They all do.1. Yes
2. It sucked.
3. Haven't seen her in nearly a decade, though rumor has it she got really fat
First Love
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Yes
Yes
No
I mean, seriously...
Yes
No
I mean, seriously...
No.
No.
No.
About 10 years ago I would have said different, but in retrospect it was a terribly embarrassing period of time that ultimately meant nothing in the grand scheme of events and was brought about by nothing more than some chemicals in my brain going a bit loopy.
No.
No.
About 10 years ago I would have said different, but in retrospect it was a terribly embarrassing period of time that ultimately meant nothing in the grand scheme of events and was brought about by nothing more than some chemicals in my brain going a bit loopy.
First love. For those who've loved and lost, the memory is bittersweet. One cannot experience such a high as that first love without risking utter heartbreak.
1.) Yes
2.) Yes - Time heals. Distance offers greater perspective.
3.) Nope
What I know now? It would have never worked. We were too different. I thank God for her every day because without her I would not have known the beauty and wonder of love with the true love of my life - my wife.
Still, it was an amazing time...
1.) Yes
2.) Yes - Time heals. Distance offers greater perspective.
3.) Nope
What I know now? It would have never worked. We were too different. I thank God for her every day because without her I would not have known the beauty and wonder of love with the true love of my life - my wife.
Still, it was an amazing time...
1: It depends on what is meant by "first love." First girlfriend, yeah, I remember what that felt like. First person I fell in love with, probably not. I've fallen in love so many times and confused being "in love" with other emotions it's difficult to pin down exactly which time was the first and what feelings were associated with it.
2: We'll go with first girlfriend for this one. Yes, I remember what trying to get over her, especially since it's seven years later and I'm still not over her, and I doubt I ever will be. In the sense of wanting to resume the relationship I'm definitely over her. I ended the relationship, and stuck to that decision despite her attempts to convince me to take her back and her insistence that I wasn't allowed to make that decision (she was abusive). In the sense that being with her has affected me and still does, that'll never change.
3: I haven't seen her since I broke up with her, and I started ignoring her calls and e-mails a month or two after that. So, no. I also hope I never see her again.
2: We'll go with first girlfriend for this one. Yes, I remember what trying to get over her, especially since it's seven years later and I'm still not over her, and I doubt I ever will be. In the sense of wanting to resume the relationship I'm definitely over her. I ended the relationship, and stuck to that decision despite her attempts to convince me to take her back and her insistence that I wasn't allowed to make that decision (she was abusive). In the sense that being with her has affected me and still does, that'll never change.
3: I haven't seen her since I broke up with her, and I started ignoring her calls and e-mails a month or two after that. So, no. I also hope I never see her again.
Best of luck to you on number 3.
I've always been a person who finds it very easy to move on. I had a crush in high school but that was one sided.. that was probably the most painful but it's so long ago now it's easy to see it as a brain chemistry attack. I find it a little too easy to look at all intense feelings of romantic love as a product of brain chemistry and I think I can pretty much turn that infatuation feeling on and off.
The couple of break ups I've had in years gone by I've always been very eager to just get the bad feelings out of my system and get on with the next part of my life. I've been accused of being too clinical by friends on this matter.
So "first love", that's kind of blurry depending on whether you want to go with a high school crush or not.
The couple of break ups I've had in years gone by I've always been very eager to just get the bad feelings out of my system and get on with the next part of my life. I've been accused of being too clinical by friends on this matter.
So "first love", that's kind of blurry depending on whether you want to go with a high school crush or not.
I agree with Kommander that the question is too vaguely defined. Are we talking about the first juvenile infatuation? The first crush? The fists time we said "I love you"? The first time we thought "I want to spend the rest of my life with this person"?
Nah. I'm too lazy for that.
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I've been successful for seven years so far, so I doubt it'll be a problem. On the off-chance that I do run into her somewhere, it probably wouldn't be too terrible. We'd probably talk for a minute or two to be polite and then go our separate ways.
Vague questions are fine as long as it allows for freedom in responses. If things are being taken for granted, or someone assigns a narrower definition than is stated problems arise. Usually when I get into conversations on this topic, someone says something like "It wasn't really love because you didn't know her long enough/she wasn't in love with you/you weren't in a relationship/you were 'in love' with others at the same time/whatever else." It's annoying and I'd rather avoid it.
Actually, that's not true. I like arguments about what what it means to be in love because I know what I'm talking about. It's still annoying though.
There seems to be enough freedom here where it doesn't matter. For the most part, I just assume that if someone says it was love, it was love.
The only place I stumbled with this question was the whole love vs in love thing. I'd say my true first love (outside of family) was a non-romantic love. We were never involved in any romantic or sexual way, and didn't desire to be, but the emotions involved were just as intense.
In fact, I'd say that I got over my first boyfriend more easily than I got over my first platonic love.
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