Friends with Benefits?

[Philo]

Ain't that the truth. I'm not in school anymore, but I still get to live it a little vicariously through my friends who still are. Even then, though, it's pretty different.

 

[RoJoHen]

I was pretty awkward and quiet my first couple years of college, too, so even though I was living in the dorms, I still didn't do a whole lot in the sex department. I wish I could go back. I'm a lot more confident and comfortable with myself, so I think I could have even more fun if I got to do it all over!

 

[Philo]

I was in a relationship the two years I was in school, so it was similar for me, though more in terms of making friends and branching out. I kind of wish I could go back for the same reasons, but I'm really happy that in the last couple of years I've begun to really make the most out of this town. Again, not in a sexual way.

 

[RoJoHen]

Whatever. You pick up every hooker on every street corner you can find!

 

[Philo]

Are you advising me to do so?

 

[RoJoHen]

It's the only way to truly make the most out of your town.

 

[Philo]

Probably the only way to truly make the most out of your immune system, too.

 

[RoJoHen]

Immune system's gotta learn somehow...

 

[Lindley]

I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.

...Tucker?

"You can't pick up chicks in a tank."

 

[Philo]

Immune system's gotta learn somehow...

 

[Australis]

So, no love for TISM? It's a good song! Give it a try.

 

[TGTheodore]

I had a terrific partner back in the mid-1970's. (Talk about almost risk-free sex).

We enjoyed each other as friends and as partners, and there was never any pressure for anything more. Then she fell in love with a great guy and that was that.

She was ... amazing ...

--Ted

 

[bigdaddy]

I was on the bus yesterday and some ugly drunken hick said something about "best friends without benifits".

No one wants to touch that thing.

More importantly there are no benefits to normal friends?

 

[TorontoTrekker]

I've had two. Both of them were in relationships - one with another guy and one had a wife (both couples are still together, and the latter have two kids). They both kind of faded away a couple of years ago. Not for any good reason, though - we just stopped seeing each other regularly, though we still talk from time to time.

They worked reasonably well - neither of us had any expectations of the other besides getting together once in a while for sex. Not to make it sound like that's all it was - we hung out occasionally when there wasn't the possibility of sex, too. If either were single (and the latter would admit to being bi - he still claims he's straight, which is rather amusing after he's just gone down on me), I might be in a relationship with one of them.

The only thing that ever bothered me about it (besides a little concern about the fact that they were both cheating on their partners to be with me) was that the latter always refused to kiss me. He'd go down on me, but he wouldn't kiss me.

 

[MarianLH]

There's never been any time since I was 18 that I didn't have two or three of these--although I prefer to call them playmates.

The one time I ever had any problem, it was because I wanted to get more serious and they didn't. We ended up going back to being platonic, but we're still good friends.


Marian