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[Amaris]

Yeah, I ended up looking and it broke my heart.


J.

 

[melancholymecha]

what a cute dog he was, Im so sorry.

 

[Lookingglassman]

Re: F***, My dog is dead

He was so cute! That is a shame.

 

[apostle83]

Thanks guys. My gf has never read anything here. She really felt it was important to open his casket and prepare it a little so we could get closure. I didn't want to, but ut helped me. She has closure now even though we are both in shock.

 

[Amaris]

Thanks guys. My gf has never read anything here. She really felt it was important to open his casket and prepare it a little so we could get closure. I didn't want to, but ut helped me. She has closure now even though we are both in shock.

My deepest sympathies to you both, apostle.


J.

 

[apostle83]

That really sucks. The bitch who hit him should die.

At the very least she should lose her car.

Were you able to get a plate number at all?

No, I wasn't. I was trying to help Midnight.

When our cats (that we had for 16 years) died (a few months apart) just over a year ago, we had them cremated. My wife loves animals but her family never had pets when she was a child. These were her first and she was so distraught and didn't know how to handle their disposal. I figured the cremation method would be the most flexible. If, after a while, she could handle a memorial, I thought we could put out the containers with some pictures around them, or a little digital frame cycling through some files. If she could just never handle that, we could dispose of the containers. But we would have the time to determine what she really wanted.

She hasn't been able to look at the containers at all (they're in my bookcase), but she is ready to get another pet. She's decided the benefit outweighs the loss.

We are not looking to get another dog anytime soon. We have talked about it in the sense of who Midnight was and what we would want in another dog. His unique personality will be almost impossible to find in another dog. I'm worried about feeling disappointed in any other dog and just comparing them to Midnight. I don't know if I can love another dog again.

Oh Apostle, I'm so sorry. I've lost my share of beloved pets to accidents and old age.. They bring so much joy when they enter your world and so much pain when the leave it.

RIP, Midnight.

Thank you. I read your thread when T'Baio linked to it. I'm sorry for your attack. I'm glad you survived, alive.

Apostle, I was just out with my mom doing the weekly grocery shopping and I told her about this, and even she started to cry. She also sends you her condolences. All my best to you, man.

Tell her thank you. Other people feeling the same thing about him that I feel... helps. I can't explain why, but it does.

^ No, this is just how he's handling the grief. We all do it a little differently.
Now, I for one, won't look at the picture, because if I do, I will most likely break down and cry myself.

J.

I looked. I teared. It was tasteful and loving.

And you are not the only one.

Thank you. We really tried hard.

Yeah, I ended up looking and it broke my heart.


J.

what a cute dog he was, Im so sorry.

Yes, he was adorable. I wish I had more pictures and videos of him. I have a lot that are scattered. We're frantically trying to consolidate them so we can make a memory book.

He was so cute! That is a shame.

He was cute and intelligent. The perfect dog. I miss him so much.

As we buried him, it snowed in Memphis. That never happens. He loves snow. It snowed right after sweety got him last February. It was beautiful.

 

[Bears Discover Fire]

I understand totally about losing the 'perfect dog' and never finding another who compared. A lot of people view the loss of a pet and the acquisition of another one as a "replacement", but any loving pet owner knows that's not true at all.

I had to put down my cocker spaniel Lady in 2001. I cried for a week and barely functioned. She was so...humanlike in her disposition. She loved to play ball and her eyes would just sparkle while she chewed her tennis ball and made those happy-growly noises. I still tear up when I think of her because I miss her so much. She was my best childhood friend.

I have another dog I love unconditionally, but for very different reasons. She is a completely different personality than Lady, but I love her no less. When she goes, there will never be another Polly. There will never be another Lady, and for you, there will never be another Midnight. That's not necessarily a bad thing, though. It's an honor and a testament to your dog's vivaciousness and individuality.

It's cool if you don't think you can ever have a dog again. I can understand that too, especially when you've just lost a beloved pet in such a sudden way. If you do decide you want another dog, it won't be because you're replacing Midnight or treating him like a disposable or interchangeable object. You experienced the joys of owning a dog and giving it a fine home. If you do ever decide on another dog, think of what an honor to Midnight's memory it will be to share that joy and privilege with another animal.

 

[Amaris]

We got Dallie (a black lab mix) when she was a stray, more than 14 years ago. We took her in and she has given us joy every day of our lives. I dread the day she is gone, and I tear up even now just thinking about it. I want her to live a very long time.

J.

 

[apostle83]

You know, at Wordforge they're accusing me of making this whole thing up. :'(

I wish I could wake up from this and it be a bad dream.

I'm sorry I keep talking about this. I know others will tire of it soon.

 

[Amaris]

You know, at Wordforge they're accusing me of making this whole thing up. :'(

I know. Sometimes I lurk over there to see if things are any better than when I left.
I saw the responses in the Red Room and aside from very few, it was deplorable, particularly by a specific person whom I did respect greatly at one time, but no more. I'm glad I left.

I wish I could wake up from this and it be a bad dream.

I'm sorry I keep talking about this. I know others will tire of it soon.

Hey, our pets are like family members. We love them, take care of them, try to do right by them, and they love us in return.


J.

 

[apostle83]

Yes, they do love us in return. I went home yesterday afternoon because I was planning to be at the office late, after everyone got off of the network. I took a nap. Midnight laid right next to me chewing his bone. Then after a while, he hopped up on my belly and took a nap there, in a little ball. That was the last time he will take a nap on my belly. It hurts to just think about it.

 

[Amaris]

Yes, they do love us in return. I went home yesterday afternoon because I was planning to be at the office late, after everyone got off of the network. I took a nap. Midnight laid right next to me chewing his bone. Then after a while, he hopped up on my belly and took a nap there, in a little ball. That was the last time he will take a nap on my belly. It hurts to just think about it.

Most of that pain will start to turn into warm memories, and they'll be fondly remembered instead of painfully so. Time heals all wounds.

J.

 

[JAG]

I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Rincewiend]

You know, at Wordforge they're accusing me of making this whole thing up. :'(

I know. Sometimes I lurk over there to see if things are any better than when I left.
I saw the responses in the Red Room and aside from very few, it was deplorable, particularly by a specific person whom I did respect greatly at one time, but no more. I'm glad I left.

J.

Yeah, even i went at Elwoods response...

I can understand Mewa's response since apostle has been harrasing him from pretty much the get-go, but Elwood really suprised me and a lot of others...

 

[apostle83]

Yes, they do love us in return. I went home yesterday afternoon because I was planning to be at the office late, after everyone got off of the network. I took a nap. Midnight laid right next to me chewing his bone. Then after a while, he hopped up on my belly and took a nap there, in a little ball. That was the last time he will take a nap on my belly. It hurts to just think about it.

Most of that pain will start to turn into warm memories, and they'll be fondly remembered instead of painfully so. Time heals all wounds.

J.

Yes. Last night I had great dreams of good imes with him.

I am sorry for your loss.

Thank you.

You know, at Wordforge they're accusing me of making this whole thing up. :'(

I know. Sometimes I lurk over there to see if things are any better than when I left.
I saw the responses in the Red Room and aside from very few, it was deplorable, particularly by a specific person whom I did respect greatly at one time, but no more. I'm glad I left.

J.

Yeah, even i went at Elwoods response...

I can understand Mewa's response since apostle has been harrasing him from pretty much the get-go, but Elwood really suprised me and a lot of others...

I for bone was shocked. I assume alcohol was involved.

 

[apostle83]

Is there anyone here who would be interested in the funeral video? I think it would make me feel better to post it.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

I'm sorry I keep talking about this. I know others will tire of it soon.

Tell them to shut up. You're processing your grief.

And I think he looks really sweet and at rest.

 

[Scout101]

I'm not sure the video would really be of interest to me, someone else may have a different take. I'd prefer to see pictures of him still alive than more of the morbid ones, sets a better memorial tone.

To be honest, I clicked the link to the picture in the box/casket, and it was a little graphic. It was done up nicely, and I'm sure he'd have appreciated the toys, the bone, and loving nature of the whole thing, but seeing some of the damage in that picture, as well as the stains on the box, was hard.

Sorry for your loss...

 

[apostle83]

Scout, let me say that I have truly appreciate the way you have set aside our past bickering and been nice in this thread.

 

[T J]

Re: F***, My dog is dead

Saddest thread of 2009!

While this is very sad and apostle has my condolences, let's have a little perspective;

http://www.trekbbs.com/showthread.php?t=84005

No. That one is more appalling and anger provoking.