some way, or why settle for second best. But that only takes care of 2) and 3), at most. Finding someone who would also get 1)? Highly dubious. I'd rather put my energy into building and enjoying life with Hubby.
Exclusivity is VERY important to him, and to me. Not from a religious background, but from whatever need, insecurity, and/or co-depenency.
Hubby will never cheat on me because that would be his throwing away the only thing (me) that has ever been his and his alone. I will never cheat on him because I will not take that from him without a damn good reason--like him cheating on me. Circular logic. Also, he's my best chance at maximized happiness in this lifetime.
I seriously doubt I would find: 1) Someone as well-suited for me, who 2) is equal to Hubby in every way but 3) exceeds him in at least one way. The guy's got to be better than Hubby in some way, or why settle for second best. But that only takes care of 2) and 3), at most. Finding someone who would also get 1)? Highly dubious. I'd rather put my energy into building and enjoying life with Hubby.
Sorry, but I think it's very clear to everyone many posters here that you are not over it. Sometimes, reading your posts, it sounds like it happened yesterday when in fact it's been many, many years, hasn't it?
Not criticizing really, but thinking that you'd be much happier if you could truly get over it.
Mr Awe
The problem is that usually the people who do the cheating are doing so because they can't communicate in the first place. If they could, they would have told you that there was a problem before it ever happened.
Sometimes, the problem is the don't care anymore. If you don't care, you don't care to talk.
