First Love

[Kenbushway]

I am sure most of us know what it is like to fall deeply in love with someone for the first time. I am also sure some of us have lost those people. Three questions:
1. Do you remember what is was like?
2. Do you remember what is was like to try to get over that person once you lost them.
3. Are you still with that person?

 

[RoJoHen]

1. Yes
2. It sucked.
3. Haven't seen her in nearly a decade, though rumor has it she got really fat

 

[Kemaiku]

1. Do you remember what is was like?
2. Do you remember what is was like to try to get over that person once you lost them.
3. Are you still with that person?

1. Yes I do.

2. I try not to, she ran off, I spent months doing very stupid things.

3. Obviously not.

 

[horatio83]

Yes, yes and no. Falling in love is of course very intense but as Erich Fromm already told us back in the days that's just stupid infatuation whereas being in love, i.e. love not as a feeling but as something you actively do, is more important.

 

[{ Emilia }]

yes
no
yes


Can't complain.

 

[Amaris]

I am sure most of us know what it is like to fall deeply in love with someone for the first time. I am also sure some of us have lost those people. Three questions:
1. Do you remember what is was like?
2. Do you remember what is was like to try to get over that person once you lost them.
3. Are you still with that person?

[1] Oh, yes, I remember what it was like. It's the kind of feeling you never really forget.

[2] It was soul crushing, and very heartbreaking.

[3] Nope. We parted ways more than a decade ago.

 

[Kenbushway]

yes
no
yes


Can't complain.

Looks like you are one of the lucky ones on this thread.

 

[Kestra]

Yes, yes, and no. Finding your next love is a great way to get over the first.

 

[Kemaiku]

Yes, yes, and no. Finding your next love is a great way to get over the first.

Not when that one turns out the same. Really doubt I could go through it a third time.

 

[Mr Silver]

I don't really know what non-unconditional love is, but I think the concept of first love as being THE love is bullshit. From what I understand, many people will eventually find a life partner and for most of them, their life partner will become the person they love the most (excluding family and offspring of course, which comes under unconditional).

Of course some people will fall head over heels in love with one person, break it off with them and never quite love anybody else as much as they loved that person for the rest of their life.

 

[Kestra]

Yes, yes, and no. Finding your next love is a great way to get over the first.

Not when that one turns out the same. Really doubt I could go through it a third time.

Steph?

I was still in love with my first boyfriend when I got with my second, but it made the whole process less painful. But that was ages ago and I'm ANCIENT now.

 

[Alrik]

[1] Oh, yes, I remember what it was like. It's the kind of feeling you never really forget.

This

[2] It was soul crushing, and very heartbreaking.

and this.

[3] Over time I finally got over it and moved on. Oddly enough over the years, any time we have found our selves at the same place there isn't a feeling of awkwardness, but instead a feeling of deep friendship and a genuine concern for the other's happiness.

 

[Kemaiku]

If you're ancient then what am I at 27? I guess I just want a rest from relationships for another good while.

 

[captcalhoun]

i've only really been in love with one woman, but not deeply in love with her. hell, i'm not even completely sure i was in love with her or whether it's just an outrageously long infatuation i've still not got over after 15 years.

but i still care about her, wish we'd got together and wonder how she is when i don't see her posts on FB for a while and yes, even fantasise about her (sorry, TMI) but she's married, happy and got a kid, so that ship's not only sailed, it's also made port in another harbour on another continent and i've never fallen for anyone else since.

 

[Kestra]

If you're ancient then what am I at 27? I guess I just want a rest from relationships for another good while.

You know I'm older than you, right?

 

[Kemaiku]

If you're ancient then what am I at 27? I guess I just want a rest from relationships for another good while.

You know I'm older than you, right?

Oh, for some reason I thought you were younger.

 

[Kestra]

If you're ancient then what am I at 27? I guess I just want a rest from relationships for another good while.

You know I'm older than you, right?

Oh, for some reason I thought you were younger.

I'm going to be 29 on the 16th.

 

[Kenbushway]

You know I'm older than you, right?

Oh, for some reason I thought you were younger.

I'm going to be 29 on the 16th.

That isn't ancient, your still a young person.

 

[Kestra]

Oh I know. I'm mostly just trying to remind people to send me presents (chocolate).

 

[Paulcpick]

What kind of chocolate do you prefer?

Yes
Yes
No

I am actually still close friends with mine, I never experienced the kind of pain that people before me have mentioned. We started out as close friends, a relationship formed, then it played out... I mean, don't get me wrong, I wasn't out there jumping for joy when it ended, but, it was the right decision at the right time.