No, it's not. Your last act is to help heal the planet. And in the end, returning our components to the Earth is our proper place in the Circle of Life (add "Lion King" chanting here). Terramation just does it in months rather than decades.
Funerals....a load of bollocks???
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No, it's not. Your last act is to help heal the planet. And in the end, returning our components to the Earth is our proper place in the Circle of Life (add "Lion King" chanting here). Terramation just does it in months rather than decades.
Funerals are for the living: my friends and family can do whatever they like with mine. Hopefully something cheap as the cost of funerals is disgusting.
Yeah, funerals are a racket, exploiting the guilt of people who think they're doing their lost love ones wrong for skimping on anything at the time they are most desperate to stay connected to them.
I believe it was Yogi Berra himself who once said...if you don't go to your friends' funerals, they won't go to yours. 
As for me, I'm up for 1) cremation, and 2) no funeral. Just scatter my ashes somewhere and be done with it.
Composting? Don't think so.
Although if you throw my body into your garden I might be useful as a scarecrow. 
As for me, I'm up for 1) cremation, and 2) no funeral. Just scatter my ashes somewhere and be done with it.
Composting? Don't think so.
Although if you throw my body into your garden I might be useful as a scarecrow. 
I believe running a funeral home can be quite productive these days for those who would love a career in this domain.
You must have some courage to work in this area and since there are not many interested - those who work in this field make some nice money.
I watched a miniseries not long ago called The Haunting of Hill House..... pretty cool horror made by Netflix.... one of the sisters had a similar job
Preparing a corpse is not an easy thing after all.....
You must have some courage to work in this area and since there are not many interested - those who work in this field make some nice money.
I watched a miniseries not long ago called The Haunting of Hill House..... pretty cool horror made by Netflix.... one of the sisters had a similar job
Preparing a corpse is not an easy thing after all.....
In the US
Shouldn't social security pay for some type of basic funeral. Would only cost a few months of benifits, which if they lived another few months would have paid out anyways.
Maybe a small selection of creamation, basic pine box, etc. Basically some form of disposing of the body in a respectful way.
Shouldn't social security pay for some type of basic funeral. Would only cost a few months of benifits, which if they lived another few months would have paid out anyways.
Maybe a small selection of creamation, basic pine box, etc. Basically some form of disposing of the body in a respectful way.
In the US, "social security" doesn't cover shit.
Personally, I am an atheist so I am not gonna spend one cent and I don't want my family to do anything either (I'll leave instructions to that effect). I'll let the collectivity dispose of my body as they wish. If they want to throw it in a dumpster or put it in a communal grave or whatever... so be it. Let them do what they do with homeless people that they find on the street, whatever that is.
Let's pretend that I believe in the Klingon... religion or ritual...
When my father-in-law died, it was the first time I saw any of this and I was *boggled* by what a scam the industry is. He and MIL had already bought space in a wall (he was a govt worker so the joke was that he got filed ) but the casket and funeral and such was insanely expensive! My MIL has money set aside for us to use when she goes. The worst part will be cleaning out her home. My sister-in-law was the executor, but she died last year, leaving it all to my hubby to deal with.
On the other side, my dad gave me a will, but my mother refuses to make one because she has the WORST death denial EVER. They also have no life insurance. And I'm an only child.
@oldtrekkie they may not be able to just dump you - state laws can be surprisingly stringent.
For my hubby, I found something he really liked - being cremated and made part of an artificial reef. I'm all for composting or plant a tree on me and then the party for my friends several others mentioned. Since we don't have kids, our friends' kids can take what they want and sell the rest.
We really need to put all that in wills...
) but the casket and funeral and such was insanely expensive! My MIL has money set aside for us to use when she goes. The worst part will be cleaning out her home. My sister-in-law was the executor, but she died last year, leaving it all to my hubby to deal with.On the other side, my dad gave me a will, but my mother refuses to make one because she has the WORST death denial EVER. They also have no life insurance. And I'm an only child.
@oldtrekkie they may not be able to just dump you - state laws can be surprisingly stringent.
For my hubby, I found something he really liked - being cremated and made part of an artificial reef. I'm all for composting or plant a tree on me and then the party for my friends several others mentioned. Since we don't have kids, our friends' kids can take what they want and sell the rest.
We really need to put all that in wills...
Pretty sure unclaimed homeless are given to medical schools, to be used in training doctors in human anatomy. It's by no means a bad way to have your earthly remains disposed of, regardless of your faith (or lack thereof). I think they cremate them afterward.
Social security is supplemental to saved retirement income, and based party on how much you put into the system.
A funeral should give people who want to the opportunity to get together and pay respects for the dead, and it should satisfy any religious needs people have. All the fancy coffin upselling and bells and whistles are cynical opportunism.
If I were to plan my own funeral, I'd go the Next Phase route and making it a party. First there'd be a small close family observance to bury the body, then a month or two later after the first wave of grief is passed there'd be a big fun party for all my family and friends, themed on the good times we all shared together.
A funeral should give people who want to the opportunity to get together and pay respects for the dead, and it should satisfy any religious needs people have. All the fancy coffin upselling and bells and whistles are cynical opportunism.
If I were to plan my own funeral, I'd go the Next Phase route and making it a party. First there'd be a small close family observance to bury the body, then a month or two later after the first wave of grief is passed there'd be a big fun party for all my family and friends, themed on the good times we all shared together.
I think that in most current Christian traditions, cremation is considered acceptable. If I remember right, some denominations expect that the ashes be stored instead of scattered. I would think that terramation would also be permissible, since it's simply accelerating the natural decomposition. For denominations that encourage intact burial, "green" funerals (no embalming and either no coffin or one designed to biodegrade quickly) are probably acceptable.
Fairly sure that Islam prefers that bodies be buried on land, with the person facing Mecca. Burial at sea is allowed, if necessary. As I understand, neither cremation nor embalming is permitted, so burials usually occur soon after death.
Fairly sure that Islam prefers that bodies be buried on land, with the person facing Mecca. Burial at sea is allowed, if necessary. As I understand, neither cremation nor embalming is permitted, so burials usually occur soon after death.
It's true .... I remember we had these criminology classes in college and they took us to see how they perform an autopsy.
So they were "working" on a homeless man they found dead somewhere....
They start with the skull to see if it was a stroke or not, later they go lower....
I remained inside only during the skull phase.... later I just ejected myself through the door since I couldn't bare the odor ...
I have instructed hubby that cremation would be fine---I'll be dead. I won't care. But if they go with a burial, I want a closed casket. At the end of the service, I want the organist to play "Pop Goes the Weasel" over and over, while the audience sits in horrified anticipation.
It's strange how death can have a humorous side and maybe it's just part of the human bereavement process. It's like when someone laughs at a funeral and they know they shouldn't so it snowballs and laughter is contagious so other people start laughing even they don't know what they are laughing about Maybe that's where the term Corpsing comes from when actors can't get through a scene without laughing. The most bittersweet movie scene has to be 'that' moment with Donny's ashes in The Big Lebowski. Just thinking about it makes me want to laugh and cry at the same time.
Many years ago my mum attended the funeral of a black lady she worked with and said it was the most uplifting experience because the church service was filled with Gospel music and and stories.
Maybe that's where the term Corpsing comes from when actors can't get through a scene without laughing. The most bittersweet movie scene has to be 'that' moment with Donny's ashes in The Big Lebowski. Just thinking about it makes me want to laugh and cry at the same time.Many years ago my mum attended the funeral of a black lady she worked with and said it was the most uplifting experience because the church service was filled with Gospel music and and stories.
I do have to say that the funeral directors really helped me through a very difficult time, even though the monetary price was high. There are a lot of things that need to be taken care of, notifications to be made, etc, and they were very helpful with what to do, how to go about it. It's been 4 months and I'm still working through all of it.
We always think we'll have more time, but sometimes we don't. My husband hadn't been sick, he hadn't had any health problems but one afternoon a few days after his 73rd birthday, he laid down for a nap as usual, but this time he didn't wake up.
We always think we'll have more time, but sometimes we don't. My husband hadn't been sick, he hadn't had any health problems but one afternoon a few days after his 73rd birthday, he laid down for a nap as usual, but this time he didn't wake up.
***HUGS***
