The struggle truly is what does it mean to remain "true to Star Trek." To my mind neither TMP nor TWOK hit that true note from TOS. Does that make them less Star Trek?There has to be a way to be true to Star Trek AND tell a multi movie story where each one is complete and builds on the previous ones.
And, also for me, I will always struggle with hating a movie. I simply lack the willingness to put that much emotion in to something that I did not enjoy. If I didn't like the movie then it's just out of my life. I see no reason to invest beyond it. Hating it, to my mind, seems like a rather emotional dead end.
Obviously, mileage will vary and this may just be agree to disagree moment.